The problem with Islam is...
- Thread starter ShyHijabi
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Salaam,
Little sister.. I was thinking of you today. I am glad you are well. If it makes you feel any better I am a born Muslim and everyone is convinced that I am a revert.
Marry him..and let the old people be old people until you have a child..that makes all the difference in the world...been there and done that.
You do what is important..learn more about Islam and guide and heal others...as I have always said..what does not kill you makes you stronger.
You are in my heart..I always think of how strong you are..
have to get some beauty sleep as I am dreaming of my next husband..a pious Muslim...so you must make dua for me..my divorce is about to get finalized..
Little sister.. I was thinking of you today. I am glad you are well. If it makes you feel any better I am a born Muslim and everyone is convinced that I am a revert.
Marry him..and let the old people be old people until you have a child..that makes all the difference in the world...been there and done that.
You do what is important..learn more about Islam and guide and heal others...as I have always said..what does not kill you makes you stronger.
You are in my heart..I always think of how strong you are..
have to get some beauty sleep as I am dreaming of my next husband..a pious Muslim...so you must make dua for me..my divorce is about to get finalized..
Sister ShyHijabi... I am very sorry to hear about your hardship... But, I have to tell you that you the one who opened my eyes to this situation a few weeks ago.. Do you remember me telling you I was taking notes?? LOL.. Well Guess what?? Last Friday, a new brother took the Shahada after Friday prayers and I remembered you. I made a point to wait till after all the hugs he got from everyone, and I walked to him and took his phone number and email... And I have been in touch with him since then... I am making a special effort to stick with the new converts that I run into, and this is because of your advice and light shedding on the issue... I thank you my sister for making me a better Muslim.... And I was one of those who were born into Islam and I am from Syria.. I feel very ashamed of the lady from Syria who gave you a hard time... I'll tell you that even though she's from my home, I will stick with you ten times before I stick with her.
Just be patient my sister.. and rest assured that we're here to help you in any way we can.. You just let us know how!!!
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Just be patient my sister.. and rest assured that we're here to help you in any way we can.. You just let us know how!!!
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nyerekareem
abdur-rahman
:salam2:
i know exactly how you're feeling sister. the same has been happening to me for nearly 15 years. i've stopped attending jummah because it has just been too heartbreaking for me. i last went around a month ago. and i just went home crying and never wanted to go back. my belief in islam hasn't changed, but i'm just tired of being ignored for 15 years now. i haven't made a single friend, rarely get a salaam, never been invited in a muslim home, never invited for an iftar, and i feel no joy during the time of the two eids.
insha'ALLAH i'll be back soon. but i haven't had much motivation.
i know exactly how you're feeling sister. the same has been happening to me for nearly 15 years. i've stopped attending jummah because it has just been too heartbreaking for me. i last went around a month ago. and i just went home crying and never wanted to go back. my belief in islam hasn't changed, but i'm just tired of being ignored for 15 years now. i haven't made a single friend, rarely get a salaam, never been invited in a muslim home, never invited for an iftar, and i feel no joy during the time of the two eids.
insha'ALLAH i'll be back soon. but i haven't had much motivation.
Munawar
Striving for Paradise
:salam2:
I don't know why people call Muslims born in a Muslim family as "born Muslim".
Every human is a born Muslim. It is the people who raise them make them whatever.
So we should be calling them "Born in a Muslim family Muslim". It is a long name but is more accurate.
:salam2:
I'm actually surprised when i read at how much difficulty it is to get married to someone who has a Muslim family.
Mainly because Arab men have a reputation of marrying any ethnicity, and many actually prefer marrying non-Arab. Just from my dad's friends who are 60+, we know several who married converts.
I'm actually surprised when i read at how much difficulty it is to get married to someone who has a Muslim family.
Mainly because Arab men have a reputation of marrying any ethnicity, and many actually prefer marrying non-Arab. Just from my dad's friends who are 60+, we know several who married converts.
Munawar
Striving for Paradise
:salam2:
i know exactly how you're feeling sister. the same has been happening to me for nearly 15 years. i've stopped attending jummah because it has just been too heartbreaking for me. i last went around a month ago. and i just went home crying and never wanted to go back. my belief in islam hasn't changed, but i'm just tired of being ignored for 15 years now. i haven't made a single friend, rarely get a salaam, never been invited in a muslim home, never invited for an iftar, and i feel no joy during the time of the two eids.
insha'ALLAH i'll be back soon. but i haven't had much motivation.
:salam2: Brother nyerekareem,
Please check... your PM inbox is full. See this: http://www.turntoislam.com/forum/member.php?u=6914
Brother I know a few Muslims in New Jersey. I would love to help you in any way I can.
So, Brother please PM me with your contact information.
Also some time ago you posted that your wife had gone to her home country and she got sick. So, how is your wife now brother?
Please reply. Thanks.
wannabe_muttaqi
A MUSLIM BROTHER
ASAK Sister
ASAK Sister,
As i read your post believe me it really made my eyes wet. Mashallah whenver i read your posts, it is always an in-depth analysis of the subject. May ALLAH SWT grant you much more guidance and patience to guide others.
With respect to your situation, the place where i'm right now, the best i can do is make dua for you. Inshallah you will be fine soon. Patience is the key sister.
the beauty of patience is described below.
Narrated Abu Huraira: Allah's Apostle said, "The example of a
believer is that of a fresh tender plant; from whatever
direction the wind comes, it bends it, but when the wind
becomes quiet, it becomes straight again. Similarly, a
believer is afflicted with calamities (but he remains patient
till Allah removes his difficulties.) And an impious wicked
person is like a pine tree which keeps hard and straight till
Allah cuts (breaks) it down when He wishes." (See Hadith No.
558, Vol.
9.)
7.548:
Sometimes even i do feel "WHY ME?" , later I just bow down to HIM in submission saying that whatever HE does to me is the best for me. it takes all my worries and distress off.
Anyways May ALLAH SWT bless you and reward you for your patience.
JAK
ASAK Sister,
As i read your post believe me it really made my eyes wet. Mashallah whenver i read your posts, it is always an in-depth analysis of the subject. May ALLAH SWT grant you much more guidance and patience to guide others.
With respect to your situation, the place where i'm right now, the best i can do is make dua for you. Inshallah you will be fine soon. Patience is the key sister.
the beauty of patience is described below.
Narrated Abu Huraira: Allah's Apostle said, "The example of a
believer is that of a fresh tender plant; from whatever
direction the wind comes, it bends it, but when the wind
becomes quiet, it becomes straight again. Similarly, a
believer is afflicted with calamities (but he remains patient
till Allah removes his difficulties.) And an impious wicked
person is like a pine tree which keeps hard and straight till
Allah cuts (breaks) it down when He wishes." (See Hadith No.
558, Vol.
9.)
7.548:
Sometimes even i do feel "WHY ME?" , later I just bow down to HIM in submission saying that whatever HE does to me is the best for me. it takes all my worries and distress off.
Anyways May ALLAH SWT bless you and reward you for your patience.
JAK
a_stranger
Junior Member
Dear sister:
Don`t worry You are on a straight path. I feel sorry for ourselves : those who were born muslems and never grasp the beauty and wideness of Islam and imprisoned themselves in a very narrow prison of race and culture.
Don`t worry sister :Allah with you.
Whoever said:
SUBHAN ALLAHI WA BIHAMDIHI hundred 100 times,
All his sins will be forgiven even if they are as much as foam of the sea
WHoever will say:
LAILLAHA ILLA ANTA SUBHANAKA INNI KUNTU MINAZ ZALIMEEN,
Whenever he is in sorrow, Allah will take away all his sorrows, Just like he saved YUNUS A.S, when he was inside the fish.
The Prophet Muhammad (S.A.W) said, (There are) two words which are dear to the Beneficent (Allah) and very light (easy) for the tongue (to say), but very heavy in weight in the balance.
They are:
Subhan Allah WA-bi hamdihi and Subhan Allah Al-Azim.
Don`t worry You are on a straight path. I feel sorry for ourselves : those who were born muslems and never grasp the beauty and wideness of Islam and imprisoned themselves in a very narrow prison of race and culture.
Don`t worry sister :Allah with you.
Whoever said:
SUBHAN ALLAHI WA BIHAMDIHI hundred 100 times,
All his sins will be forgiven even if they are as much as foam of the sea
WHoever will say:
LAILLAHA ILLA ANTA SUBHANAKA INNI KUNTU MINAZ ZALIMEEN,
Whenever he is in sorrow, Allah will take away all his sorrows, Just like he saved YUNUS A.S, when he was inside the fish.
The Prophet Muhammad (S.A.W) said, (There are) two words which are dear to the Beneficent (Allah) and very light (easy) for the tongue (to say), but very heavy in weight in the balance.
They are:
Subhan Allah WA-bi hamdihi and Subhan Allah Al-Azim.
IslamicGirl24
Junior Member
Salam everyone!
The problem with Islam is... muslims!( really, so true!)
I remember an incident, when my sister was buying some shoes for herself with my father and mother. My sister wears a full Hijab and Niqaab Alhamdulillah. So anyways , this salesman came ( who was a muslim), and remarked on my sister's dressing. My sister, being patient didn't say anything and told my mother everything. My mum was SO angry and she threw the shoe that she was holding on the flour and said that I am not going to buy from this shop again! My father felt angry too and really gave the saleman a piece of his mind and said that you should be ashamed of yourself!!
Anyways, they apologized for the behaviour but my mum and sis are buoycotting ( Excuse my spellings please) that shop!
It really hurts you these kind of words come from your brothers and sisters in Islam.
May Allah Bless us all and gives us the patience and tolerance to become good muslims. Ameen!
The problem with Islam is... muslims!( really, so true!)
I remember an incident, when my sister was buying some shoes for herself with my father and mother. My sister wears a full Hijab and Niqaab Alhamdulillah. So anyways , this salesman came ( who was a muslim), and remarked on my sister's dressing. My sister, being patient didn't say anything and told my mother everything. My mum was SO angry and she threw the shoe that she was holding on the flour and said that I am not going to buy from this shop again! My father felt angry too and really gave the saleman a piece of his mind and said that you should be ashamed of yourself!!
Anyways, they apologized for the behaviour but my mum and sis are buoycotting ( Excuse my spellings please) that shop!
It really hurts you these kind of words come from your brothers and sisters in Islam.
May Allah Bless us all and gives us the patience and tolerance to become good muslims. Ameen!
Hard Rock Moslem
I'm your brother
:salam2:
I don't know why people call Muslims born in a Muslim family as "born Muslim".
Every human is a born Muslim. It is the people who raise them make them whatever.
So we should be calling them "Born in a Muslim family Muslim". It is a long name but is more accurate.
Brother I used the word "born muslim" because this is how they (so called born muslim) addressed themselves and they address me as "revert or convert" though it has been long time I reverted to Islam. I've the same feelings that I was born muslim but my parent is the one turned me into hinduism.
Let's close this subject because we are diverting from the main issue. Sorry if I created some blunders.
Sister....Subhanallah.......I proud of you, you must be strong and you do..just believe in Allah to make you stronger
Do you think that it is enough only saying the Shahadah to become muslim, no, there will test for your even harder than before converting to Islam. That what Allah says in general.
Everybody has different type of test. You with the thing that you have now. But do you think that live with muslim comunity will also guarantee that we will not be tested, or getting better understanding Islam, absolutely wrong. I live in country which has the biggest muslim comunity in the word, but what I notice not all ofthem practicing Islam properly, there still alot of shirk, they more afraid of old tradition than Quran. Even they more secular and liberal then the west country (christian). This also testing for us here to learn more about the correct Islam base on Quran and Hadist. In here is more difficult to find and learn what the correct Islam base on the Quran and Hadist.
I am not describing how bad muslim in my country, but just give the general feeling or condition. They are what you called born muslim, but the way of life does not reflect that.
But for sure we still alot of good moslem
So be strong, actually it is clear for you, in your neighborhoud as minority, which one is correct and incorrect just ignore the stupid moslem that has offended you. It is more difficult in Muslim area which everything can be summir or uncertain which one is from Allah (quran) which one is tradition.
I like to join this thread as all argumentation base on quran and sunnah
And I am still learning eventhough I was born in muslim family
ALhamdullillah
Do you think that it is enough only saying the Shahadah to become muslim, no, there will test for your even harder than before converting to Islam. That what Allah says in general.
Everybody has different type of test. You with the thing that you have now. But do you think that live with muslim comunity will also guarantee that we will not be tested, or getting better understanding Islam, absolutely wrong. I live in country which has the biggest muslim comunity in the word, but what I notice not all ofthem practicing Islam properly, there still alot of shirk, they more afraid of old tradition than Quran. Even they more secular and liberal then the west country (christian). This also testing for us here to learn more about the correct Islam base on Quran and Hadist. In here is more difficult to find and learn what the correct Islam base on the Quran and Hadist.
I am not describing how bad muslim in my country, but just give the general feeling or condition. They are what you called born muslim, but the way of life does not reflect that.
But for sure we still alot of good moslem
So be strong, actually it is clear for you, in your neighborhoud as minority, which one is correct and incorrect just ignore the stupid moslem that has offended you. It is more difficult in Muslim area which everything can be summir or uncertain which one is from Allah (quran) which one is tradition.
I like to join this thread as all argumentation base on quran and sunnah
And I am still learning eventhough I was born in muslim family
ALhamdullillah
halah
Junior Member
Asslamu alaikum
Dear Sister Sarah,I don't have much to say but believe me you always are in my dua ,may Allah strengthen your Iman and keep your heart firm on the straight path,Inshaa'Allah ,by the grace of Allah you'll overcome all these hardships you come through.The brthers and sisters here gave you good suggestions I hope it will be helpful .
Just one addition,I was born in muslim family,living in a muslim country,but since I've choosed to be totaly covered (I mean wearing niqab),many of my relatives never enterd my home, I'm deprived from going into many public places even some hospitals,one day a father answered his 3 years old son when he appointed at me saying what is this dad, he responded This is the evil ghost,so feelings of srangneth and lonlyness always combine those who try to be practicing muslims with different levels of course.
It is narrated on the authority of Abu Huraira that the Messenger of Allah (may peace be upon him) said: Islam initiated as something strange, and it would revert to its (old position) of being strange. so glad tidings for the stranger. (Muslim)
Dear Sister Sarah,I don't have much to say but believe me you always are in my dua ,may Allah strengthen your Iman and keep your heart firm on the straight path,Inshaa'Allah ,by the grace of Allah you'll overcome all these hardships you come through.The brthers and sisters here gave you good suggestions I hope it will be helpful .
Just one addition,I was born in muslim family,living in a muslim country,but since I've choosed to be totaly covered (I mean wearing niqab),many of my relatives never enterd my home, I'm deprived from going into many public places even some hospitals,one day a father answered his 3 years old son when he appointed at me saying what is this dad, he responded This is the evil ghost,so feelings of srangneth and lonlyness always combine those who try to be practicing muslims with different levels of course.
It is narrated on the authority of Abu Huraira that the Messenger of Allah (may peace be upon him) said: Islam initiated as something strange, and it would revert to its (old position) of being strange. so glad tidings for the stranger. (Muslim)
PARVEZ SHAHIDI
Junior Member
:salam2: sister,
May Allah SWT grant your dua, Ameen.
Sister ShyHijabi :salam2:,
You are a very lucky girl that Allah SWT guided you to HIS straight path.
Difficulties of this Dunia will go away today or tomorrow. Have patience, and you will not be among the LOSERS on Tha Day of Judgment, Insha-Allah.
Abdulhalim
New Member
Alaikomissalam warahmatollahi Wabarakatoh...
Dear Sister Sarah,
May Allah make you a strong believer and finds you a pious husband... while reading your post, it really upset me to know that born Muslims are mocking a reverted sister like you... they should be ashame of themselves because they are not practicing what they are supposed to. I am sure that your patience will be rewarded by Allah in the near future, and the best reward that we all muslims wants is the Jannah (Paradise)... Allah says, verily, Allah is with those with patience... Also, please note that our Prophet Mohammad SAW said 'Verily, Allah do not look upon your beauty (color or physical appearance) and wealth, but Allah is looking upon your heart and deeds... for as long as your intention of becoming a Muslim is to please your creator 'Allah', ignore those ignorant non-practicing Muslims - you are definitely better than them in the eyes of Allah...
Keep on reading about Islam and Allah as it will make you a better Muslim and Allah will ease all your struggles... Jazakallaho Khair.
BTW, I am a born-muslim from Philippines who works here in Saudi Arabia.
Dear Sister Sarah,
May Allah make you a strong believer and finds you a pious husband... while reading your post, it really upset me to know that born Muslims are mocking a reverted sister like you... they should be ashame of themselves because they are not practicing what they are supposed to. I am sure that your patience will be rewarded by Allah in the near future, and the best reward that we all muslims wants is the Jannah (Paradise)... Allah says, verily, Allah is with those with patience... Also, please note that our Prophet Mohammad SAW said 'Verily, Allah do not look upon your beauty (color or physical appearance) and wealth, but Allah is looking upon your heart and deeds... for as long as your intention of becoming a Muslim is to please your creator 'Allah', ignore those ignorant non-practicing Muslims - you are definitely better than them in the eyes of Allah...
Keep on reading about Islam and Allah as it will make you a better Muslim and Allah will ease all your struggles... Jazakallaho Khair.
BTW, I am a born-muslim from Philippines who works here in Saudi Arabia.
cmelbouzaidi
Junior Member
:salam2: You are a wonderful sister :ma: and you are in my duaa along with Sister Sarah and Sister Palestine
and all the wonderful sisters I have on tti. I have missed you all so much and need to spend time here again with this most loving e-ummah Your sister in Islam. WassalamAbdulhalim
New Member
I am sorry, it should be addressed to SISTER SHYHIJABI...instead of Sister Sarah.
Dear Sister, I am also a non-born Muslim, but I am so proud of it because it means that I have searched the Truth by myself and I have got It. So no misbehaviour of a muslim brother will make me go back where I was before. Islam is The Religion of God(Allah), if you come to Islam, do not look at people attitude toward you and make decision, look only at what the Holy Qu'ran says and what the Hadiths of our Prophet say. I also noticed that some people think that Islam is theirs, they are totally wrong and totally ignorant. Islam is the religion of all man kind from all the universe. always have in mind that you are Muslim because of your trust in Allah, not because of people who do not know really what they are doing.
Can you imagine that in arab countries in jobs advertisements, they always indicate the kind of race, nationality, citizenship they are looking for!!!!!! It is so UN-ISLAMIC to put differences or preferences between the races.
I invite every Muslim to read the final sermont of our Prophet (PBUH) and have it in mind each second of his life. Islam is so beautiful that we do not have the right to put dirty on It because of our misunderstanding of His teaching.
The Final Sermon:
After praising, and thanking God, the Prophet, may God send His praises upon him said:
“O People, lend me an attentive ear, for I know not whether after this year, I shall ever be amongst you again. Therefore, listen to what I am saying to you very carefully and take these words to those who could not be present here today.
O People, just as you regard this month, this day, this city as Sacred, so regard the life and property of every Muslim as a sacred trust. Return the goods entrusted to you to their rightful owners. Hurt no one so that no one may hurt you. Remember that you will indeed meet your Lord, and that He will indeed reckon your deeds. God has forbidden you to take usury (interest), therefore all interest obligation shall henceforth be waived. Your capital, however, is yours to keep. You will neither inflict nor suffer any inequity. God has Judged that there shall be no interest, and that all the interest due to Abbas ibn Abd’al Muttalib shall henceforth be waived...
Beware of Satan, for the safety of your religion. He has lost all hope that he will ever be able to lead you astray in big things, so beware of following him in small things.
O People, it is true that you have certain rights with regard to your women, but they also have rights over you. Remember that you have taken them as your wives only under a trust from God and with His permission. If they abide by your right then to them belongs the right to be fed and clothed in kindness. Do treat your women well and be kind to them for they are your partners and committed helpers. And it is your right that they do not make friends with any one of whom you do not approve, as well as never to be unchaste.
O People, listen to me in earnest, worship God, perform your five daily prayers, fast during the month of Ramadan, and offer Zakat. Perform Hajj if you have the means.
All mankind is from Adam and Eve. An Arab has no superiority over a non-Arab, nor does a non-Arab have any superiority over an Arab; white has no superiority over black, nor does a black have any superiority over white; [none have superiority over another] except by piety and good action. Learn that every Muslim is a brother to every Muslim and that the Muslims constitute one brotherhood. Nothing shall be legitimate to a Muslim which belongs to a fellow Muslim unless it was given freely and willingly. Do not, therefore, do injustice to yourselves.
Remember, one day you will appear before God and answer for your deeds. So beware, do not stray from the path of righteousness after I am gone.
O People, no prophet or apostle will come after me, and no new faith will be born. Reason well, therefore, O people, and understand words which I convey to you. I leave behind me two things, the Quran and my example, the Sunnah, and if you follow these you will never go astray.
All those who listen to me shall pass on my words to others and those to others again; and it may be that the last ones understand my words better than those who listen to me directly. Be my witness, O God, that I have conveyed your message to your people.”
Thus the beloved Prophet completed his Final Sermon, and upon it, near the summit of Arafat, the revelation came down:
“…This day have I perfected your religion for you, completed My Grace upon you, and have chosen Islam for you as your religion…” (Quran 5:3)
Even today the Last Sermon of Prophet Muhammad is passed to every Muslim in every corner of the word through all possible means of communication. Muslims are reminded about it in mosques and in lectures. Indeed the meanings found in this sermon are indeed astounding, touching upon some of the most important rights God has over humanity, and humanity has over each other. Though the Prophet’s soul has left this world, his words are still living in our hearts.
Can you imagine that in arab countries in jobs advertisements, they always indicate the kind of race, nationality, citizenship they are looking for!!!!!! It is so UN-ISLAMIC to put differences or preferences between the races.
I invite every Muslim to read the final sermont of our Prophet (PBUH) and have it in mind each second of his life. Islam is so beautiful that we do not have the right to put dirty on It because of our misunderstanding of His teaching.
The Final Sermon:
After praising, and thanking God, the Prophet, may God send His praises upon him said:
“O People, lend me an attentive ear, for I know not whether after this year, I shall ever be amongst you again. Therefore, listen to what I am saying to you very carefully and take these words to those who could not be present here today.
O People, just as you regard this month, this day, this city as Sacred, so regard the life and property of every Muslim as a sacred trust. Return the goods entrusted to you to their rightful owners. Hurt no one so that no one may hurt you. Remember that you will indeed meet your Lord, and that He will indeed reckon your deeds. God has forbidden you to take usury (interest), therefore all interest obligation shall henceforth be waived. Your capital, however, is yours to keep. You will neither inflict nor suffer any inequity. God has Judged that there shall be no interest, and that all the interest due to Abbas ibn Abd’al Muttalib shall henceforth be waived...
Beware of Satan, for the safety of your religion. He has lost all hope that he will ever be able to lead you astray in big things, so beware of following him in small things.
O People, it is true that you have certain rights with regard to your women, but they also have rights over you. Remember that you have taken them as your wives only under a trust from God and with His permission. If they abide by your right then to them belongs the right to be fed and clothed in kindness. Do treat your women well and be kind to them for they are your partners and committed helpers. And it is your right that they do not make friends with any one of whom you do not approve, as well as never to be unchaste.
O People, listen to me in earnest, worship God, perform your five daily prayers, fast during the month of Ramadan, and offer Zakat. Perform Hajj if you have the means.
All mankind is from Adam and Eve. An Arab has no superiority over a non-Arab, nor does a non-Arab have any superiority over an Arab; white has no superiority over black, nor does a black have any superiority over white; [none have superiority over another] except by piety and good action. Learn that every Muslim is a brother to every Muslim and that the Muslims constitute one brotherhood. Nothing shall be legitimate to a Muslim which belongs to a fellow Muslim unless it was given freely and willingly. Do not, therefore, do injustice to yourselves.
Remember, one day you will appear before God and answer for your deeds. So beware, do not stray from the path of righteousness after I am gone.
O People, no prophet or apostle will come after me, and no new faith will be born. Reason well, therefore, O people, and understand words which I convey to you. I leave behind me two things, the Quran and my example, the Sunnah, and if you follow these you will never go astray.
All those who listen to me shall pass on my words to others and those to others again; and it may be that the last ones understand my words better than those who listen to me directly. Be my witness, O God, that I have conveyed your message to your people.”
Thus the beloved Prophet completed his Final Sermon, and upon it, near the summit of Arafat, the revelation came down:
“…This day have I perfected your religion for you, completed My Grace upon you, and have chosen Islam for you as your religion…” (Quran 5:3)
Even today the Last Sermon of Prophet Muhammad is passed to every Muslim in every corner of the word through all possible means of communication. Muslims are reminded about it in mosques and in lectures. Indeed the meanings found in this sermon are indeed astounding, touching upon some of the most important rights God has over humanity, and humanity has over each other. Though the Prophet’s soul has left this world, his words are still living in our hearts.