Help. What's wrong with me?

[Sakeena]

Asalam alaikum brothers and sisters. I pray you are in good health and Iman.

I am mentally underdeveloped. I dunno what else to say. I just wnt to be normal…

 

[Murad206]

Assalam Alaikum, what do you mean? How can we help you?

 

[Sakeena]

Walaikum asalam. I'll explain more later InshaAllah.

Assalam Alaikum, what do you mean? How can we help you?

 

[Murad206]

Walaikum Assallam wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuhu ok insha'Allah :].

 

[Sakeena]

Walaikum asalam brother. Oky. I'm back. I had to pray Maghrib. Anywy. Well, mentally underdeveloped. I'm years behind my age....that's what it is. I'm not ure what I want. I want answers. I feel confused.....I dunno..

Walaikum Assallam wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuhu ok insha'Allah :].

 

[a_stranger]

:salam2:

Dear sister through your posts , i feel you have a very tender heart, fulled with iman and love for Allah subhanahu wa taaala, a beautiful personality, a reasonable logic, ........you are clever enough to understand the purpose of our being, smart enough to do your duties towards your creator .........why you say so? I don't feel that at all when reading your post. Try your best in your studies ......I am sure things will be better.

 

[a_stranger]

People are of different levels of mentality. Not all of us genius .

 

[Sakeena]

First off, thank you so much for your kind words. But I can't remember the most basic algebra, or remember to do things around the house. Its just so much nand I dunno if I can explain this whole situation in one noght. I wish I could explain it but... I fee like somewhere in my childhood my mom made a terrible mistake by giving me those memory enhancing meds....they did more harm that good, and it shows on my results. Smh... its like I have symptoms of altzheimer's...

:salam2:

Dear sister through your posts , i feel you have a very tender heart, fulled with iman and love for Allah subhanahu wa taaala, a beautiful personality, a reasonable logic, ........you are clever enough to understand the purpose of our being, smart enough to do your duties towards your creator .........why you say so? I don't feel that at all when reading your post. Try your best in your studies ......I am sure things will be better.

 

[Itqan Ullah]

Asalam alaikum brothers and sisters. I pray you are in good health and Iman.

I am mentally underdeveloped. I dunno what else to say. I just wnt to be normal…

Walikeumasslamwarhamtullahi wabrakatu,

Sister, Maturity of Ideas is not something you can buy from shop, It comes with time for some it takes more than others, plz don't take things pessimistically.

As for help:

Step 1:
Listen:

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Read this real story of a girl from my country:

"Winds of Islam" -:- Interview of a Newly Reverted Muslim, Abdullah (Old Name: Deep Chand Aheer).

y Maulana Ahmad Awwah Nadvi {A convert girl Hira was burnt alive by her father and Uncle for embracing Islam. She raising her hands towards the sky amidst the burning fire screamed "Oh My Allah! Thou are watching me (surely), Thee love me, Thy servant Hira. Yes my Allah! Thou loved the caves of Hira and also this burning Hira too. After getting Thy love I do not care for anything.}



AHMED AWWAH: Assalamoalaikum wa-rehmatullahi wa-barakatuhu.

ABDULLAH (NEW MUSLIM): Walekum Assalam wa-rehmatullahi wa-barakatuhu.



AHMED AWWAH: Abdullah Bhai! You know a monthly magazine "Armughan" is published at Phulat. There has been an ongoing series of interviews of the people who have embraced ISLAM in it. I want to put certain questions to you in this respect.

ABDULLAH (NEW MUSLIM): Ahmed Bhai (wiping his tears) why do you want to pollute the pages of this sacred magazine by publishing affairs of a cruel and villain person like me.



AHMED AWWAH: Oh no Abdullah Bhai! Abbi (my father Maulana Kaleem Siddiqui) desires to get your interview published because your life presents a unique symbol of Allah's omnipotence.

ABDULLAH (NEW MUSLIM): May Allah blesses your father with long life, I regard myself his slave and therefore bow before his command and I am ready to answer your questions.



AHMED AWWAH: Will you please introduce yourself?

ABDULLAH (NEW MUSLIM): My real introduction is that I am the most cruel and worst type of human being, resembling a beast.



AHMED AWWAH: It is only a sentimental introduction. Tell something about yourself and your family.

ABDULLAH (NEW MUSLIM): I was born in an Ahir (cowherd men) caste family in a Rajput Muslim majority village Budhana of district Muzaffar Nagar 42 or 43 years ago. My family was staunch Hindu and engaged in criminal activities. My father and Uncle commanded a gang of dacoits and committed all sorts of evil acts. In 1987 Meerut riots I along with my father and relatives slaughtered about 25 Muslims. Then I joined the Bajrang-Dal because I hated Muslims. In connection with Babri Masjid demolition I killed many Muslims in Shamli and Budhana. I shot a notorious Muslims gangster and then I committed a most heinous and barbaric act never seen by anyone in this world. (He started weeping and continued it for some time.)



AHMED AWWAH: Now tell me how you came in fold of Islam.

ABDULLAH (NEW MUSLIM): There is Surah named Al-Burooj in the 30th para (section) of the Holy Qur'an. Allah has told a story of people who were destroyed, and killed in ditch of fire. Probably it refers to me. Please recite the Arabic text about their destruction in ditches of fire.



AHMED AWWAH: Qutila a-[ha]bu alukhdood(i(.A(l)nn[a]ri [tha]ti alwaqood(i(. I[th] hum AAalayh[a] quAAood (un( بِسْمِ الله الرَّحْمَنِ الرَّحِيمِ 085.004 قُتِلَ أَصْحَابُ الأخْدُودِ 085.005 النَّارِ ذَاتِ الْوَقُودِ 085.006 إِذْ هُمْ عَلَيْهَا قُعُودٌ



Al-Qur'an, 085:004-006 (Al-Burooj [The Zodiacal Signs, The Constellations])

ABDULLAH (NEW MUSLIM): What would be Arabic translation of the phrase "Mercy was bestowed on person inflicted with fire?



AHMED AWWAH: Raham Ashabal Ukhdu

ABDULLAH (NEW MUSLIM): Yes if this verse is referred to me, it would have been so, Raham Ashabal Ukhdu …



AHMED AWWAH: Now proceed further.

ABDULLAH (NEW MUSLIM): My brother how can I tell you that my stone like heart and mouth do not allow me to recite that event.



AHMED AWWAH: Even then please tell it so that others may take lesson.

ABDULLAH (NEW MUSLIM): Certainly, my embracing Islam can raise new hopes for such persons. When the All-Merciful Lord Allah (Arhamar-rahimin) can bestow His blessing on a person like me, then others should not give up hope of getting His mercy. Listen, Ahmed Bhai! I had an elder brother and we two brothers loved each other profoundly and committed all sorts of crimes and cruelty together. I had no issues, but my brother had two daughters and two sons. His eldest daughter was Hira. She was highly sentimental and either loved or hated someone just like a mad person. Some times we thought that she was under some evil spirit and consulted some exorcists also. But there was no change in her. She studied up to 8th class and then without permission of her elders filled High school examination form. She worked in fields to pay fees and cost of the books. She used to go to a Brahmin's family in neighbourhood for getting tuitions from his daughter. The Brahmin's son was a ruffian. He seduced her and eloped with her to a gang of criminals living in a jungle near Baraut. Hira was upset because of fear of losing her honour and resultant infamy of her parents and used to weep. One day a Muslim boy from Idreespur who was also member of the same gang saw her weeping and enquired the reason. She confessed to him her folly and told her apprehensions. The Muslim guy felt pity for her and declared that as a Muslim he would always treat her as his sister and would protect her honour. He also promised to take her out of the clutches of the gang. He suggested to his associates that the girl had ample talents to serve the gang and that she should be dressed like males. The suggestion was approved and she used to wear male dresses. The Muslim boy kept his promise and in the night took special care to protect her. On the members of gang became lenient towards her. One day he managed to send Hira to his house in Idreespur and told his younger brother to go to jungle and inform the gang member that people of Baraut had handed the girl on some suspicions to the police. Accordingly, his brother came to the jungle and informed the gangstets. Then he asked him to send Hira to the police station in Baraut and narrate her story to police. A FIR about Hira’s elopement was already lodged there. The lady police of Budhana came to Baraut and took Hira to our house. We accepted her but were in fix how to keep girl of loose morals. Hira told us that gang abducted her but she had not lost her chastity. At first we didn't believe her but at the suggestion of an educated relative we got her medical examination at Budhana Hospital. Doctor gave her a clean chit and we brought her back to home. She used to speak highly of that Muslim boy and praised Muslims. One day I saw some religious books in Urdu given to her by Muslim neighbours. I beat her mercilessly and threatened to kill her if she brought such books again in the house. But she was under spell of Islam and her heart had accepted the new faith. She went to a local Maulana with a Muslim school girl and embraced Islam. She learnt how to pray and used to say it secretly. A great change took place in her and instead of looking cheerful lass she looked sad and desperate. One day she left the home and went to Maulana’s house at Phulat. Ahmed Bhai I think she stayed for some days in your house also.



AHMED AWWAH: Oh Yes, Yes! Hira Baji! Where is she? All of us are concerned about her welfare. She is a very nice lady. It is a surprise that you are her Uncle.

ABDULLAH (NEW MUSLIM): Yes Ahmed Bhai! She was named Hira by your father. But the cruel & tyrant killer uncle of the fair child is standing before you. (He starts crying.)



AHMED AWWAH: Tell me where is Hira Baji?

ABDULLAH (NEW MUSLIM): Brother I'm going to tell you the account of my barbaric act of tyranny. As you know Maulana Saheb sent her to his sister's house at Delhi. There she got homely treatment from your aunt and mother. One night she dreamt that her mother had expired. She got up crying and requested Maulana Saheb to allow her to go to her home. But your family members discouraged her from going home and told her that her elder's would kill her. When she pressed very hard, Maulana Saheb allowed her to go and told her to invite her family members to embrace Islam and escape fire of hell. But Hira told him that they would never become Muslim because they hated Islam. Maulana Saheb asked her to pray for success of her mission. He told her that even if they killed her, she would get instant admission into paradise and her martyrdom would be beneficial for the whole family. Maulana Saheb told her to say two rakats of salah and pray to Allah and then leave for Budhana. Hira acted on his advice and came to our house. I beat her with shoes and kicked her. She informed us about her embracing Islam and asserted that no one could stop her from living as a Muslim. Her mother died after two month and she asked us to get her buried through local Muslims because she had recited Kalma before her. But how could we accept this proposal. We burnt her on a pyre. In order to check constant tension in the house we sent her to her maternal uncle's house at Meerut. But after some time he sent her back as he could not tolerate her Then I consulted some Bajrang Dal worker's. They advised me to kill her. I dug a five feet deep pit on the bank of a river. Her father and I myself took her on the pretext of going to her aunt's residence. She took bath, wore new clothes and offered prayers before coming with us. When we turned towards river, she laughed and asked to her father if he was taking to her aunt's house or to her bridegroom's house. (Cries for long)



AHMED AWWAH: (After giving him some water) Please complete your narrative.

ABDULLAH (NEW MUSLIM): How could do I? I had 5 liters of petrol in my bag. We reached the pit and then her cruel beast like uncle pushed the fair child in the pit and said how she would save us from fire, as she is going to taste Hell fire first. I poured petrol on her and lighted match stick. (Sobs uncontrollably) My brother felt remorse and wanted to take her out. This enraged me and I dragged my brother and left the place. My brother asked me to try once more to persuade her to retrace her steps. But this added to my anger. The fire caught her new clothes. She cried, "Oh My Allah Thou is seeing me. My Allah that loves me, Thou loved the cave of Hira and also loves Hira burning in this pit. I do not care anything after Thine love." Then she called her father loudly and said "Father do embrace Islam Uncle you also become Muslim.While returning we heard loud chanting of "LA ILAAHA ILLALLAH" from inside the pit. These words purred into my callous heart. On return my brother fell ill and this shock took away his life. Two days before his death, he called me and said, "Whatever we did in the life cannot be rectified; now I could not die in peace till I embrace the religion of Hira. Please bring some Maulana to me." I collapsed to see my brother's condition. Then I went out and fetched the Imam of our local mosque. My brother asked him to make him recite Kalma. Then he recited the Kalma and declared his name as "Abdur Rehman". Then he asked me to bury him as per Muslim rites. It was very difficult for me but in order to obey his last desire I took him to Delhi Hospital where he died. Then I approached a doctor at Hamdard Dawakhana who arranged his burial with the help of some Muslim residents of Sangam Vihar.



AHMED AWWAH: This is quite strange. But you did not tell about your embracing Islam.

ABDULLAH (NEW MUSLIM): I am telling you just now. My enmity to Islam had receded but I was sad to see my brother die as a Muslim. I was convinced that his wife would have also become a Muslim. I felt that some Muslim has cost some spell round our house and therefore, my family members were leaving ancestoral religion one by one. I consulted some Tantriks. One day I was going to Oon on a bus owned and driven by a Muslim. A Qawwali tape was on reciting the story of Prophet Muhammad's (PBUH) service to an old lady who later on became a Muslim. This Qawwali changed my heart and I thought that the story of this Prophet was really true. I got down at Jhinjhana and set out for Shamli to get some information about Islam. In the bus for Shamli a speech by Qari Haneef Saheb of Pakistan about death and hereafter was being relayed in a recorded tape. In order to hear full speech I extended my journey up to Muzaffar Nagar. The speech brought me closer to Islam. On return journey to Budhana I asked a Maulana sitting by my side to help me in getting full information about Islam. He advised me to contact Maulana Muhammad Kaleem Siddiqui of Phulat. I headed for Phulat but Maulana was out and was expected the next day. So I stayed there and a teacher gave me a book written by Maulana Kaleem "Aapki Amanat Aapki Sewa Main" to read. The book and its contents touched my heart and I longed for becoming a Muslim. Next evening I meet Maulana Saheb and expressed my desire to embrace Islam. He became very happy and taught me to recite Kalma and gave me new name "Abdullah". This was 13th January 2000. I stayed with the Maulana Saheb in the night and narrated him the brutal story of my atrocities' & beastly conduct. The Maulana Saheb wept bitterly to hear about tragic death of Hira and told me that she had lived with his sister. He consoled me by saying that by embracing Islam Allah would forgive all my sins. But I remained dissatisfied and said how such barbarous and heinous crimes could be pardoned. The Maulana Saheb clarified "Embracing Islam gets one's previous sins pardoned". Since you have killed so many Muslims now you should try to save their lives and serve them. Holy Qur'an says that good deeds destroy sins. He advised me to serve Muslims in misery and try to save and protect their lives. Fortunately during Gujarat riots my Allah gave me ample opportunities to compensate for my black deeds. I went there and posed like a Hindu and saved a number of Muslims. I escorted them to places of safety. I used to attend the meetings of Violent Hindus and disclose their evil designs to Muslims and help them to move to safe places. You must have heard about miraculous escape of 400 Muslim children of a Madrasa at Bhaonagar from arson and brutal attack of Hindus. This was I who informed the police and then broke down the boundary wall of Madrasa so that the innocent boys could escape before the mob could arrive and put the Madrasa to fire. I rendered such services for about three months. But even then I was not sure that my sins could be condoned. Then Maulana Kaleem once again assured me that Allah can do so and that I should not give up hopes to get His blessing and mercy. He also advised me to join Tablighi Jamaat to get detailed information about Islam and Shariat. I asked him to give me two months to make necessary arrangement. I sold my property and lands in the village and shifted to Delhi. I went in Jamaat tours for the whole year and got my wife, nephews and nieces converted to Islam. But still my heart remains gloomy and sad about my ghastly acts of tyranny and cruelty. Maulana Kaleem Saheb asked me to recite Holy Qur'an specially surah Burooj (surah no. 85) and its translation repeatedly. What a graphic truth has been revealed fourteen hundred years before by all knowing Allah who knows future happenings. Ahmed Bhai if you read surah Burooj specially its verses 4 to 9 where it has been stated 085.004 قُتِلَ أَصْحَابُ الأخْدُودِ 085.005 النَّارِ ذَاتِ الْوَقُودِ 085.006 إِذْ هُمْ عَلَيْهَا قُعُودٌ 085.007 وَهُمْ عَلَى مَا يَفْعَلُونَ بِالْمُؤْمِنِينَ شُهُودٌ 085.008 وَمَا نَقَمُوا مِنْهُمْ إِلا أَنْ يُؤْمِنُوا بِاللَّهِ الْعَزِيزِ الْحَمِيدِ 085.009 الَّذِي لَهُ مُلْكُ السَّمَاوَاتِ وَالأرْضِ وَاللَّهُ عَلَى كُلِّ شَيْءٍ شَهِيدٌ Woe to the makers of the pit (of fire), Fire supplied (abundantly) with fuel: Behold! They sat over against the (fire), And they witnessed (all) that they were doing against the Believers. And they ill-treated them for no other reason than that they believed in Allah, Exalted in Power, Worthy of all Praise!- Him to Whom belongs the dominion of the heavens and the earth! And Allah is Witness to all things. Perish the fellows of the ditch of the fuel fed fire. When they sat by at it and were witness to what they did with the faithful. And they persecuted them for naught save that they believed in Allah the mighty the laudable; Him whose domain is the heavens and the earth. And Allah is witness over everything's." I still hear the echo of last words of Hira "Oh my Allah Thou is seeing me Thou loves me and also The Cave of Hira. I do not require anything else after thee. Then she called her father and said ‘Father do embrace Islam and Uncle you also become a Muslim. (He starts weeping and crying bitterly)



AHMED AWWAH: It is gratifying that you acted on her advice. You are very lucky that Allah changed the darkness of tyranny into light of Islam.

ABDULLAH (NEW MUSLIM): Yes Allah who loved Hira accepted her recommendation otherwise such a beastly tyrant like me could never get this blessing.



AHMED AWWAH: Thank you so much, Abdullah Bhai!

ABDULLAH (NEW MUSLIM): Ahmed Bhai, do pray or me that Allah enables me to do something to compensate for my deadly sins. I feel a bit relieved on my doings in Gujarat and get comfort from reading Qur'an. (Allah Hafiz. (May God keep you in His protective care.)



Armughan

Monthly Magzine

Step 2:
Thank Allah (swt) in whatever state you are.

Step 3:

Work more and worry less.

May Allah(swt) make your path easy.

 

[Murad206]

Bismillah-ir Rahman-ir Rahim. Assallam Alaikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh sister, ok masha'Allah.
Well maybe that's what you think. But everyone is developed differently with a different personality so maybe it's not concerning your intellect or underdevelopment but the way you look at life. For example when I look at the past and see what I was doing and saying it makes me think I was underdeveloped too. But now that I follow Sunnah and Qur'an it's like Allah Subhanau wa Ta'ala has blessed me with knowledge, not just for Islam but the whole way the world works, I can tell how the government brain wash's you from thing's they show in the television and who the fornicators and disbelievers are, so subhan'Allah thing's like this and I thank Allah Subhanau wa Ta'ala the Almighty for blessing me with this
because if I would of gone in another path I don't know where i would of ended up at.

 

[a_stranger]

:salam2:

Dear sister I have some advice it might help: when you do something try to concentrate ,don't thing of the following duty .......try to make a pure intention to please Allah subhanahu wa taaala then your family and others in what you do .......when you are in sugood make a lot of duaa.....remember we humans are very weak and foolish .....Allah is the one who supplies us with wisdom and knoweldge .

 

[slaveofAllah88]

aslam o aliakum wr wb,

ukhti i am not sure where what you are saying is coming from , but from all your conversation you seem like a well talented person, nothing seems to be wrong, and trust me u r too young to have Alzheimer, and usually if the brain is under-developed there are some sort of mental retardation (sorry just using medical term) involved and you have none of that.
All of us have problem concentrating and forgetting sometimes, just try ur best to focus on things more and also, its the era we are living in with tv and computer and all those things making us brain dead we tend to become very negligent.

thats all i can say, but if u r not satisfied there is a test we do in the hospital for patients who we feel like might have some problms and honestly i did just one this last saturday, and that you can tell when something is up; i could send you the link if you like but i honestly believe there will be alot of bias and u will end up just making urself believe in things.

Have faith in yourself and InshAllah everything is fine.

One thing with memory is trying associating it with things, lets say you forget Algebra, make it fun for urself, pretend x represents something and y somethng else make a story out of it, just change ur style of studying and things will flow alot better inshAllah

and one very important try to understand and memorize the Quran, it really opens us your memory and activates ur brain cells

walaikum salam wr wb

 

[MuslimShadow]

Assalamu alaikum sister,

you seems to have a colorful personality.& you cannot have Alzheimer 'coz it is only diagnosed in people over 60 years of age.so be cool.

 

[Ahsen]

I found a memory mastering program on internet and many people have testified that it works. I was thinking of posting it on this forum,but I am not sure if the admins will allow it.

If you guys want to find yourself search this on google "Phenomenal Memory by Ruslan"

Or "GMS memory"

 

[Aapa]

Assalaam walaikum,

Ain't nothing wrong with you. You have too much on your mind. Chillax. Make dua and everything will fall into place.
Make a list; organize yourself. Take time to discipline yourself.

 

[strive-may-i]

Are you ready, to feel developed?

:salam2:

if you conclude you are underdeveloped, then I must declare I have not developed at all! Thanks to all the books they stuffed in my head when I was small. Not much of it I can recollect. Whats a³ - b³???!!



Now If you can list the symptoms in you, the diagnosis of which, made you conclude you are underdeveloped, then I can give you placebos that would make you feel not developed at all... And once you are sure you are not developed at all and are hungry to be a bit more developed, the worries will vanish, because you have goals to chase.... So, my dear Sister, are you ready?

 

[Sakeena]

I guess....

:salam2:

if you conclude you are underdeveloped, then I must declare I have not developed at all! Thanks to all the books they stuffed in my head when I was small. Not much of it I can recollect. Whats a³ - b³???!!



Now If you can list the symptoms in you, the diagnosis of which, made you conclude you are underdeveloped, then I can give you placebos that would make you feel not developed at all... And once you are sure you are not developed at all and are hungry to be a bit more developed, the worries will vanish, because you have goals to chase.... So, my dear Sister, are you ready?

 

[strive-may-i]

So if a person does not recollect what he/she ate yesterday, does it mean he has Alzheimers? Of if a person tends to forget names of most people he/she meets, or has a tough time recollecting names, does it mean the person is underdeveloped? .... nah! Not all are born with horse memory.

Be confident. Set some goals, be focused and complete it on time. Dont compare with the best horse in the race, chances are you will trip, compete against your previous best. Trust all those who have replied before, you will become better. You will fair well, Insha Allah!

There were TTI-Thread on Time Management/procrastination some months back, I think you should read it again, adopt the tips and am sure you will see the benefits...

May Almighty Allah, The All-Knowing, give you presence of mind, in your daily affairs... Ameen!

 

[all4islam]

Assalam-e-alikum

sister people get mature when time comes.Thanks to Allah for what you have
you are Mashallah confident girl be patience..and relax yourself read Quran and pray

 

[kepadamukekasih]

:salam2:

Wait...algebra?!
Don't worry to much sister...I'm 36 years old and the last time I encounter algebra about 20years a go. I failed my Pure Mathematic, Physic & Chemistry subjects back in school (despite the fact most of my friends flew abroad to become doctors and engineers), i need to sit for my Statistic and taxation twice back in college. I don't remember colour of shirt that I wore yesterday. I seem have difficulties to remember where I park my car. It takes me three years to remember my own car registration number....but guess what :ma: I living a good life, successful in my career, able to manage almost 1,400 employees in my company that I work with.

My dear sister, ask guidance from Allah, he know best. Don't feel you are not special. Trust me everyone is unique and special in order for us to compliment each other because that is the beauty of Allah's creation.