well i can see the thread has taken a different way!
First of all: I don't have any problem marrying an older girl than me, insha Allah.
2ndly: if we look into Islam, a slightly different angle, even if it is 1 degree, by the by time will pass and the direction will be just far apart, because it is simple geometry!
and this is what shaytan is after, shaytan will make a slight deviation and that can lead us to disbelief , may Allah protect our eeman.
3rdly: why we just don't take what we are instructed, sami'na wa ata'na, we are not here judge or find logic in everything, of course that's a wrong direction of having faith.
when we are upto doing an scientific experiment or research, we don't find logic first!
we have it done and then we find logic, why this happened.
so why we find logic in the case of our faith? so that means, if one logic doesn't work in one subject, until i find any i'll not believe? and I'm keeping on searching and may be that one is one of the pillar or main base of our aqeedah, and what in between that moment i die?
and what scientific logic we gonna find in salah? what logic in Hajj? tawaf? staying in Mikah/ mujdalifah? may be one can find some logic in siam, but is there anything scientific logic mentioned in the Quran?
these we believe because, Allah instructed us so and Rasul salla Allahu alaihi wa sallam said so. khalas, this is enough for one Muslim!
may Allah save us from the fitna of finding logic. it is the trap of shaytan on the modern days!
4rthly: why here comes the issue of right of women or right of such and such.
do we have any type of confusion, that Allah has ordained?
these type of issue comes, because the media is making us blind.
we are so influenced by media that we are fear to toss our religion.
may Allah save us from the fitnah of media.
what I can say to my beloved brothers and sister, you know you all are not less than a family member, subhan Allah, when i read the post and replies, i don't know i say my self, aha, Asja said that, shy hijabi said this, just a guy said this, Appa said that, arzafar, or shanaaz, abu talib said, sister harb said , muhammad maksusudul said, tabassum said, (names are randomly told, nothing directing ) , its a feeling like, when we just think about our family, like my bro use to saythis, mom says that.
and TTI has become one part of my life, but it hurts when I see my brothers and sisters(not those who I've mentioned, that was just example) are coming up with nothing just some debate, and which is picked up by shaytan into our discussion, and we debate for our desires or to put our points, which has nothing do with the issue started or point, subhan Allah. and may be we are receiving the curse of the angels that time.
may Allah save us from the fitnah of debate of desires.
of course we are all weak, but even then we have to be careful.
may Allah strengthen our eeman and make us strong against the trick of shaytan
it was merely my feelings, not directed to anyone, the names were just randomly taken, even then if someone is hurt, please forgive me.
Jazakum Allahu khair for reading
wa 'alaikum salam