maria_hajjaj
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Salamu alaycum
Most of us ,are parents, others will became- in sha Allah -
Becaming a parent, it's not so dificult, but being a GOOD PARENTS ,Ooo, that is something!!
Since we are kids,we have all kind of fears: starting with school, exams, further on career,to get married etc
But, to be a good parent, is the most beautifull and dificult period from a muslim's life!
Yes, I said muslim's life! WHY? because To Be a Muslim -- it's a gift from Allah(swt) and a duty for you!!
Your duty to respect and share Islam, to teach the new generations and we all do this through our kids first.
It's a continuously fight with the Evel , wich appear in so many ways....
Regarding the problems wich may appear when you rise your kids in a non muslim country (and not only -unfortunatelly) I can say this: I'm a romanian muslim, I live with my husbant in Romania.Our child is only 3 years old and, we are already questioningly -what to do-, -where to live- where is better for his religious education..
Before...was much more easy; you could 've choose a muslim country and live there( was safety for your life and safety for your religion), but now......many things have changed....in politics, and in religion.
I've met in muslim's countries parents who confrounts the same problems with their kids, like other muslims in Europe, USA etc.
I see what are the problems for the muslim parents (especially who has girls)...it is not easy at all! As a parents, it is our duty to teach our kids about Islam.But the most important think is to help them TO LOVE Islam!!! When you ask your child to do something wich Islam sais, let him do it because he loves Allah and not because he's afraid from you!! Allah(swt) will not accept anything from us if it's done without faith, just from fear!
With your permition I can give some advices:
-first:be yourself a good muslim,you have to be ' a model' for your child
-choose as famely relations good people with 'healthy mind' and 'good character'
-take the kid to the mosque, late him feel that he's a part of huge and beautifull famely
-encourage him to pray, as a baby, even he doesn't spell it right
-be his parent, but don't forget to be his friend also,,
Regarding only the daughters, the subject <hijab> is allways a sensitive one <especially in a non-muslim country>
I just want to say this: <Don't be in rush to put the roof, before you have a good fundation and strong walls!>
And muslim parents must not forget what Allah(swt) said: "..Invite (all) to the Way of thy Lord with wisdom and beautiful preaching; And argue with them in ways that are best and most gracious: for thy Lord knoweth best, who have strayed from His Path, and who receive guidance..." 16\125
SALAMU ALAYCUM WA RAHMATULAHI WA RABARAKATU
Most of us ,are parents, others will became- in sha Allah -
Becaming a parent, it's not so dificult, but being a GOOD PARENTS ,Ooo, that is something!!
Since we are kids,we have all kind of fears: starting with school, exams, further on career,to get married etc
But, to be a good parent, is the most beautifull and dificult period from a muslim's life!
Yes, I said muslim's life! WHY? because To Be a Muslim -- it's a gift from Allah(swt) and a duty for you!!
Your duty to respect and share Islam, to teach the new generations and we all do this through our kids first.
It's a continuously fight with the Evel , wich appear in so many ways....
Regarding the problems wich may appear when you rise your kids in a non muslim country (and not only -unfortunatelly) I can say this: I'm a romanian muslim, I live with my husbant in Romania.Our child is only 3 years old and, we are already questioningly -what to do-, -where to live- where is better for his religious education..
Before...was much more easy; you could 've choose a muslim country and live there( was safety for your life and safety for your religion), but now......many things have changed....in politics, and in religion.
I've met in muslim's countries parents who confrounts the same problems with their kids, like other muslims in Europe, USA etc.
I see what are the problems for the muslim parents (especially who has girls)...it is not easy at all! As a parents, it is our duty to teach our kids about Islam.But the most important think is to help them TO LOVE Islam!!! When you ask your child to do something wich Islam sais, let him do it because he loves Allah and not because he's afraid from you!! Allah(swt) will not accept anything from us if it's done without faith, just from fear!
With your permition I can give some advices:
-first:be yourself a good muslim,you have to be ' a model' for your child
-choose as famely relations good people with 'healthy mind' and 'good character'
-take the kid to the mosque, late him feel that he's a part of huge and beautifull famely
-encourage him to pray, as a baby, even he doesn't spell it right
-be his parent, but don't forget to be his friend also,,
Regarding only the daughters, the subject <hijab> is allways a sensitive one <especially in a non-muslim country>
I just want to say this: <Don't be in rush to put the roof, before you have a good fundation and strong walls!>
And muslim parents must not forget what Allah(swt) said: "..Invite (all) to the Way of thy Lord with wisdom and beautiful preaching; And argue with them in ways that are best and most gracious: for thy Lord knoweth best, who have strayed from His Path, and who receive guidance..." 16\125
SALAMU ALAYCUM WA RAHMATULAHI WA RABARAKATU
