I know that in Islamic weddings the woman is not supposed to reveal her beauty because the laws of modesty still apply. There's no exception. There's also not supposed to be music and dancing and the like but as some of you might know, Pakistani weddings have all of that. I do not want that at my wedding but I already had my mehndi and nikkah it was very lowkeye not a lot of people were there just mine and his family and 2of his friends on the nikkah day taking pictures and making a video. Still there was music and beautification (makeup, fancy dress, heels, etc). So after that I started practicing hijab and abaya regularly. We still have the walima to do which we couldn't do already due to some difficulties. Anyways, they said its gonna be a big event and a lot of people are gonna be invited. There's gonna be one in Pakistan and then one in America. They're gonna have all that stuff even dancing most likely. My friend was talking to me about it nonstop about my makeup what color I'm gonna wear, if we're gonna have a DJ, etc and I just don't know what to tell her or my family or husband. Every time I try to say that this is Gunnah they say I'm overdoing it, my dad calls me a molbi which means some extremely religious person. To them this is how a wedding is supposed to be yet I know this is wrong. They've adopted these customs from the Hindus as you can tell our ceremonies are very similar except for the nikkah. It's imitating kaafirs which I don't want to do and I wish other Muslims didn't do but I'm stuck. I don't know how to convince anyone of these things.