How we should interact with Non-Muslims??

[Aapa]

Assalaam walaikum,

Our hearts are not drenched with hate for anyone. We try and try to show them the need to acknowledge and worship the Creator.

When there is no response we move away.

As for marriage with the Peoples of the Book...I have read/heard scholars of varying opinions. I believe you need to find out. I know some brothers who will not marry out of the faith. I know some brothers who have married sisters who reverted. I know some brothers who married women who did not convert. And all those are real. A woman does not have to revert but has to raise the children Muslim. I have seen that..leads to confusion for the children.

I find that it is important for me to spend time with my Muslim sisters. Time becomes peaceful. I would rather be in a halaka with the angels of Allah subhana wa taala making dua for me than be in a roomful of non-believers. But, that is just me.

 

[Um Ibrahim]

Brother Ershad and brother Kashif a BIG JAZAAKUMULAAHU KHEYRAN to you both. :mashallah: you both gave me exactly the explanation I needed, I'm not confused anymore. Thanks guys

 

[Hatty]

I also would like to thank brother Ershad and brother Kashif for their posts. I recommend that everyone read their posts.

I also would like to add that, we do not really feel hatred towards the non-Muslims, on the contrary we should feel sorry for them and we pray that may Allah guide them to His light....I normally feel sorry for them as they are lost and bewildered.

May Allah guide all of us and to die Muslims on tawheed....ameen.

 

[strive-may-i]

:salam2:

Now.. we cannot love kufr.

And yes we will also not act out of hate. Dislike should not become intense, thats hate. Hate is contagious. It can bring anger. Anger leads to injustice.

"How we should interact with non-muslims?"

“ O you who believe! Stand out firmly for Allah and be just witnesses and let not the enmity and hatred of others make you avoid justice. Be just: that is nearer to piety, and fear Allah. Verily, Allah is Well-Acquainted with what you do.” [Qur'an 5:8 ]​

 

[Aapa]

Assalaam walaikum,

Maybe just maybe we need to be tolerant of ourselves first.

 

[sister herb]

:salam2:

To me non-muslims are my sisters and brothers in humanity, some are better people than those whose have said shahada.

 

[MuslimShadow]

:salam2:

I don't like discussions where we just move in circles.........with no result.

One thing is clear we should be just and kind to non-believers.

Regarding friendship i'm still confused...I used to share lunch with a hindu girl in school....

 

[al-fajr]

*facepalm* - what is that? your palm in my face or your palm on your face???
Either way - is that a nice response??????

I have utmost respect for everyone here, i feel i know nothing compared to anyone and I would really like we could understand eachother's poiints...

So i do request you to take the time instead of *facepalming*

Wa-alaikum assalam

Okay since you've asked ..

A facepalm is exactly what it says on the tin ..! A face-palm, a couple of my favourites:

http://dobrochan.ru/src/jpg/1011/Lion_facepalm.jpg

http://fc00.deviantart.net/fs70/i/2010/157/0/3/Facepalm_by_soyrwoo.jpg

See? Even Lions sometimes have no other choice .. a roar wouldn't suffice in some cases, it has got to be a facepalm, they know it.

For this reason I declare the facepalm as an official statement of normal conversation and sufficiently capable of demonstrating a spectrum of unique emotions that need not be described precisely by an individual, in words (or by roaring ofcourse).

I used to share lunch with a hindu girl in school....

*gasp* ..

Say I offerred my non-Muslim colleague a polo mint sweet at work, really, this is no cause to repent..! Just because you shared some lunch doesn't mean you now love kufr and her shirk practises, obviously not. The polo mints don't mean that either ..nor do pear drops, werthers originals or strawberry sugar laces ..(I have a sweet tooth)

Sometimes, I find responses here quite cute to be entirely honest.

 

[um muhammad al-mahdi]

assalamu alaykum


The Prophet (sallallahu 'alayhi wa sallam) explained the matter of good companionship, so that no room is left for doubt or confusion, when he said: "A person is upon the Deen of his khaleel - close friend, so look to whom you befriend." [Abu Dawood and At-Tirmidhee]

The whole article is here mashaAllah: http://calgaryislam.com/articles/islaamic2/tazkiyah/122-good-companionship.html

I would like to add: can we just be simple? Can we simply follow the Qur'an and the Sunnah? Do we believe in them? Those Muslims (the Prophet sallAllahu 'alayhi wa sallam and his Companions radhiAllahu 'anhuma) went through all this BEFORE us, should we trust their ways? Should we believe that the manners they used (to deal with whoever wasn't a Muslim) and what they warned us against is true? I do believe so subhanaAllah! So let's be simple, slowly, let's try to apply them inshaAllah!

Yes, ok, I've read someone said that for 'reverts' is difficult. It's not difficult, it's all about accepting and loving the Tawheed, inshaAllah. When you REALLY understand the love for the sake of Allah, you start to undertand and 'feel' the limits between you and a non Muslim, alhamdulilllah. I'm not saying here that reverts should hate their non Muslim family or silly stuff like that! No no, I'm just advicing to be simple and apply the Sunnah! We should choose the best companionship among our Muslims brothers/sisters.. how can we even take into consideration non Muslims.. come on, let's not complicate our life. You don't get the tawheed? So make du'a to Allah, ask Him to put Tawheed in your heart and make you REALLY understand it inshaAllah. And whatever we study or learn about the deen, we should try our best to apply it, even if slowly, apply it, 'cause we cannot get it wrong when it's something from Quran and Sunnah, wa Allahu 'alam.

jazakhum Allahu khayran

assalamu alaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh

 

[Just a Guy]

*pre-post rant alert. You have been warned...*

:salam2:

So I'm just supposed to ignore my friends and family like they don't exist? Turn away from my parents and not respect them? Isn't that contrary to what Islam teaches? If I go one way, I'm "embracing the kaffirs" and if I go the other way I'm going against Islam. I'm screwed either way, so what's the point for me?

I am alone, an island of truth amidst a sea of unbelievers. I have decided not to tell my friends or family about my conversion. They don't need to know anything. I don't have to tell them everything that goes on in my life. I'm 36 years old and I walk my own path.

But I'm not going to ignore them like they don't exist.

You might as well tell me to get rid of my dogs at this point...

Oh yeah... I went there.

 

[sister herb]

:salam2:

JAG! You have flu. Take cup of tea and go back to bed.

:shymuslima1:

 

[esperanza]

[assalam al aykum

forgive me im also in a ranting mood

but we talk about choosing only muslims as friends they deserve our goood treatment
well ihave tried to be friendly to a few people in this forum,,,sisters,,,and some have answered but some have not even returned my salam..
so how can people tell me how to deal wiht non muslims when some even ignore the basics fo muslim muslim relations


:shymuslima1:

 

[Aapa]

Assalaam walaikum,


We have to love that which please Allah. We have to leave that which He hates. We can be polite. But we can not be intimate. We can be kind, we can be good, we can send food, send money help everyone but we can not be intimate with non-Muslims.

We made the choice to be on the path. We made the choice to love Allah. That by definition does not constrict the universe; it opens the whole wide world...

We limit our interactions. That which is with Allah is better.

 

[IHearIslam]

[assalam al aykum

forgive me im also in a ranting mood

but we talk about choosing only muslims as friends they deserve our goood treatment
well ihave tried to be friendly to a few people in this forum,,,sisters,,,and some have answered but some have not even returned my salam..
so how can people tell me how to deal wiht non muslims when some even ignore the basics fo muslim muslim relations


:shymuslima1:

aww sister *hug*

Remember to give your sister in Islam 70 excuses!! lets not be too quick in judging people....those who have not returned your salams might been busy? they might not know how to work the vm/pm systems yet? maybe they forgot to hit reply? do you see where I am going with this?? There are gazillion reason why some sisters might not reply! Lets not go to the worse one, but to the best ones!

May Allah strengthen us all----we're all lacking something, Islam is a process not a goal!

 

[finding light]

Asalaamualaykum Sister Esperanza and Brother JAG...

I dont understand how you feel because I am not a revert BUT I empathise with your situations... the reason why i posted all that i did earlier. I was raised in a non-muslim country, so obviously i had non-muslim friends... i had to socialise with them at school, which is an essential part of child development. doesnt mean that i started practising what they did.. on the contrary actually. as a child and young adult, i used to get a lot of questions about what is Islam and why are you Muslim because they just simply didnt know... so I dont think it was all that bad to be their friend. maybe I didnt benefit in anyway (spiritually) from them (i did benefit intellectually) but I would like to think they at least got an intro into Islam from the friendship. They can go around today and say (hopefully) "wait a minute, i went to school with the nicest Muslim girl and she told me about Islam and its not all about terrorism and polygamy". and vice versa - I can say today that I went to school with a nice christian girl and her life is not all immoral, unethical and unaccountable.

Please see Brother Ershad's post (#34) which states the following-third time quoted now:

a) loving him for his religion, this is kufr b) loving him for a matter of sin, such as music c) loving for him his worldly gain, such as one whom he does business with, d) loving in a matter that is permitted in the shariah, if we say football is permitted, like loving a footballer for his skill in football, e) loving for a reason established in the shariah, such as loving a woman from Ahl al-Kitaab that one has married, f) having love that is natural, innate, such as loving non-Muslim parents, relations etc. These six fall into one of four rulings that apply. Love that is Kufr (a). Love that is haraam (b,c,d). Love that is permitted (e). Love where there is no accountability, which is the natural love one feels for non-Muslim parents, children etc. (f)

I think this is an ample explanation for it all.. There is love for non-muslims that is permitted.

Wasalaam

 

[Idris16]

See this thread: http://www.turntoislam.com/forum/showthread.php?t=82651

 

[helpinghumanity]

:salam2: all,

Let's just pause for a minute so that we can define what "FRIEND" means?

There seems to confusion in the heads of so many members, so inshallah lets try to remove it in words which are simple and easy to grasp?

 

[Ershad]

:salam2: all,

Let's just pause for a minute so that we can define what "FRIEND" means?

There seems to confusion in the heads of so many members, so inshallah lets try to remove it in words which are simple and easy to grasp?

,

I think "friend" has already been defined by Linguists. According to Oxford Dictionary online, it means a person with whom one has a bond of mutual affection. Origin: Old English frēond, of Germanic origin; related to Dutch vriend and German Freund, from an Indo-European root meaning 'to love'

Clearly, there is connection between friend and love. And we have discussed about "love" before.

 

[Mairo]

It is very important to have solid relationships with fellow Muslims above all. It helps to solidify our faith, which is very important when living in the world today. In terms of relationships with non-Muslims we are not prohibited from dealing with those who do not oppose us with kindness. I think it may be more helpful to think of this in terms of dawa. Most people in the West have little to no knowledge of Islam, through no real fault of their own. They are more or less victims into this culture they were born into, without an immediate idea of what other options for living may be. It is good to remember that there are many instances of a person being an enemy to Islam at the beginning, and then becoming a brother/sister in faith. This happened over and over during the life of the prophet. It is good to understand our responsiblities to be a good representative of Islam, acting well among the people, treating others with kindness and respect, and hold out that ray of hope guiding to the light.

 

[strive-may-i]

Prophet said

“The Muslim is the one from whose hands and tongue others are safe. The Mu’min is the onewhom people feel safe with. ”[Tirmidhi]

Another translation:
“A Muslim is he from the mischief of whose tongue and hand the Muslims are safe and a Momin (faithful Believer) is he on whose account people do not feel a threat to their life and property.”
[Tirmidhi]
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