Faith issues

Um Ibrahim

Alhamdulilah :)
:salam2:

:jazaak: for the replies, I've read all of them but still nothing is sinking in.

Practising Islam is becoming too hard for me to keep up, so that's why I'm asking if a person just follows all the pillars of Islam and stays away from kabira sins would that be sufficient to be a good Muslim in God's Eyes?

:wasalam:

Sis please just calm down and really think about what you are considering. Seek Allah's protection first then really think carefully about what it is you're considering. When you carefully think about giving up the most beautiful blessing that Allah has given you, you will snap out of all of this sadness.

This is all shaytan's tricks that are confusing you. Do you think shaytan will stop? Now the shaytan suggests to you to only do the five pillars and that's it. But then in a little while he will tell you, oh you know what praying FIVE TIMES is just too much, just pray only three or four and then during Ramadan you will say to yourself, it's too hard to fast for so many hours...and so on and so forth until you give up Islam altogether. Is that what you really want?! Subhanalaah sister, fear Allah, seek His protection and think about what you're even considering. Allah CHOSE YOU when he guided you; Why then would you want to obey Shaytan and disobey your Lord. Keep your Hijab, pray your salaat on time, read the Quran and if you can find Muslim friends, hang out with your Muslim friends and spend time learning the religion.

And I just want to say this to you: you are going through all of this because you are a good person! Shaytan only bothers and tries to lead astray those who are good so don't given into shaytan. Be strong! Be strong! Be strong!!!
 

MuslimShadow

Junior Member
:salam2:

:jazaak: for the replies, I've read all of them but still nothing is sinking in.

Practising Islam is becoming too hard for me to keep up, so that's why I'm asking if a person just follows all the pillars of Islam and stays away from kabira sins would that be sufficient to be a good Muslim in God's Eyes?


Assalamu alaikum warahmatullah

It's like betraying the trust of ALLAH.....
He gave you the strength to be a good muslimah and now you are backing off...
 

Asja

Pearl of Islaam
Assalamu allaicum wa rahmatulah wa barakatuhu

Dear sister, I can understand how you feel because Alhamdulilah we all are passing trough that perioid, especially now when we are young. We see other Muslims who are aslo Muslims but are not practising Islam so much, but are also happy in thier lifes and are having everything good from Allah. But if we think well and feel deep from our hearts that they are not truly happy because they are missing so many beauties of Islam like sisters who are not wearing Hijab are missings its beauty and importance in Islam, or Muslims who are not praying Salah and fasting month of Ramadhan are missing true beauty of our Deen Islam.And on the end those who are so much far away from Allah, like those who do big sins are missing everything that is good on this World and Ahirah unless Allah guides them toward the right path, InshAllah. May Allah guide us all and keep us firm on the right path.Ameen.

As you said dear sister that you do not wish to wear Hijab,and not practise Islam so much because it is limiting you in your life, you should think well and ask yourselfe and think well what in Hijab and practise of Islam is limiting you. Alhmadulillah although we wear Hijab outside we can wear diffrent cloth in our homes, but Alhmadulilah there is no more beautiful cloth than our Hijab, because only this one piece of cloth it has so great value, because it is our ibadah to Allah and our Muslim identity,and it is keeping and protecting our honour and dignity. You should be gratefull to Allah sister because you can wear Hijab and on that way be protected Alhamdulillah, because I know many sisters who wish to wear Hijab and be cover for Allah, but their familes are not allowing them Astagfirullah although they are also Muslims.

Alhadmulillah we should be gratefull to Allah because we have been guided on the right path and because we are gifted with Islam, as today the most people are lost in thier lifes, some people are doing big sins Astagfirullah,some are not Muslims,and some do not belive at all in Allah ( Neuzibillahi) and are completely lost in this life.And we as Muslims are protected with Islam and we can never thank enough to our Rabb for guiding us toward the right path.

Allah subhanahu wa teala sais that He does not burden noone over his posssibilities as Allah sais: "Allah burdens not a person beyond his scope. He gets reward for that (good) which he has earned, and he is punished for that (evil) which he has earned. "Our Lord! Punish us not if we forget or fall into error, our Lord! Lay not on us a burden like that which You did lay on those before us (Jews and Christians); our Lord! Put not on us a burden greater than we have strength to bear. Pardon us and grant us Forgiveness. Have mercy on us. You are our Maula (Patron, Suppor-ter and Protector, etc.) and give us victory over the disbelieving people." ( Surah Al Baqarah, Ayah 286)

And Allah knows the best.

May Allah help you sister and may Allah help us all and never leave us without His Protection and Guidance.Ameen.

:wasalam:
 

Kakorot

Junior Member
:salam2:

:jazaak: for the responses.


I read your question and now I have one for you:

How can you follow all the pillars of Islam without actually practicing Islam?

Perhaps you should study what practicing the five pillars truly means.


I know what practising the five pillars mean, I've read into them in depth.

To me a practising person is someone who does their utmost to follow to Islam a-z and being steadfast in doing so.

And other than the five pillars, there are other obligations, e.g. the way we dress. I know girls who don't wear hijab but pray five times a day and I also know girls who wear full hijab but don't pray at all, so which one is practising Islam?
 

World Peace

Islam is Light
Asalam aleacom warahmato Allah wabarakato sister Kakorot

How are you? I hope you are fine. I have put up a few links and videos that in sha Allah you will find useful. I recommend you have a look, and reflect upon it. May Allah enlighten your heart and grant you Paradise.

Put your trust in Allah, Allah is with you, he will help you through. Life is full of trials and tests, these will be overcome by the will of Allah. It is important to remain strong in faith. You have been given a tremendous blessing, Islam. May Allah keep you on the straight path.

Grace, Faith and Works (The relationship between inner faith and good works in Islam)
http://www.islamreligion.com/articles/1165/viewall/

Worship in Islam
http://www.islamreligion.com/articles/222/viewall/

The Search for Inner Peace
http://www.islamreligion.com/articles/633/viewall/

Happiness in Islam
http://www.islamreligion.com/articles/435/viewall/

How Islam Deals With Sadness and Worry
http://www.islamreligion.com/articles/3516/viewall/

The Ideal Muslima (The True Islamic Personality of the
Muslim Woman)
http://thedeenshow.com/uploads/article/50fb53225dcc5949c61d981f36e8bb09_The%20Ideal%20Muslimah.pdf
 

World Peace

Islam is Light
Mahmoud Al Masry - Women Displaying Their Beauty
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World Peace

Islam is Light
Mahmoud Al Masry - Lacking Religious Commitment
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Mahmoud Al Masry - Bad Company
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How Islam deals with Peer Pressure
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ShahnazZ

Striving2BeAStranger
I know what practising the five pillars mean, I've read into them in depth.

Then you know that the very first pillar of Shahadah means belief in Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala and His Messenger :saw:. That includes everything that Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala has Commanded and everything that RasulAllah :saw: has insisted on.

Those include hijab.

To me a practising person is someone who does their utmost to follow to Islam a-z and being steadfast in doing so.

Absolutely. That's it 100%.

And other than the five pillars, there are other obligations, e.g. the way we dress. I know girls who don't wear hijab but pray five times a day and I also know girls who wear full hijab but don't pray at all, so which one is practising Islam?

Again, the way we dress and those other obligations that you mention are included in the five pillars. Shahadah doesn't simply mean saying La illaha illallah Muhammad ar-Rasullallah. Saying a simple statement means nothing if you don't BELIEVE in it. And belief fails to have true significance unless you ACT on it.

Those girls that you came across represent a FRACTION of the demographic. Granted, it's a large fraction but it's still JUST a fraction. Girls who wear full hijab and don't pray at all, in my opinion, didn't wear hijab for the right reasons to begin with and most likely have no idea why they're wearing it right now. Such individuals are confused now and will remain confused until they make the conscious decision to wake up. They have no idea how lucky and how blessed they are to have such a gift given to them by Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala and they take it for granted everyday.

I actually despise individuals like that because it makes the rest of us muhajabas who are actually aspiring to be closer to Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala through our hijabs look extremely bad. It's no wonder people like yourself start questioning their sincerity. And they will answer for that.

But please do not fall prey to their ignorance. Know that by wearing hijab you have taken a huge step in coming closer to Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala. There are sisters who want to wear hijab so badly but live in fear of doing so or simply don't have the strength. They look to women in hijab as role models and aspire to have that strength one day.

We go through our ups and downs and that's totally normal. But don't base your actions on what you're seeing around you. Remember, at the end of the day, when you're standing before Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala, all those people that you were so concerned about being like are going to be too busy asking for their own Mercy and Forgiveness. No one's going to answer for you or help you or even admit to having influenced you. They'll be too busy answering for themselves.

So those very girls that you're talking about? The ones that wore hijab and didn't pray are going to have to not only answer to Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala for living their lives as hypocrites but also for leading others astray. Don't be one of them.

Wearing hijab doesn't mean we automatically become perfect. Many people wrongfully assume that we believe ourselves to be perfect or better than others. No. We wear it because we want to take ONE step CLOSER to our Beloved Rabb.

As for the rest, we do our best. But no one is perfect and no one will ever be perfect. Just try to focus on taking as many steps as you can forward and not backward.

I think you've taken plenty of steps forward. But now you're looking behind you, thinking you want to take a few steps back. You'll do what you want in the end but just remember that it's better to move forward then to fall back. Our lives are too short and Judgment Day is near. Every second is precious and we can't afford to waste our time.

Especially while living under the influence of others.
 

samiha

---------
Staff member
Some very good replies here masha'Allaah.

I've got my 5 cents as well, but that's gonna have to wait a bit longer.


So save me a spot Chan and don't give up yet. May Allaah protect you and guide your heart back to what's best.
 

alf2

Islam is a way of life
Salaam alaykum dearest sister,

This is common with people no matter the religion. All I ask of you is PLEASE do not think that the life of Kufr is worth envying. I lived that live, and I thank allah swt for guiding me to Islam because I honestly dont know where I would be today, or even if I would be alive. I know the life is glamourized but there is nothing good. Drug use, teenage pregnancy or pregnant women who do not know who the father is, alcohol use leading to black outs or drunk driving, mixed groups that threaten rape..

You are not missing out on anything. Islam lets us have fun and enjoy this life, as long as we do so within reasonable limitations which were made to BENEFIT US.
 

serena77

Junior Member
i really have to agree w./ sister Alf .... me choosing this life was the best thing i could have done and living where i do i see so many who still follow the old ways... even though i didnt drink... wasn't dating... etc... its still not a life i would want to go back to.
Serena
 

Mairo

Maryama
Salaam alaykum dearest sister,

This is common with people no matter the religion. All I ask of you is PLEASE do not think that the life of Kufr is worth envying. I lived that live, and I thank allah swt for guiding me to Islam because I honestly dont know where I would be today, or even if I would be alive. I know the life is glamourized but there is nothing good. Drug use, teenage pregnancy or pregnant women who do not know who the father is, alcohol use leading to black outs or drunk driving, mixed groups that threaten rape..

You are not missing out on anything. Islam lets us have fun and enjoy this life, as long as we do so within reasonable limitations which were made to BENEFIT US.

Exactly true. I hope you will trust us on this point sister Kakorot. It does pain me to see so many others in the world seeking to emulate this lifestyle which in the end brings such emptiness and lack of true fulfillment. In particular, such a terrible thing to witness the disintigration of the family unit: so many divorces, so many relationships outside of marriage, so many people searching for happiness outside instead of inside the home . . . it is a really huge loss.
 

a_stranger

Junior Member
:salam2:

Thank you brothers and sisters for your replies , they refreshed my faith and showed me the love and mercy of Allah subhanahu wa taaala, I pray that Allah guide us to all that is truth. Dear sister Kakorot do'nt be in a hurry .....try to increase your Eman in Allah subhanahu wa taaala. When there is enough Eman :faith everything else will be easy.
 

Mairo

Maryama
:salam2:

:jazaak: for the responses.





I know what practising the five pillars mean, I've read into them in depth.

To me a practising person is someone who does their utmost to follow to Islam a-z and being steadfast in doing so.

And other than the five pillars, there are other obligations, e.g. the way we dress. I know girls who don't wear hijab but pray five times a day and I also know girls who wear full hijab but don't pray at all, so which one is practising Islam?

you may want to consider the following as well:

Narrated by Abu Hurraira:
The Messenger of Allah (swt) said, ‘Allah (swt) does not look at your appearance nor at your wealth but He looks at your Hearts and your deeds’ [Sahih Muslim: Book 32, Number 6221]

Abu Hurairah mentioned that people said to the Prophet, peace be upon him: “Messenger of Allah, a certain woman stands up for prayer at night and fasts during the day, and does many a good thing and gives money for charity, but she offends her neighbours with what she says.” He said: “She is not a good person. She is one of the people of the fire.” They said: “A certain woman prays only obligatory prayers and gives little for charity but she does not offend anyone. The Prophet said: “she is one of the people of heaven.” (Related by Ahmad, Al-Bukhari in Al-Adab Al-Mufrad and others).

:wasalam:
 

Seeking Allah's Mercy

Qul HuwaAllahu Ahud!
Asalamo`Alaykum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Baaraakaatuh,

I read this quite a while ago, and meant to reply but I decided I'll do it a lil later. I've been reading all these posts and been waiting for you to answer, but I can't find in your answers, that which is your problem. You made this thread, you ask for help or advice or whatever. But you are hiding the roots of your problem. What is making practising Islam so hard for you ukht? Is it anything even close to what Bilaal and Summaiyya (May Allaah be pleased with them) went through? Or anything to likes of what Babar and 'Afia are going through - May Allaah protect us and help them.

What is that you are missing because of your Hijaab and 'Abaya? No, May Allaah preserve you, I don't mean it that you post it here. Ask yourself? That's more important. What do you have and what are you missing, take a pen and a paper and write it down. I'll tell you know what you have because of, say Hijaab (to take the example you mentioned): 1) You have Allaah pleased, 2) You are acting like the blessed people of jannah, 3) You have your dignity preserved, 4) You have your Haya maintained, 5) You are not like an unwrapped chocolated lying and inviting on the street, 6) You guarantee that you are doing atleast one thing similar to the Sahabiyaat, 7)You are identified as the follower of the blessed Prophet Muhammad :saw: and believer in One Allaah with this, 8) have your parents' confidence, 9)You are acting upon atleast one thing that you recite in your prayers, 10)It also shows your prayers are valid enough and are being accepted because Allaah says in the Qur'aan:

"Verily, As-Salat (the prayer) prevents from Al-Fahsha (ie great sins of every kind, unlawful sexual intercourse, etc) and Al-Munkar (ie disbelief, polytheism, and every kind of evil wicked deed, etc) Surah al-Ankabut, 29:45

If you choose to do evil and bad stuff intentionally, thinking you'll keep up with the pillars. I'm afraid your pillars will not be standing upright because one of the most important of it - Salah - will not be showing it's effects. Which would mean your salah has a problem which also would imply that the act that differenciates you from a Kafir may as well not be in good health and quality to be accepted. If there is no difference between us and them, you know what'll happen? Anyway. . .

Now you write down the disadvantages of your hijaab against each of that and see how much you have and what you are missing.

You want to play with fire ukht? Play. It will not affect any of us for more than a second, a day, a week, a month or an year or two. I'm sorry to sound so offensive but this is the truth. I love you for the sake of Allaah and wish for you what I wish for myself. But changed places for a while. If I were to make a post saying I've decided to stop practising Islam except for the pillars - I seek refuge from Allaah - How much will it affect you? Reading my post will ache you heart, you may cry for a while over my poor thinking, you may pray, but for how long? Same goes for your family and friends IRL. They may cling along just a lil longer than us. What then?

It's always between us and Allaah only! This world we are living in, doesn't pay a damn to what we are and what we do. There are only two forces that are concerned. One: Allaah. And Two: Shaitan and his army, who damn cares after his job is done and we are strayed. Only Allaah cares for our well being and cares for what or where we may end up.

Allah tells us in the Qur'an : "Nay, but you give preference to this life of this world, while the Hereafter is better and more lasting" [87:16-17]

It's the Duniya, it'll pass and if we don't go by the book we regret, deeply. How about we make sure we pass through it without having regrets later. What if for a drop or two, you miss the ocean. The Prophet of Allaah :saw: said:

“The life of this world compared to the Hereafter is as if one of you were to put his finger in the ocean and take it out again then compare the water that remains on his finger to the water that remains in the ocean.” [Sahîh Muslim (2858)]

How much of your life is left anyway? A second, a minute three days, a year? What if you die when you intend not to do good. What if you die doing evil? You think you are missing something because your dress and act to prepare for an eternal happiness.

Today it's only about removing your hijaab, tommorrow it'll be leaving your prayers. If you let the minor black spot stick to your heart, it won't take long to grow into a major one. Unless Allaah wills that you do otherwise.

"By Al- 'Asr.

Verily man is at loss,

Except those who believe (in Islamic monotheism) and do righteous good deeds, and recommend one another to the truth (i.e order one another to perform all kinds of good deeds (Al-Mar'oof) which Allaah has ordained and abstain from all kinds of sins and evil deeds (Al - Munkar) which Allaah has forbidden), and recommend one another to patience (for the sufferings, harms and injuries, which one may encounter in Allaah's cause during preaching His religion of Islamic Monotheism or Jihad etc.)
[Surah Al-'Asr :1-3]
 

Aapa

Mirajmom
Assalaam walaikum,


We have increase of iman and we have decrease of iman.

And there is nothing wrong with what you are feeling. We have moments of doubt. We are human. Life is not a bed of roses and there are times when it is much easier not to wear hijab. It is a lot easier.

Are you missing out on anything. Yeah...fun. There is no denying it can be fun. Yes, the world of the kufr is almost an amusement park.

But, sister...you have not seen the dark side of the fun. There is a heavy price to pay for the world of the kufr.

PM me, please.
 

Mairo

Maryama
^good points. And part of why it is said the world is like a paradise for the disbeliever and a prison for the believer.
 

strive-may-i

Junior Member
:salam2:

I felt I did not understand it, but I think one sister has made it very clear.

Now the noise , can you list please? Whats are you missing out?? And why dont you ask the sisters here if they are missing out on the same things???

Walaikum Ssalaam,

And so you are made to think "you are missing out all that Jazz"?
And have you asked those particular thinking ones, who once lost in jazz and then disillusioned by it, Have you asked them if its really worth it, all that Jazz?

Reading your post again, i realized you have said it all. And what you have said is from deep within you, and there was some noise too. Let me extract whats deep within you - "You want to go to Jannah, you want to pray, you believe in submission to will of Allah, you want to experience Joy that Allah has ordained for you, you are all set and ready" ...........

Asalamo`Alaykum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Baaraakaatuh,

I read this quite a while ago, and meant to reply but I decided I'll do it a lil later. I've been reading all these posts and been waiting for you to answer, but I can't find in your answers, that which is your problem. You made this thread, you ask for help or advice or whatever. But you are hiding the roots of your problem. What is making practising Islam so hard for you ukht?....................
 

Kakorot

Junior Member
:salam2:

Sister Shanaz I get what you mean :jazaak: .

Jazakumullaahu khayran all for your advices, I've copied and pasted the posts and tried to take time to ponder on the messages, wallaahi I really appreciate it. My emaan is really low, and I just need to work on it.

Recently I've been around Muslim sisters I personally know who encourage me to stay on the straight path and they're helping me.

May Allaah keep us on the straight path no matter how hard it gets, ameen. Thank you all again. :)
 

ShahnazZ

Striving2BeAStranger
Wa iyyaki. Anytime and I'm proud of you.

We're all here for us whenever you need us and we all need that iman boost from time to time.

May Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala always keep yours preserved.
 
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