ShyHijabi
Junior Member
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With all respect to those who've advised before me, I thought I would give my story. I am a convert and had some of the same issues before marrying my husband. I had been previously married but did not have children. His family went into apoplectic shock when they realized he wanted to marry a white convert. They said every one would look at his family in shame and that they would die from illness because they were very sick. (somewhat true but severely exaggerated for guilt) His mom even suggested the two wives thing but my husband is not interested in polygyny and does not feel he could deal equally with multiple wives. (and since the Qur'an speaks very strongly on this matter he made it clear to his mother that polygyny was not an option for him)
He waited 3 years for his parents to soften and come around. But they care more for their cultural norms than that of Islam. Finally he went against them and married me. Now they treat me as if I am family and in the meantime, the marriage they arranged for their other child (someone from the same culture, city, etc.,) has ended in divorce. It just goes to show that nothing based on dunya will end in happiness.
If you have prayed istikarah and received a positive sign then I think you have your answer. have your parents met this woman? Does she have a wali that could represent her? I would see if the imam could meet with her and then speak to your parents and get to the heart of the matter. It is a sad world we live in when Muslim parents reject a convert because their own prejudices and opinions.
With all respect to those who've advised before me, I thought I would give my story. I am a convert and had some of the same issues before marrying my husband. I had been previously married but did not have children. His family went into apoplectic shock when they realized he wanted to marry a white convert. They said every one would look at his family in shame and that they would die from illness because they were very sick. (somewhat true but severely exaggerated for guilt) His mom even suggested the two wives thing but my husband is not interested in polygyny and does not feel he could deal equally with multiple wives. (and since the Qur'an speaks very strongly on this matter he made it clear to his mother that polygyny was not an option for him)
He waited 3 years for his parents to soften and come around. But they care more for their cultural norms than that of Islam. Finally he went against them and married me. Now they treat me as if I am family and in the meantime, the marriage they arranged for their other child (someone from the same culture, city, etc.,) has ended in divorce. It just goes to show that nothing based on dunya will end in happiness.
If you have prayed istikarah and received a positive sign then I think you have your answer. have your parents met this woman? Does she have a wali that could represent her? I would see if the imam could meet with her and then speak to your parents and get to the heart of the matter. It is a sad world we live in when Muslim parents reject a convert because their own prejudices and opinions.