Sisters smoking

Sister S

Junior Member
:salam2:

Whenever me and my 2 sisters are together and we have to go out somewhere in the car. Half an hour later they will start smoking and every half hour they have a cigarette. i personally hate being around people who smoke. when we're in the car they have the windows open but it still smells. and when i come home my clothes smell, so i quickly go and change.

1 of my sisters has been Muslim for 3 years, the other sister has been Muslim for 2 and half years.1 of my sisters has a 2 yr old daughter and they smoke around her too, which is not right.i dont think Muslim women in hijab with a cigarette in their hands gives a good impression.

How do i let my Sisters know my feelings about them smoking, without hurting their feelings?

P.S i'm not sure whether smoking is haraam or makrooh? i would be very grateful if someone would correct me.
and sorry if i offended any Sister who smokes.

:wasalam:
 

duran

Junior Member
Smoking and Islam

In Islam cleanliness and hygiene are emphasized to the extent that it has been considered a part of Iman (faith). It is very well known that a smoker's mouth is unclean and foul smelling "like a cigarette ash-tray." In the Quran, God says:

"And forbid them what is bad." - Surah Al-'Araf, 7:157

"0 ye who believe! Intoxicants and gambling are an abomination of Satan's handiwork. Eschew such abominations that ye may prosper." - Surah Al Ma'idah, 5:93

The word intoxicant has three meanings (6):

(1) To induce, especially the effect of ingested alcohol.

(2) To stimulate or excite.

(3) To poison.

The latter two meanings are very valid and applicable to nicotine.

Smoking is nothing but a form of slow suicide. The Qur'an says:

"And slay not the life which God hath forbidden..." - Surah, Al-Isra, 17:33

"And make not your own hands contribute to your destruction." - Surah, Al-Baqara, 2:195

"Nor kill or destroy yourselves for verily God hath been to you most Merciful." Surah, An-Nisa, 4:29

Prophet Mohammed has said:

"Nor be hurt or injure others." It is scientifically proven that the exhaled smoke of the smoker is hazardous to non-smokers around him.

The amount of money a smoker spends on cigarette smoking in a period of 30 years is calculated to be Two Hundred Thousand Dollars or more. All this money is simply wasted (not including the money spent on smoker's health care).

God says:

"But squander not your wealth in the manner of a spend thrift, verily spendthrifts are brothers of evils." - Surah, Al-Isra, 17:26, 27

The body is polluted by smoking. Hence smokers cannot pray until they have cleansed themselves. According to the Qur'an:

"0 ye who believe! Draw not near unto prayer when you are drunken, till ye know that which ye utter, nor when you are polluted save when journeying upon the road, till you have bathed." - Surah, An-Nisa, 4:43

The Christians consider the human body to be a sacred trust given to man by God because it contains the spirit breathed into it by God. Even the Qur'an says

"So, when I have made him and have breathed unto him of My spirit, do ye fall down, prostrating yourselves unto him." - Surah, Al-Hijr, 15:29.

Hence the physical body should not be polluted or injured or destroyed in any way by smoking or taking of alcohol or any type of habit-forming drugs.
 

ripefig

Junior Member
:salam2:

How do i let my Sisters know my feelings about them smoking, without hurting their feelings?

P.S i'm not sure whether smoking is haraam or makrooh? i would be very grateful if someone would correct me.
and sorry if i offended any Sister who smokes.

:wasalam:

:salam2:

Sometimes it is better to hurt someones feelings, than to let them go on hurting their body and soul. You can make it clear that you only want what is best for them. Smoking is bad for both Men and Women.:SMILY286:
 

Abdul Malik

Junior Member
advice

Asalam alaikum warahmatulahi wabrkatuh,

Its better to give good advice then no advice at all even though you might hurt thier feelings its for thier own good. Smoking is not good for the body and the pocket either aswell as putting thier own health at risk they polluting the little 1.

We understand for some people giving up isnt easy but doing something for the sake of ALLAH inshallah is the best thing.

Ruling on sitting with smokers when they are smoking

Question:
It is no secret that the forbidden habit of smoking is widespread, in the workplace, in the home and in public areas. The question is, is it permissible to sit with smokers? If a person is sitting with a smoker in his home or in a public gathering, should he leave him and go out?

Answer:

Praise be to Allaah.

As the brother has mentioned, smoking is haraam because of the general evidence that indicates that it is haraam. There is no specific text from the Messenger SAWS (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him), because smoking only emerged recently, but the principles of sharee’ah are general in application, and some indications in some reports indicate that it is haraam. If a smoker sits next to you and wants to smoke, then advise him gently and kindly. Tell him, “My brother, this is haraam, and it is not permissible for you.”

I think that if you advise him kindly and gently, he will refrain from smoking, as we and others have found out by experience. If he does not refrain from smoking, then you have to leave him, because Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

“And it has already been revealed to you in the Book (this Qur’aan) that when you hear the Verses of Allaah being denied and mocked at, then sit not with them, until they engage in a talk other than that; (but if you stayed with them) certainly in that case you would be like them…” [al-Nisa’ 4:140]

But this is when it is in a public place. If it is in the workplace and you advise him but he does not refrain, then there is no sin on you, because this is the matter of necessity and you could not get away from him.

Liqa’ al-Baab al-Maftooh by Ibn ‘Uthaymeen, 54/101.
 

Globalpeace

Banned
Smoking Kills!

Asslamo Allaikum,

May Allah (SWT) reward for your care and attention towards others; we need a lot more caring people such as you.

I am Sorry about the Subject-line but there is just no other way to put it!

In my experience dealing with youngsters who smoke around the Mosque (in conjunction with the NHS) I have come to know some facts which I am sure that you are aware of but just a reminder for me and others:

1) Smoking is bad for your health, dangerous and it is an activity that should be stopped regardless of it being “Makrooh” or “Haram”
2) People initially smoke because of its “comfort” factor and then they get addicted
3) Are these sisters initial smokers or addicted to it as the solution is different:
a. If they are initial smokers then there is something in their life which needs due attention and that’s why they are smoking and the reasons for smoking need to be remedied (please see the 15 tips below)
b. If they are addicted to smoking then may need some professional help (please see the 15 tips below)


1. Get professional help… Ring the helpline on Freephone 0800 169 0 169 for information and advice. Pregnant women seeking help in stopping smoking can call the pregnancy Quitline on 0800 169 9169. Specialist helplines are also available in Asian languages. Your doctor, pharmacist, or health visitor should also give advice and they should tell you if there are special services for smokers in your area. See also ASH’s quitting links for further help and resources.

2. Prepare mentally… You are not alone! 70% of British smokers would like to quit and about three million try each year. More than 11 million people in Britain have quit and are now ex-smokers. However, it can be tough and you will need lots of willpower to break the hold of nicotine – a powerful and addictive drug. An important part of this is to know what you would gain and what you would lose from stopping smoking. One ex-60-a-day smoker (Allen Carr, author of best-selling The Easy Way to Stop Smoking) says:
"there is absolutely nothing to give up… there is no genuine pleasure or crutch in smoking. It is just an illusion, like banging your head against a wall to make it pleasant when you stop."
3. Demolish smoking myths… Soon after smoking a cigarette the body and brain start to want more nicotine and many people begin to feel increasingly uncomfortable until they have the next cigarette. Smoking feels pleasurable, but much of the pleasure of smoking is relief of withdrawal from nicotine. There are times that many people feel distracted or unable to enjoy themselves because they are not able to smoke. This is nicotine withdrawal in action. If you see it this way, cigarettes are not a familiar friend but more like a greedy parasite demanding constant attention.

4. Understand what to expect… Most people find the first few days difficult and for some it can be a long struggle, but things will typically start to get better after the third or fourth day. Nicotine withdrawal may make you restless, irritable, frustrated, sleepless, or accident prone - but these things will pass and you will quickly start to feel the benefits. See the ASH fact sheet on Stopping smoking: benefits and aids to quitting.

5. Make a list of reasons why you want to stop smoking… It means different things to different people, but if you know what you want from stopping, it could help you through the most difficult moments. Reasons could include some or all of:
 Better all-round health - stopping smoking reduces risk of 50 different illnesses and conditions.
 The risk of a heart attack drops by 50% one year after quitting
 Cancer risk drops with every year of not smoking
 Live longer and stay well - one in two long-term smokers die early and lose about 16 years of life
 Set a good example to children - I don't want to be a smoking role model
 Have lots of money to spend on other things - smoking 20 a day costs around £1,800 per year
 Improved fitness and easier breathing – better at sports and getting up stairs
 Better chance of having a healthy baby
 Food and drink tastes better
 Better skin and complexion, and no early wrinkles
 Fresher smelling breath, hair and clothes, and no more cigarette smells around the house
 Back in full control and no longer craving or distracted when I am not smoking or not able to smoke
 Travel on trains, aircraft, buses will be easier
 Work will be easier and I won’t have to spend so much time outside
 Don't want to support tobacco companies
 Concern about environmental impact of tobacco growing
 Other …………………………………………….




6. Consider the money… Main brand cigarettes now cost almost £5.00 for a packet of 20. The table shows how much smoking costs at current prices.

Cigarettes
Per day Years of smoking
1 5 10 20 50
5 £456 £2,280 £4,560 £9,120 £22,800
10 £912 £4,560 £9,120 £18,240 £45,600
20 £1,825 £9,125 £18,250 £36,500 £91,250
40 £3,650 £18,250 £36,500 £73,000 £182,500

7. Set a date… Some people make a New Year’s Day resolution, others pick their birthday, and you can join in with others on No Smoking Day - the second Wednesday of every March - when up to a million smokers have a go. Any day will do, but choosing a date will help mental preparation.

8. Involve friends or family… If you live with someone else who smokes, it will be much easier to quit if you do it together. One common mistake is not to take the effort to quit smoking seriously enough. Really putting your whole commitment behind it will help you have the right frame of mind to face the challenge.

9. Deal with nicotine withdrawal…Nicotine is a powerful addictive drug (see ASH fact sheet on nicotine) and you can roughly double the chances of successfully quitting smoking by using nicotine replacement therapies such as patches, lozenges, inhalers, and/or gum. The idea is to come off nicotine gradually by using a low nicotine dose to take the edge off the cravings and have a ‘soft landing’. Nicotine products include Nicorette , NiQuitin CQ and Nicotinell. An alternative to nicotine products is the drug Zyban which is only available on prescription. Although it is proven to be effective, as with all drugs there is a risk of side effects and you will need to discuss with your doctor whether this form of therapy would be suitable for you.

10. Other treatments may help… Hypnosis, acupuncture or other treatments may help some people but there isn't much formal evidence supporting their effectiveness. Our advice is to use with caution, but even if they help mental preparation, then they have some value. Herbal cigarettes are pointless - you get all the tar, but nothing to help you deal with nicotine withdrawal. Quit has a good guide to treatments.

11. Find a (temporary) substitute habit… Smoking also involves having something to do with the hands or mouth. Non-smokers manage without this, so it will not be necessary in the long term. But if this is part of the smoking habit, you may need to deal with it. It might be an idea to use chewing gum, drink more water, fruit juice or tea, or to chew or eat something (but see weight gain below!).

12. Deal with any weight-gain worries… Yes it is true: many people do gain weight when they quit smoking. Nicotine changes the appetite and body's energy use (metabolism). Even if you do gain weight it will be worth it if you quit, but if you want to avoid weight-gain then you can prepare. For example, you can change your diet or avoid alcohol, or take more exercise. You may find QUIT’s guide Quit smoking without putting on weight helpful.

13. Avoid temptation… In the difficult first few days you can change your routine to avoid situations where you would usually smoke. For example, it might be worth avoiding the pub on the first Friday night after you quit.

14. If you can’t stop immediately, consider cutting down with NRT… Simply cutting down without setting a target to stop completely rarely works as consumption tends to rise again over time. However, new research shows that smokers who cut down and use nicotine replacement products (patches, gum, etc.) increase their chances of stopping smoking altogether.

15. Watch out for relapse… You will need to be on your guard especially in the first few days and weeks. "I'll have just one, it can't harm" is the top of a long and slippery slope. If you are upset or under pressure, it is really important to fight off the temptation to smoke – don’t let this be an excuse for slipping back. You could lose everything you've achieved just in a momentary lapse.
 

Karima

Junior Member
Asalamualkum,

When a muslimah wears her hijab for the right reasons, she should respect herself in this. To wear the hijab, in my opinion, is to be in honor before Allah...as well as to protect one's self from being 'seen' in full view.

Should a muslimah choose to smoke, then she should not allow the filth of smoke even come close to her hijab of honor before Allah.

All of the advice above is great!!! Alhamdulillah for those who spent time to make it very clear about the harm in smoking.

Salam
 

Karima

Junior Member
Asalamualikum,

I want to add that it is haram to smoke....when it does harm to one's self and to others.

I highly respect the muslims who fear Allah and show the proper ways of Islam.

Salam
 

Globalpeace

Banned
Asslamo Allaikum Brothers/Sisters,

May Allah (SWT) reward you all for your time and effort.

I think we all agree that it is a habit tantamount (actually it is) to self-harm and the perpetrator need to quit and all help needs to be provided in achieving this objective.

The opinion of the scholars who have stated it to be “Haram” lends more weight to the argument & the opinion of the scholars who have stated it to be “Makrooh” doesn’t diminish the seriousness of the situation regardless of “Sisters in Hijab” or “Brothers with Beard” doing it.

I believe from my experience that these Sisters & anyone else who smokes should be reasoned with, talked to and made to see the harm that they are causing to their Eeman & physical well being with politeness, courtesy and with Islamic manners. I have NEVER come across a smoking Muslim who is either proud of the habit or doesn’t intend to quit. It’s all about respecting the person and helping them put a plan together so they can actually quit!

Please note that it is not my intention to disrespect the scholars of either group or the injunctions of Shariah, I am simply trying to say that the efforts should be made to help the sisters, brothers, men, women, children quit because smoking is bad for the health. I hope that my point is understood without undue confusion.
 

Sister S

Junior Member
:salam2:

jazakallah khair to all the brothers/sisters who answered my question.
i know what i have to do now, inshallah.

please remeber all the brothers and sisters in your duas, may Allah give then the strength and guidance to quit smoking forever, inshallah.

:wasalam:
 

allmuslimsrequal

Junior Member
Salaam alikoum. When I became a muslimah I quit smoking. I had smoked for over 8 years, and it was very hard to give up. But I did it because I felt so guilty, I could not imagine Allah being pleased with me! We as Muslims should be giving good impressions- And to smoke in front of your small daughter is a terrible thing. My grandmother and my mother smoke, and both of them suffer terrible health problems now.
Continue talking with your sisters. Let them know how concerned you are for them, and let them know that it is not good for a Muslimah to smoke! I hope (inshallah) that they change their ways. Dont give up on them. It is a true addiction, not just a habit. Our bodies and minds become addicted to the cigarettes... It was hard for me to quit, but sometimes the hard things in life is what is Best for us! And our good intentions are never lost to Allah!
Good luck sweetie. and take care, and may peace and good health be with you. --sister sara.
 

abu turaab

Junior Member
Assalam-o-Alaikum brothers n sisters!!me too used to smoke...i quit since last ramadan..i think every smoker knows its destroying and harmful effects from inside..yet he or she's just get obssessed with it..these addictions usualy start by just following "trends" and by imitating others or bcz of the urge to "experience" what's forbidden..sometimes someone does smoke to seek refuge from depression..so i think if the smoker's sincere to quit it but don't know how to leave...then i'd say there's a great opportunity for them to get rid from this irressistable habit in ramadan...if you can obstain from smoking for dawn to sunset..you can resist the temptation upto fajar again..i quit it the same way...ALLAH will surely help if the smoker builds a sincere will to leave it...
w/salaam..
 

shaheeda35

strive4Jannah
:salam2:
A sister in hijab smoking, takes away the modesty that comes with it. People already put us down, so why give them something else bad to say?? Smoking is a nasty habit. It was hard for my father to stop, but he did, Alhamdullilah. Its not what you say, but how you say it. I pray you will get through to them, especially for the little ones sake. May Allah make it easy for you, Ameen!:tti_sister:
 

Imran_00

Descendent of Aadam
salaam allaikum

There is a nice saying " Smoking makes you loose Weight ........... One lung at a time" ... So Say NO to Smoking :SMILY286:
 

Saifu deen

Alhamdullah..
:salam2:

The main reason people smoke is because they assume that it will make them feel comfortable.

People who smoke thinking that smoking is = happiness, cool, relief, or important during tension or stress they will never stop smoking.

But people who realize that smoking = death, 31 different types of cancer, heart problem, illness, coughing, skin problem, blindness at the age of 40+, and less chances of producing sperm/egg, but still smoke they are most likley to stop it.

Simple ways to stop:

1) Once the smoker wakes up in the morning, the first thing he should say is '' Asbahna wa asbaha al molko lillah'', ask Allah (SWT) to help you quiting, also its very easy indeed (psychological)....

2) Change the habit with something that can be = happiness, cool, reduces tenstion and stress, and that must be prayer and excercise (reduces the stress, reduces craving because the brain will release happiness enzymes into your brain rather than releasing nicotine signals to your brain (specially in the morning, and after a meal).

3) As human being we take pain to move us forward for example, a brother who never used to pray, suddenly lost his father. This pain, made him move towards Allah(SWT) forever. What I mean here, the smoker shouldn't wait till he/she will be told you have throat, lungs, or tongue cancer, in order to quite.

4) Ramadan, is approaching, and the best way to stop smoking is during Ramdan, but of course preferably before. For 30 days you will not smoke in the mornings (the most difficult time for a smoker), and it takes 30 to 40 days for the nicotine to be fully out of your system. Its better to start now, voluntary fasting, so that you dont smoke in the mornings. Start 10 days before Ramdan, plus the 30 days of Ramdan you dont need to smoke again.

5) Always feel happy, and stay away for things that can stress you for example, news, movies that encourage you to smoke, music, and dont remeber the first you have smoked. According to research, every smoker (even canabis) seek to smoke to feel the dizziness they felt the first time they smoked.

6) Qur'an, dua, have wudu continues, if you are at home, smell (that way you realize your inner strength, and will always remember that you used to smell bad after you smoking.

7) From the seconf day, you will notice that, 4 hours of your sleep is = 8 hours of sleep when you used to smoke, the same meal that you used to eat, taste totally different, finally you can taste your food.

8) Let the people around you understand that you are quiting because first 2 or 3 days, you might loose your temper quickly. Remember Allah (SWT) say Aatho belah minal shytan el rajeem. Remember Allah (SWT) love those who keep their temper, and remember make your reason to quite is for the sake of Allah (SWT) so that Allah (SWT) will give you somthing much much better.

9) Your confidence will be 100%, the air you breath is cleaner, happiness will be with you always, the small things that make smoker angry, doesn't effect you no more.

10) Don't go the places where you used to smoke. For example, if you used to smoke in your room, change the room or exchange it with your brother or sister. Stop hanging around people who smoke, listen to islamic lecture on your MP3 (the more you listen to lectures, Qur'an, you will get ajar, stronger, and believe in your inner strength that you can be who you want to be)...

Smokers must remember, once you give up smoking, sweet life, air, food, happiness, no temper, smelling good, you know Allah (SWT) is happy, you listened to the prophet (PBUH), and you will notice that your sense of humor, confidence, and the feeling that you are a live, and you aint a slave for cigarrates (imagine you had that 5 minutes, to pray, or read Qur'an will be a better slave of ALlah (SWT)

:wasalam:
 

Abdul-Raheem

Signing Out.....
:salam2:

I can't stand cigarette smoke. If I find myself in places where people are smoking I simply leave (if it's possible), otherwise I might as well light up with them! Though this was difficult to do when I was in Cairo. According to statistics, half of the 77,498,000 strong population smoke! Unbelievable.....

wasalam
 
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