Help i need understanding of adoption

SAEG

New Member
Salam my brothers and sisters,
I am seeking truth and understanding about our guidance from Allah when it comes to the adoption of a child. I am single mother of two children born of wedlock. Acts of which I have prayed Allah to forgive me for even though I do not deserve his forgiveness for the sin of sex before marriage. These acts took place before I become Muslim and yet these acts eventually helped me to seek Allah and become closer to him and live my life in a way that would be right by Allah.
Sorry I became side tracked from my question but I thought it important to provide some background before asking my question. When it comes to adoption when I marry is my husband allowed to adopt my children? I know they will not take on his name for he is not there true father. I also know that is important that they are to know of there true fathers yet I read article that said when child is born from wedlock the child is complete cut away from the father meaning the child is to carry the mothers family name which my children do and have no connection with their biological father. This then makes them fatherless in the eyes of Islam correct. so then being fatherless would it be right for my husband or okay for my husband to adopt my children, even though I know they would still keep my families last name could he adopt them and it not be against Islam?
Please help or send me sight to go to and to learn more for right now I am in true need of truth in this matter as well as a better understanding. Inshaa Allah all that you share with me will help.

Shannon
 

BintMuhammad

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Sorry sis, this is the closest I can find.

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An illegitimate daughter is asking, Whose daughter am I?

I'm an illegitimate child. I was conceived before my mother became Muslim. She became Muslim a few days before my birth. My parents married when I was 10 months old. My parents got divorced 2 years ago, after I disclosed sexual abuse by him. I have used my father's name since I was born and he has always accepted paternity of me. Do I need to change my name to my mother's name? I am 14 year old and have five siblings, all with my father's name. I read the answers on this site and all seemed to say that I should, but one answer by Shaykh 'Abd-Allah ibn Jibreen seemed to say the opposite. (Question Reference Number 5967) He stated that if the father accepts paternity, it is permissible to retain his name. Please clarify this issue for me.


Praise be to Allaah.

Firstly: we confirm that the illegitimate child has nothing to do with his parents’ crime, and that he has all the same rights as any other Muslim, male or female. He must also fear Allaah so that he may become one of the people of Paradise with whom Allaah is pleased.

Secondly: the scholars differed as to whether or not the child may be attributed to his adulterous father, if the woman was not married.

What that means is: if the woman was married and had a child six months after being married, then the child should be attributed to the father, and he cannot deny the child unless he divorces his wife by means of li’aan. If a man claims that he committed zina with this woman and that this is his illegitimate child, no attention should be paid to him, according to scholarly consensus, because the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said, “The child is to be attributed to the husband and the adulterer deserves nothing.” Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 2053; Muslim, 1457.

Ibn Qudaamah said: “The scholars were unanimously agreed that if a child is born to one man’s wife, and another man claims it is his child, the child is not to be attributed to the latter. The difference of opinion arises when a child is born outside of marriage.”

If the woman is not married, and she has a child as a result of zina, and the zaani (adulterer, man who committed zina) claims it is his child, should the child be attributed to him or not?

The majority of scholars are of the view that the child should not be attributed to him.

It was narrated from al-Hasan, Ibn Sireen, ‘Urwah, al-Nakha’i, Ishaaq and Sulaymaan ibn Yassaar that the child should be attributed to him.

This was also the view favoured by Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyah (may Allaah have mercy on him).

Ibn Qudaamah also narrated this view from Abu Haneefah. He said: “ ‘Ali ibn ‘Aasim narrated that Abu Haneefah said: If a man commits zina with a woman and she gets pregnant from him, I do not see anything wrong with him marrying her even though she is pregnant, so as to conceal her (sin), and the child will be his child.” (al-Mughni, 9/122).

Ibn Muflih (may Allaah have mercy on him) said: Our shaykh [Ibn Taymiyah] favoured the view that a man may attribute to himself a child who is the result of zina with an unmarried woman. al-Furoo’, 6/625

Ibn Qudaamah (may Allaah have mercy on him) said: The illegitimate child should not be attributed to the zaani according to the majority of scholars, but al-Hasan and Ibn Sireen said: he may be attributed to the zaani if the hadd punishment has been carried out on him, and he may inherit from him. Ibraaheem said: He may be attributed to him if the hadd punishment of flogging has been carried out, or if he becomes the owner of the woman with whom he had intercourse. Ishaaq said: He may be attributed to him, and he quoted something similar from ‘Urwah and Sulaymaan ibn Yassaar.

Shaykh al-Islam (Ibn Taymiyah) said: There are also two views among the scholars concerning the zaani claiming the child as his if the woman is not married. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “The child is to be attributed to the husband and the adulterer deserves nothing.” So he said that the child belongs to the husband, not the zaani. But if the woman is not married then this hadeeth is not applicable. ‘Umar attributed children born in the jaahiliyyah to their fathers, but this is not the place to discuss this issue in detail.

Al-Fataawa al-Kubra, 3/178

The majority of scholars quoted as evidence that the illegitimate child should not be attributed to the zaani the hadeeth narrated by Ahmad (7002), Abu Dawood (2265) and Ibn Maajah (2746) from ‘Amr ibn Shu’ayb from his father from his grandfather who said: “The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) ruled that whoever is born to a slave woman who was not owned by his father, or (was born to) a free woman with whom (the father) committed zina, then he cannot be attributed to him nor can he inherit, even if the one to whom he is attributed claims him as a son. He is the child of fornication whether his mother was a free woman or a slave.”

This hadeeth was classed as hasan by al-Albaani in Saheeh Abi Dawood, and by al-Arna’oot in Tahqeeq al-Musnad. It was quoted as evidence by Ibn Muflih to support the view of the majority.

The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) ruled that the illegitimate child should not be attributed to the zaani and could not inherit from him, even if the zaani claimed him as his child.

Undoubtedly attributing the child to a particular person is a serious matter on which many rulings of sharee’ah depend, such as matters of inheritance, who is forbidden for marriage (mahrams) and who are his relatives.

The point is that the fatwa which says that the illegitimate child should not be attributed to the zaani is in accordance with the view of the majority of scholars.

With regard to Shaykh Ibn Jibreen (may Allaah preserve him), perhaps he based his view on the other scholarly view which we have mentioned above.

Based on the view of the majority, the illegitimate child – whether male or female – should not be attributed to the zaani, and should not be described as his child. Rather he should be attributed to his mother; he is a mahram for her and may inherit from her like all her other children.

Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen (may Allaah have mercy on him) said: “With regard to the child who is born as a result of zina, he is the child of his mother, not of his father, because of the general meaning of the hadeeth in which the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: ‘The child is to be attributed to the husband and the adulterer deserves nothing’ – i.e., this is not his child. This is what the hadeeth means. If the man marries her after repenting, then the child has been conceived before marriage and repentance and is not his child; he cannot inherit from the man who committed zina even if he claims him as his child, because he is not his legitimate child.”

From Fataawa Islamiyyah, 3/370.

In Fataawa al-Shaykh Muhammad ibn Ibraaheem (11/146) it says: The child who is created from the sperm of the zaani cannot be called the child of the zaani.

And Allaah knows best.


Islam Q&A
 

amjaddamen

brother
dear sister :
when islam forbid adoption he gave better solutions.
for your husband to take care of your child is avery good deed in islam and he will be rewarded on that if this what you mean in your question .
the bad side of adoption will lead to the mingle of unreal brothers and sisters , and will lead to unjustice distribution of wealth after father dies .
if this answered your question i'll send the hadeeth of prophet about it.
by the way , if there is conflict between parents on the child, the good above post of sister bintmuhaamed is about that mainly .
 

amjaddamen

brother

dear sister :
I been reading about this issue ,offcourse in Arabic , and I found these facts from fatwas :
1 )child born from wedlock has no fault at all in being so.
2) he should be named after his mother.
3 ) if his mother is muslim then he is muslim.
4 ) he has all the rights as the rest of all muslims .
5 ) who find child in this situation , he should either turn him in to orphan
center or raise him by him self ,or give him to some one who can raise him .
6 ) he inherits his mother .
7 ) this child is not orphan in islam rulins , but he treated as orphan , and the one who takes care of him and raise him has the reward of orphan custodian .( which is very very reward able )
8)if an child born from wedlock is neglected in society , all the muslims in society are sinned .

if you need the fatwas , I'll send them in Arabic.
All the best
 
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