I NEED MAJOR HELP PLZ!!!

[sulaiman786]

Firstly Aslaam alaikum to everyone and ramadan kareem.
I am new to this site so ill try and keep things short and sweet.

I am having major issues with wudu. firstly i keep repeating wudu because it feels my nafz isn't happy and tells me i've missed something out, secondly i keep thinking my wudu is broken and i can't seem to tell myself if ive actually broken my wudu, i just keeping saying, have i broken it? When i read namaz, it feels as though somethings tells me ive broken wind and i tighten my chest to an extent where my namaz has suddenly slowed down. My taraweeh prayer has become a nightmare because my concentration is always on my wudu.
I have never had this problem before and all of a sudden, this has become psychological.

I do not know if im being punished because of my bad past because ive recently tried to do my best to come back to reality deen from being a naughty guy lol, I spoke to a hafiz quran and he said to me do wudu once and continue praying but i have this god fearing feeling inside my prayer aint accepted, i guess im trying too hard, he told me not to repeat my wudu.

Yeah maybe something is saying to me come back on the road i use to be on (plz remember this sinner in your duas so Allah swt can forgive my bad past, AMEEN) BUT i promised to almighty Allah i will never let go of my salah.

Can someone plz guide me and put me on the right tracks to overcome this issue, any help would be apreciated.
Lastly just want to say what a great site this is, reading some of the things here is amazing and may Allah swt unite all of us in Jannah along with the rest of our beloved messenger saw ummah. Ameen

 

[kalamazoo]

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ab umaamah (r.a)complained before Prophet Muhammad (s.a.w)that he could not memorize well; therefore this "DUA' of DUAs was taught to him by Prophet Muhammad (s.a.w)

" اللَّهُمَّ إِنّي أسْأَلُكَ مِنْ خَيْرِ مَا سَأَلَكَ مِنْهُ نَبِيُّكَ مُحَمَّدٌ صلى الله عليه وسلم
، وَأعُوذُ بِكَ مِنْ شَرِّ مَا اسْتَعَاذَ مِنْهُ نَبِيُّكَ مُحَمَّدٌ صلى الله عليه والسلم
وَأَنْتَ الْمُسْتَعَانُ وَعَلَيْكَ الْبَلاغُ وَلا حَوْلَ وَلا قُوَّةَ إِلاَّ بِاللَّهِ."​

“ALLAHUMMA INNIY NAS-ALUKA MIN KHAYRIN MA SA-ALAKA MINHU NIBIYYIKA MUHAMMADUN SALLA LLAAHU `ALAIHI WASALLAM.
WANA`UDHU BIKA MIN SHARRI MA STA`ADHA MINHU NABIYYIKA MUHAMMADUN SALLA LLAAHU `ALAYHI WASALLAM.
WA-ANTA MUSTA`AANU WA`ALAIKA L-BALAAGHU WALA HAULA WALA QUWWATA ILLA BILLAAH.”

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Ramadhan Kareem

(remember what you have just posted)

 

[strive-may-i]

Walaikum Salaam Wa Rahmathullaahi wabarakaatuh,

Disaccociate from the past ways and be firm on it. Seek forgiveness. Repent.

Recite Quran. Say Dikr. Pay Zakaat or be of some help to others. Commit to the good and befriend the good company.

Ramlaan Kareem. Hope this helps.

 

[kashif_nazeer]

Wa 'alaikumassalam warahmatullah,
Ramadan Kareem brother.Ma sha' Allah I congratulate you on your decision to return to the way prescribed by Allah(SWT).
These are waswasa avoid them,say isti'adh i.e "Au'udhubillahi min ash shaytaan ir rajeem"

To quote a scholarly opinion

If a praying person is in doubt whether he has passed wind or not, or if he feels movement or gasses in his abdomen, should he stop prayer or continue?


If he knows without doubt that wind has passed, then he should leave the prayer. However, if he is in doubt but is not certain, then he should not leave unless he becomes certain--by hearing the wind pass or smelling it. If he finds that he has passed wind, he should leave; otherwise he should pay no attention to it. The evidence: Abu Huriara, (may Allah be pleased with him) said, "The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said: 'If one is in prayer and feels movement in his behind, (and is in question whether) he has passed wind or not, and he is in doubt, then he should not leave unless he hears the sound or detects the smell".1 And this is one of the significant Islamic prescriptions for curing waswasa (insinuations from the whispering of shaitan [Satan]).
From the book What Should You Do in the Following Situations... ?
1 Abu Dawood 177, and Sahih al-Jaami 750.



From the book What Should You Do in the Following Situations... ?
Source

 

[PeacefulHumanity]

:salam2:

Do you feel you've invalidated your wudu because you've done something (break wind, bled, etc.) or because there is some nagging voice in your head that says you've broken it or haven't done it right? If it is the latter, I remember reading on a thread about waswas that this is the work of Shaytan putting doubts in your head so you'll waste time (and not to mention, water) and therefore spend less time in devotion to Allah (SWT).

 

[muhammad sabri]

:salam2:
My dear brother i think that the answer of Nazeer is the most complete so follow that suggestion, by the way i want to add something which inch'Allah i'll never get tired of stressing, i repeated it many times to brothers and sisters in your similiar situation and that is: ALLAH LOVES YOU!
My dear brother it's really beautiful that you feel the fear of Allah so strongly but you must not forget that Allah loves you and that you MUST have high expectations of Allah(subhana wa taAla) He loves you, He wants to guide you He want to forgive you and He loves to forgive! Ohh my dear brother the Nur of Allah encopasses everything and it is far stronger than any darkness, my dear brother if you're really sincere then it DOESN'T MATTER INCH'ALLAH how many sins you did for the important thing is that right NOW you'e here asking Allah to guide you, love you and forgive you..my dear brother from just reading your word i would forgive you and guide you so don't you think that ALLAH WHO IS THE MOST MERCIFUL AMONG ALL THE MERCIFULS WOULD FORGIVE YOU?..He would and inch'Allah He surely will!

Just be patient for Allah is with the patient ones and always always always make Dua and trust yourself to Allah!(subhana wa taAla)!



wajazakallahu khairan

 

[The_truth]

Firstly Aslaam alaikum to everyone and ramadan kareem.
I am new to this site so ill try and keep things short and sweet.

I am having major issues with wudu. firstly i keep repeating wudu because it feels my nafz isn't happy and tells me i've missed something out, secondly i keep thinking my wudu is broken and i can't seem to tell myself if ive actually broken my wudu, i just keeping saying, have i broken it? When i read namaz, it feels as though somethings tells me ive broken wind and i tighten my chest to an extent where my namaz has suddenly slowed down. My taraweeh prayer has become a nightmare because my concentration is always on my wudu.
I have never had this problem before and all of a sudden, this has become psychological.

I do not know if im being punished because of my bad past because ive recently tried to do my best to come back to reality deen from being a naughty guy lol, I spoke to a hafiz quran and he said to me do wudu once and continue praying but i have this god fearing feeling inside my prayer aint accepted, i guess im trying too hard, he told me not to repeat my wudu.

Yeah maybe something is saying to me come back on the road i use to be on (plz remember this sinner in your duas so Allah swt can forgive my bad past, AMEEN) BUT i promised to almighty Allah i will never let go of my salah.

Can someone plz guide me and put me on the right tracks to overcome this issue, any help would be apreciated.
Lastly just want to say what a great site this is, reading some of the things here is amazing and may Allah swt unite all of us in Jannah along with the rest of our beloved messenger saw ummah. Ameen

Asalaamu Alaikum,

Waswas can become a very serious issue and it may take away the pleasure in worship and instead replace it with constant worry whether a person did Wudu or Salaah properly. It can become a very serious issue as a person will feel overwhelmed by paranoia with regards to theri worship and will always feel a sense of inadequacy.

In worship terms Waswas means always have doubts about ones worship and not be sure of anything relating to worship as there is always a doubt there and this serious disease and illness is caused by shaythan.


What are some of the symptoms of waswas?

-You pray and then be not sure if you did.

- You waste too much water and long time in wudu and ghusl.

- You pray more than the number of rakats and do the sahu sujud every time. Even you pray more than once.

- you are not sure if your clothes are clean and every moment change your clothes.

- You follow the tiny things that are not even seen by eyes to clean them and remove them.

- You worry too much and feel your worship is not complete.

- You ask strange questions that people feel amazed about and show strange behavior for example: someone walks with shoes on the carpet until the spot where she prays just because she is not sure if the land is clean.

- You spend a very long time in the bathroom, just washing.

- You are not sure of any worship you did is complete.

And many other strange things that can tell you are suffering form waswas.


Waswas can become a serious problem especially if a person suffers from it constantly. Shaythan keeps putting doubts in ones mind and keeps telling the person that their prayer or wudu ghusl etc are not valid and that you have missed something out or not done it proprly and so you should do it again.

Your clothes are not clean, wash them again and so on. The person keeps falling for this and by this time shaythan knows that this has become the persons weakness so shaythan is able to attack the person in many different angles.


Eventually shaythan will go onto more serious matters of faith until he tries to convince a person that "Are you sure Allah exists"? Or shaythan tries to cast doubts in the mind of a person by convincing them that they had shirk thoughts and so they must do the shahada again because they have now become a kaafir and are out of the fold of Islam.

Here are some real stories of people having waswas problem:

A woman said: For 16 years, I everyday have shower and take shahada because I suddenly feel I am not sure, I am Muslim.

A guy said: For years I pray and think I did not until I stopped praying at all.

A woman said: I used to pray the prayer and keep repeating it until the next prayer.


The best way's to resolve Extreme cases of waswas are:


1. Waswas can occur with pretty much any practising Muslim particularly if they do not have sufficient knowledge of Islam and matters pertaining to fiqhi rulings.


They care so much about wanting to worship right and please Allah and get so worried whether their deed has been accepted or not by Allah but the fact is they just do not know enough about Islam especially fiqhi matters.

So it is VERY important to learn about Fiqh and various other aspects of Islam. Knowledge is key to eradicating this problem from your life!

Join some fiqh classes face to face or online. Learn about other important aspects of Islam to. keep learning, learning and learning and you watch how these evil thoughts dissapear inshallah.


2. JUST IGNORE shaythans whispers. He will keep telling you your worship is incorrect or you have missed out something in your salaah then you must NOT repeat the Salaah again.


When you have done Wudu and something tells you that you have missed out something or have not done it properly then IGNORE those whispers.


If shaythan tells you to do ghusl again because you never did it properly then IGNORE and NEVER obey these evil and deceptive whispers!


If shaythan tries to tell you that you have attributed partners with Allah and that you have done shirk then IGNORE IT. He wants you to lose your faith and think that you have committed blasphemy when you have not done anything of the sort. if the mind wanders sometimes then that is fine all of our minds wander.


Sayyiduna Abu Haraira (Allah be pleased with him) narrates that once a group of people came to the Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace) and asked: “We experience such evil thoughts that it is impossible to bring them on our lips”. The Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace) said: “Do you really experience these thoughts? Yes, they replied. The Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace) said: “They are clear signs of faith”. (Sahih Muslim).


So these are signs of faith and ultimately, we are not held to account for these thoughts. However, we will be held to account if we act on these thoughts.


Shaythan will then try to make you think that you did act on these feelings when all you did was involuntarily wandered about them in your mind. Even if they did linger in your mind it does not mean you acted on it. Almost all of us have random thoughts and absurdities going on in our minds all of the time it does not mean we necesserily believe what we thought of.

Do NOT ever give in to these thoughts for shaythan is just trying to be clever but knowledge will give on the upper hand!

Whenever you get these whispers then just think: IT IS SHAYTHAN TRYING TO DECIEVE ME AND PUT ME OFF MY WORSHIP!


3. Once you have completed Wudu then move on and ignore whatever shaythan tells you regardless of how serious it sounds. You have completed it and there is no need to think of it anymore. Once you have completed your Salaah then move on and continue with the next one or get on with whatever you are doing with your day or evening. Do not think about it and ignore any thoughts associated with the worship you have just done.


Whatever you have completed is done and is over and there is NOTHING more you can do about it so do not think back that you could have done this or that or whether you need to repeat it etc. These doubts will not affect the prayer or wudu etc which you have completed so disregard and reject the whispers that tell you otherwise.


These are all tricks of shaythan and you need to realise what his angles are. You need to play him at his own game and that way you will have the upper hand everytime!


Just think of what you need to do to please Allah and do not be extreme in religion.


4. Who decides whether your worship will be complete or not? Shaythan or Allah? So by listening to the whispers of shaythan then you are simply obeying Shaythan over Allah! Therefore we must ignore his evil whispers and realise that ONLY Allah can accept our deeds so we should obey Allah and ignore these waswas.



5. If you get waswas then recite the following:


A'udhu billaahi minashaythanirajeem


and


La Hawla Wala Quwatha Illah billahil aliyyil Adheem



Also recite the four Quls Morning and evening and Ayatul Kursi Morning, before going to sleep and after every prayer.

If shaythan whispers to you in prayer then look lft and spittle and recite A'udhu billaahi minashaythanirajeem


thank Allah, wholeheartedly, for enabling you to overcome your desires and shaytan [saying, Alhamdulillah (‘All praise is due to Allah’)]; this makes Shaytan despair, and strengthens one’s resolve.


The following verse of Surah al-mu’minun may also be beneficial:


“Rabbi inni a’uzu bika min hamazat ashayatin wa a’uzu bika rabbi an yahdurun”


Trans: O my Lord! I seek your protection from the instigations of devils and I also seek your protection from that they (ever) come to me.



6. Why disobey Allah and listen to shaythans whispers? By constantly repeating wudu, salaah and wasting so much time then we are going against Allah and instead listening to shaythans evil whispers. The fact is Allah wants you to reject the waswas but shaythan wants you to accept them, then who will you listen to? The choice is yours...

A desert Arab came to Allah's Apostle

and asked him about ablution. He demonstrated (washing each part of his body) thrice, and then said: That is (the method) of the ablution. And he who does more than this has done wrong, transgressed the limit and has oppressed (himself). (Tirmidhi #417 , Nasa'i, Ibn Majah, and Abu Dawud) ​

This hadith proves that one does NOT need to keep repeating the wudu over and over for no reason just because shaythan is telling us to repeat it. We would then transgress and oppress ourselves by doing so! Sameway one does not have to repeat the ghusl or prayers again and again for no reason just because shaythan tells us to. We are praying for Allah so shaythan has NO say in it and NEVER has!
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7. It is unlikely that you will not be able to conquer waswas overnight. Shaythan will not give up so easily for he will try and make you feel like you just don't care anymore about your worship or shirk etc but again this is just one of his many tactics that he uses to try and put off Allah's worshippers and so know that you know the different angels then you are now more equiped to fight these evil whispers.


There are many more different angles that the shaythan will use but they will all be similar in nature, so if you follow these tips then eventually you will be able to eradicate this disease out of your life FOREVER! and start to enjoy your worship of Allah again Inshallah.


So countract all of these negative thoughts that you get after worship with positive thoughts and realise that ONLY Allah can accept your deeds and knows what is in your heart not Shaythan for he is just a deciever!


Allah Most High has promised,

“As for those who strive in Us, We surely guide them to Our paths, and lo! Allah is with the good.” [Qur’an, 29.69]



And Allah knows best in all matters


Read more here: http://www.turntoislam.com/forum/showthread.php?t=75934&p=494809#post494809

 

[slaveofAllah88]

aslam o aliakum

Bro The_truth, May Allah (swt) reward you immensely in this month, SubhanAllah as the original poster describe i have so much problem with it, and even thou i knw the fiqh ruling so many times i would be like but still i dont want to pray and not have proper wudu then salah is not accepted inshAllah i really appreciate what you posted cause it will really help

 

[The_truth]

Shaythan CANNOT decide if your worship is accepted or not, ONLY ALLAH CAN!

Imprint this in your minds whenever you get any type of paranoia about worship. Surely shaythan does not know what is in our hearts. He cannot decide if our purification or worship is accepted or good enough or not. To him nothing good that we do will ever be good enough because he hates it when we do good. Therefore ignore shaythan who is our sworn enemy and know that he has NO say in whether our wudu, ghusl or any worship we do is good enough or accepted or not. He is decieving us into think it is not good enough and will not be accepted. Who is he to tell us this? NO ONE! So ignore him and do not listen to him. Know that as long as we try our best to do a good wudu and ghusl and worship him in the best way that we can then that is good enough for Allah. After that get on with making the best of each second of our lives and IGNORE YOUR ENEMY SHAYTHAN!

 

[queenislam]

To get Successful : (concentrate whole heartly) In What You Are Doing!!!

Firstly Aslaam alaikum to everyone and ramadan kareem.
I am new to this site so ill try and keep things short and sweet.

I am having major issues with wudu. firstly i keep repeating wudu because it feels my nafz isn't happy and tells me i've missed something out, secondly i keep thinking my wudu is broken and i can't seem to tell myself if ive actually broken my wudu, i just keeping saying, have i broken it? When i read namaz, it feels as though somethings tells me ive broken wind and i tighten my chest to an extent where my namaz has suddenly slowed down. My taraweeh prayer has become a nightmare because my concentration is always on my wudu.
I have never had this problem before and all of a sudden, this has become psychological.

I do not know if im being punished because of my bad past because ive recently tried to do my best to come back to reality deen from being a naughty guy lol, I spoke to a hafiz quran and he said to me do wudu once and continue praying but i have this god fearing feeling inside my prayer aint accepted, i guess im trying too hard, he told me not to repeat my wudu.

Yeah maybe something is saying to me come back on the road i use to be on (plz remember this sinner in your duas so Allah swt can forgive my bad past, AMEEN) BUT i promised to almighty Allah i will never let go of my salah.

Can someone plz guide me and put me on the right tracks to overcome this issue, any help would be apreciated.
Lastly just want to say what a great site this is, reading some of the things here is amazing and may Allah swt unite all of us in Jannah along with the rest of our beloved messenger saw ummah. Ameen

:salam2:

Masha'allah!
Alhamdulillah!
I shall say i am very happy and satified with our bros in assisting
this problem.

Now,coming straight to the point ;
Dear Brother;

Basically: everything came within oneself

Reason:You tempt to lose focus and did not concentrate on what you was doing

Result:You got your mind mix up and then when that happen you wasn't Kusyuk (concentrate whole heartly)
in your prayer!

Remenber !
when you was about to make wudu' and perform your prayer you have to make the intention in your mind and heart
firmly and do not lose your focus in what you are doing!!!

Not focus and mind floating will only resulting in making the 'stupid of yourself '(sorry for this straight forward)
wasting time,energy and lost of self-confident.Be in reality and stop dreaming!!!
So;
Focus
Focus
And Focus

~May Allah swt help and guide you~Amin!

بِسْمِ اللّهِ الرَّحْمـَنِ الرَّحِيمِ
In the Name of Allah, the Most Beneficent, the Most Merciful.
Successful indeed are the believers.
Those who offer their Salât (prayers) with all solemnity and full submissiveness.
And those who turn away from Al-Laghw (dirty, false, evil vain talk, falsehood, and all that Allâh has forbidden).
And those who pay the Zakât .
And those who guard their chastity (i.e. private parts, from illegal sexual acts)

Holy quran: Surah Al-Muminun:23(1-5)

★May Allah swt help,protect and guide all muslims~Amin!

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Masha'allah!
Alhamdulillah!


Take Care!
~Wassalam

 

[sulaiman786]

subhanallah, really nice dua and thank you,
please remember me in your duas.

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ab umaamah (r.a)complained before Prophet Muhammad (s.a.w)that he could not memorize well; therefore this "DUA' of DUAs was taught to him by Prophet Muhammad (s.a.w)

" اللَّهُمَّ إِنّي أسْأَلُكَ مِنْ خَيْرِ مَا سَأَلَكَ مِنْهُ نَبِيُّكَ مُحَمَّدٌ صلى الله عليه وسلم
، وَأعُوذُ بِكَ مِنْ شَرِّ مَا اسْتَعَاذَ مِنْهُ نَبِيُّكَ مُحَمَّدٌ صلى الله عليه والسلم
وَأَنْتَ الْمُسْتَعَانُ وَعَلَيْكَ الْبَلاغُ وَلا حَوْلَ وَلا قُوَّةَ إِلاَّ بِاللَّهِ."​

“ALLAHUMMA INNIY NAS-ALUKA MIN KHAYRIN MA SA-ALAKA MINHU NIBIYYIKA MUHAMMADUN SALLA LLAAHU `ALAIHI WASALLAM.
WANA`UDHU BIKA MIN SHARRI MA STA`ADHA MINHU NABIYYIKA MUHAMMADUN SALLA LLAAHU `ALAYHI WASALLAM.
WA-ANTA MUSTA`AANU WA`ALAIKA L-BALAAGHU WALA HAULA WALA QUWWATA ILLA BILLAAH.”

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Ramadhan Kareem

(remember what you have just posted)

- - - Updated - - -

jazakallah for the advice, plz remember this sinner in your duas

Walaikum Salaam Wa Rahmathullaahi wabarakaatuh,

Disaccociate from the past ways and be firm on it. Seek forgiveness. Repent.

Recite Quran. Say Dikr. Pay Zakaat or be of some help to others. Commit to the good and befriend the good company.

Ramlaan Kareem. Hope this helps.

 

[sulaiman786]

Aslaam brother Kaahif
May Allah swt greatly accept your efforts for your generous reply,
I wish life was so easy in terms of how i feel, In my salah brother Kashif, i cant tel if i have broken wind because i feel movement in my back passage, take an example in my taraweh prayer, it is very constant, i just say to myself, surely i cant break wind like 50 times lol, i know im trying to convince myself but the why do i have doubts?, after taraweeh prayers, i come home and read 2 rakats salat-ul-tawbah and seek repentance but i cant forgive myself if i am reading salah without wudu. Im scared my prayers arent being accepted.

Wa 'alaikumassalam warahmatullah,
Ramadan Kareem brother.Ma sha' Allah I congratulate you on your decision to return to the way prescribed by Allah(SWT).
These are waswasa avoid them,say isti'adh i.e "Au'udhubillahi min ash shaytaan ir rajeem"

To quote a scholarly opinion

 

[sulaiman786]

Aslaam Brother Muhammad
Your words are out of this world, I sincerely hope Allah swt forgives us all, guides us on the straight path. I wish i wasn't so depressed reading my salahs because of this problem.

:salam2:
My dear brother i think that the answer of Nazeer is the most complete so follow that suggestion, by the way i want to add something which inch'Allah i'll never get tired of stressing, i repeated it many times to brothers and sisters in your similiar situation and that is: ALLAH LOVES YOU!
My dear brother it's really beautiful that you feel the fear of Allah so strongly but you must not forget that Allah loves you and that you MUST have high expectations of Allah(subhana wa taAla) He loves you, He wants to guide you He want to forgive you and He loves to forgive! Ohh my dear brother the Nur of Allah encopasses everything and it is far stronger than any darkness, my dear brother if you're really sincere then it DOESN'T MATTER INCH'ALLAH how many sins you did for the important thing is that right NOW you'e here asking Allah to guide you, love you and forgive you..my dear brother from just reading your word i would forgive you and guide you so don't you think that ALLAH WHO IS THE MOST MERCIFUL AMONG ALL THE MERCIFULS WOULD FORGIVE YOU?..He would and inch'Allah He surely will!

Just be patient for Allah is with the patient ones and always always always make Dua and trust yourself to Allah!(subhana wa taAla)!



wajazakallahu khairan

 

[sulaiman786]

Salaam Sister
Ive tried so hard, so hard to the point where its become a psychological issue for me, I keep thinking baout my wudu, i use to be someone who can hold wudu from zuhr to issue on a long day, now with this problem, ill be lucky to stand for a 2 minute jamat in the mosque, Ill do wudu maybe 6-7 times a day. Please remember this sinful brother in your prayers, i have done so much wrong and feel this is my test but im trying really hard, am scared maybe shaytan will do me over and get me again.

:salam2:

Masha'allah!
Alhamdulillah!
I shall say i am very happy and satified with our bros in assisting
this problem.

Now,coming straight to the point ;
Dear Brother;

Basically: everything came within oneself

Reason:You tempt to lose focus and did not concentrate on what you was doing

Result:You got your mind mix up and then when that happen you wasn't Kusyuk (concentrate whole heartly)
in your prayer!

Remenber !
when you was about to make wudu' and perform your prayer you have to make the intention in your mind and heart
firmly and do not lose your focus in what you are doing!!!

Not focus and mind floating will only resulting in making the 'stupid of yourself '(sorry for this straight forward)
wasting time,energy and lost of self-confident.Be in reality and stop dreaming!!!
So;
Focus
Focus
And Focus

~May Allah swt help and guide you~Amin!

بِسْمِ اللّهِ الرَّحْمـَنِ الرَّحِيمِ
In the Name of Allah, the Most Beneficent, the Most Merciful.
Successful indeed are the believers.
Those who offer their Salât (prayers) with all solemnity and full submissiveness.
And those who turn away from Al-Laghw (dirty, false, evil vain talk, falsehood, and all that Allâh has forbidden).
And those who pay the Zakât .
And those who guard their chastity (i.e. private parts, from illegal sexual acts)

Holy quran: Surah Al-Muminun:23(1-5)

★May Allah swt help,protect and guide all muslims~Amin!

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Alhamdulillah!


Take Care!
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[sulaiman786]

Aslaam brother,
Id love to say i didnt have these issues but i can't figure out if i have broken wind or feel movement in my back pasage..il tell you what the worst thing is, when it happens, i don't feel as if ive actually wanted to release wind, you know how sometimes your stomach is holding the gas and u can't wait to release lol, i dont feel this, im feelng so normal and stil i can't actually tell if ive released wind or movement in my back passage.
You know im so embarassed if sisters are reading this, i just think am i the only weird guy feeling this?

:salam2:

Do you feel you've invalidated your wudu because you've done something (break wind, bled, etc.) or because there is some nagging voice in your head that says you've broken it or haven't done it right? If it is the latter, I remember reading on a thread about waswas that this is the work of Shaytan putting doubts in your head so you'll waste time (and not to mention, water) and therefore spend less time in devotion to Allah (SWT).

 

[sulaiman786]

Wo amazing,
may allah swt reward you, now this helps

Asalaamu Alaikum,

Waswas can become a very serious issue and it may take away the pleasure in worship and instead replace it with constant worry whether a person did Wudu or Salaah properly. It can become a very serious issue as a person will feel overwhelmed by paranoia with regards to theri worship and will always feel a sense of inadequacy.

In worship terms Waswas means always have doubts about ones worship and not be sure of anything relating to worship as there is always a doubt there and this serious disease and illness is caused by shaythan.


What are some of the symptoms of waswas?

-You pray and then be not sure if you did.

- You waste too much water and long time in wudu and ghusl.

- You pray more than the number of rakats and do the sahu sujud every time. Even you pray more than once.

- you are not sure if your clothes are clean and every moment change your clothes.

- You follow the tiny things that are not even seen by eyes to clean them and remove them.

- You worry too much and feel your worship is not complete.

- You ask strange questions that people feel amazed about and show strange behavior for example: someone walks with shoes on the carpet until the spot where she prays just because she is not sure if the land is clean.

- You spend a very long time in the bathroom, just washing.

- You are not sure of any worship you did is complete.

And many other strange things that can tell you are suffering form waswas.


Waswas can become a serious problem especially if a person suffers from it constantly. Shaythan keeps putting doubts in ones mind and keeps telling the person that their prayer or wudu ghusl etc are not valid and that you have missed something out or not done it proprly and so you should do it again.

Your clothes are not clean, wash them again and so on. The person keeps falling for this and by this time shaythan knows that this has become the persons weakness so shaythan is able to attack the person in many different angles.


Eventually shaythan will go onto more serious matters of faith until he tries to convince a person that "Are you sure Allah exists"? Or shaythan tries to cast doubts in the mind of a person by convincing them that they had shirk thoughts and so they must do the shahada again because they have now become a kaafir and are out of the fold of Islam.

Here are some real stories of people having waswas problem:

A woman said: For 16 years, I everyday have shower and take shahada because I suddenly feel I am not sure, I am Muslim.

A guy said: For years I pray and think I did not until I stopped praying at all.

A woman said: I used to pray the prayer and keep repeating it until the next prayer.


The best way's to resolve Extreme cases of waswas are:


1. Waswas can occur with pretty much any practising Muslim particularly if they do not have sufficient knowledge of Islam and matters pertaining to fiqhi rulings.


They care so much about wanting to worship right and please Allah and get so worried whether their deed has been accepted or not by Allah but the fact is they just do not know enough about Islam especially fiqhi matters.

So it is VERY important to learn about Fiqh and various other aspects of Islam. Knowledge is key to eradicating this problem from your life!

Join some fiqh classes face to face or online. Learn about other important aspects of Islam to. keep learning, learning and learning and you watch how these evil thoughts dissapear inshallah.


2. JUST IGNORE shaythans whispers. He will keep telling you your worship is incorrect or you have missed out something in your salaah then you must NOT repeat the Salaah again.


When you have done Wudu and something tells you that you have missed out something or have not done it properly then IGNORE those whispers.


If shaythan tells you to do ghusl again because you never did it properly then IGNORE and NEVER obey these evil and deceptive whispers!


If shaythan tries to tell you that you have attributed partners with Allah and that you have done shirk then IGNORE IT. He wants you to lose your faith and think that you have committed blasphemy when you have not done anything of the sort. if the mind wanders sometimes then that is fine all of our minds wander.


Sayyiduna Abu Haraira (Allah be pleased with him) narrates that once a group of people came to the Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace) and asked: “We experience such evil thoughts that it is impossible to bring them on our lips”. The Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace) said: “Do you really experience these thoughts? Yes, they replied. The Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace) said: “They are clear signs of faith”. (Sahih Muslim).


So these are signs of faith and ultimately, we are not held to account for these thoughts. However, we will be held to account if we act on these thoughts.


Shaythan will then try to make you think that you did act on these feelings when all you did was involuntarily wandered about them in your mind. Even if they did linger in your mind it does not mean you acted on it. Almost all of us have random thoughts and absurdities going on in our minds all of the time it does not mean we necesserily believe what we thought of.

Do NOT ever give in to these thoughts for shaythan is just trying to be clever but knowledge will give on the upper hand!

Whenever you get these whispers then just think: IT IS SHAYTHAN TRYING TO DECIEVE ME AND PUT ME OFF MY WORSHIP!


3. Once you have completed Wudu then move on and ignore whatever shaythan tells you regardless of how serious it sounds. You have completed it and there is no need to think of it anymore. Once you have completed your Salaah then move on and continue with the next one or get on with whatever you are doing with your day or evening. Do not think about it and ignore any thoughts associated with the worship you have just done.


Whatever you have completed is done and is over and there is NOTHING more you can do about it so do not think back that you could have done this or that or whether you need to repeat it etc. These doubts will not affect the prayer or wudu etc which you have completed so disregard and reject the whispers that tell you otherwise.


These are all tricks of shaythan and you need to realise what his angles are. You need to play him at his own game and that way you will have the upper hand everytime!


Just think of what you need to do to please Allah and do not be extreme in religion.


4. Who decides whether your worship will be complete or not? Shaythan or Allah? So by listening to the whispers of shaythan then you are simply obeying Shaythan over Allah! Therefore we must ignore his evil whispers and realise that ONLY Allah can accept our deeds so we should obey Allah and ignore these waswas.



5. If you get waswas then recite the following:


A'udhu billaahi minashaythanirajeem


and


La Hawla Wala Quwatha Illah billahil aliyyil Adheem



Also recite the four Quls Morning and evening and Ayatul Kursi Morning, before going to sleep and after every prayer.

If shaythan whispers to you in prayer then look lft and spittle and recite A'udhu billaahi minashaythanirajeem


thank Allah, wholeheartedly, for enabling you to overcome your desires and shaytan [saying, Alhamdulillah (‘All praise is due to Allah’)]; this makes Shaytan despair, and strengthens one’s resolve.


The following verse of Surah al-mu’minun may also be beneficial:


“Rabbi inni a’uzu bika min hamazat ashayatin wa a’uzu bika rabbi an yahdurun”


Trans: O my Lord! I seek your protection from the instigations of devils and I also seek your protection from that they (ever) come to me.



6. Why disobey Allah and listen to shaythans whispers? By constantly repeating wudu, salaah and wasting so much time then we are going against Allah and instead listening to shaythans evil whispers. The fact is Allah wants you to reject the waswas but shaythan wants you to accept them, then who will you listen to? The choice is yours...

A desert Arab came to Allah's Apostle

and asked him about ablution. He demonstrated (washing each part of his body) thrice, and then said: That is (the method) of the ablution. And he who does more than this has done wrong, transgressed the limit and has oppressed (himself). (Tirmidhi #417 , Nasa'i, Ibn Majah, and Abu Dawud) ​

This hadith proves that one does NOT need to keep repeating the wudu over and over for no reason just because shaythan is telling us to repeat it. We would then transgress and oppress ourselves by doing so! Sameway one does not have to repeat the ghusl or prayers again and again for no reason just because shaythan tells us to. We are praying for Allah so shaythan has NO say in it and NEVER has!
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7. It is unlikely that you will not be able to conquer waswas overnight. Shaythan will not give up so easily for he will try and make you feel like you just don't care anymore about your worship or shirk etc but again this is just one of his many tactics that he uses to try and put off Allah's worshippers and so know that you know the different angels then you are now more equiped to fight these evil whispers.


There are many more different angles that the shaythan will use but they will all be similar in nature, so if you follow these tips then eventually you will be able to eradicate this disease out of your life FOREVER! and start to enjoy your worship of Allah again Inshallah.


So countract all of these negative thoughts that you get after worship with positive thoughts and realise that ONLY Allah can accept your deeds and knows what is in your heart not Shaythan for he is just a deciever!


Allah Most High has promised,

“As for those who strive in Us, We surely guide them to Our paths, and lo! Allah is with the good.” [Qur’an, 29.69]



And Allah knows best in all matters


Read more here: http://www.turntoislam.com/forum/showthread.php?t=75934&p=494809#post494809

 

[sulaiman786]

Mashallah

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[sulaiman786]

Mashallah and Jazakallah

Jazakallah to everyone who has taken time to reply and help this sinner of the world in the problems i am having.
I am amazed how much knowledge people have here and i pray almighty Allah swt increase your knowledge more and more.

I seek forgiveness from the people who have read this if i have said anything wrong in my post, I was a worldly person until 3 years ago and decided to do a u-turn and went hajj to wake up and see reality after my son was taken away from me by his mother, alhumdolillah the experience was amazing, so amazing that ever since then, Almighty Allah swt has called me to his beautiful house again and i came back 2 months ago from Umrah, subhanallah, this was amazing too.

This problem of mine with wudu started alhumdolillah in Madinah because i was very desperate to pray 40 salahs in MASJID UL NABVI, unfortunately i couldn't read 40 salah in masjid when i went to hajJ because of a lack of time/days but this time i was adamant i wanted to read it to get intercession from THE REATEST OF MANKIND. Alhumdolilah i managed to do this but with enormous dificulty, each day i would perform wudu approx 8-9 times and ever since, this problem has literally eaten me up.

I am doing my best to srive but now doubts have entered my mind in thinking is my salah valid? so much to the point i keep repeating myfard salahs until i am satisfied. The worst thing is, i can read my sunnah and nafl prayers without any problems, when it comes to reading my fard prayer, im a different reader and cant read properly.

Am i being silly? am i insane and gone mad? I am that scared because if i am reading salah in the state of no wudu, i dont want to die the death of a kufr? Please pray for me and surely, Allah swt will listen to someones dua for me.

Jazakallah.

 

[sulaiman786]

Waslaam
I just want to break out of this and go back to how iwas when i was reading salah with a smle on my face, these days, im depressed because salah is of a great importance to me, i would like to know how people cope with this.

aslam o aliakum

Bro The_truth, May Allah (swt) reward you immensely in this month, SubhanAllah as the original poster describe i have so much problem with it, and even thou i knw the fiqh ruling so many times i would be like but still i dont want to pray and not have proper wudu then salah is not accepted inshAllah i really appreciate what you posted cause it will really help

 

[The_truth]

Waslaam
I just want to break out of this and go back to how iwas when i was reading salah with a smle on my face, these days, im depressed because salah is of a great importance to me, i would like to know how people cope with this.

Shaythan CANNOT decide if your Wudu, Ghusl or worship is accepted or not, ONLY ALLAH DECIDES!

Imprint this in your mind whenever you get any type of paranoia about Wudu, ghusl or worship. Surely shaythan does not know what is in our hearts and he cannot decide if our purification or worship is accepted or good enough or not. To him nothing good that we do will ever be good enough because he hates it when we do any type of good. Therefore ignore shaythan who is our sworn enemy and know that he has NO say in whether your wudu, ghusl or any worship is accepted or not. He is decieving you into think it is not good enough and will not be accepted but does he decide or does Allah decide? So why are you taking advice from shaythan regarding whether or not your Wudu, Ghusl or Worship is accepted or not? Who is he to tell you what Allah will ccept or not accept? HE CANNOT TELL YOU IF YOUR WUDU, GHUSL OR SALAAH IS ACCEPTED OR NOT! NO ONE CAN BUT ALLAH!

So ignore him and do not listen to him AND Know that as long as you try our best to do a good wudu and ghusl and worship him in the best way that you can then that is good enough for Allah. After that get on with making the best of each second of your lifes and IGNORE YOUR ENEMY SHAYTHAN! Once you have made a good Wudu, ghusl or Salaah then do NOT think about it again. Just get on with making the best of each second. Keep internalising this and even write it down so you can keep referring to it.

It will not go over overnight but the more firm you are in internalising this the quicker you will recover from it inshallah. Apart from that ask of Allah sincerely and beg and cry to him asking of his help and guidance and he will NEVER ignore your calls.