Aisya al-Humaira
الحمدلله على كل حال
To every Muslim woman who is content with Allaah as her Lord, Islam as her religion and Muhammad (Blessings and Peace be upon him) as her Prophet.
To every girl who follows the path of truth, who carried the message of sincerity.
To every teacher who strives by means of her words to convey knowledge and values, and has purified her soul.
To every mother who brings her children up to fear Allaah and to follow the Sunnah, and makes virtue dear to them.
To every woman who is burdened with worried and sadness.
Rejoice and receive the glad tidings of a way-out at hand, the care of Allaah, a great reward and expiation of sins.
To every girl who follows the path of truth, who carried the message of sincerity.
To every teacher who strives by means of her words to convey knowledge and values, and has purified her soul.
To every mother who brings her children up to fear Allaah and to follow the Sunnah, and makes virtue dear to them.
To every woman who is burdened with worried and sadness.
Rejoice and receive the glad tidings of a way-out at hand, the care of Allaah, a great reward and expiation of sins.
Yes!
Yes to your beautiful smile that sends a message of warmth and friendliness to others.
Yes to your kind words that establish friendship as permitted in Islam and dispel rancour.
Yes to acceptable charity that brings happiness to the poor and feeds the hungry.
Yes to sitting with the Qur'an, reciting it, pondering its meanings and acting upon them, and repenting and seeking forgiveness.
Yes to remembering Allaah a great deal and praying for forgiveness, persisting in dua'a and offering sincere repentance.
Yes to raising your children in Islam, teaching them the Sunnah and guiding them to that which will benefit them.
Yes to modesty and hijaab as enjoined by Allaah, which is the means of self-protection.
Yes to the friendship of good women who fear Allaah, love Islam and respect high values.
Yes to honouring one's parents, upholding the ties of kinship, honouring one's neighbours and caring for orphans.
Yes to reading useful, interesting and beneficial books.
No!
No to wasting time in trivial pursuits, and love of revenge and futile arguments.
No to giving priority to money and accumulation of wealth over one's health, happiness, sleep and peace of mind.
No to seeking out other people's faults and backbitting about them, whilst forgetting one's own faults.
No to indulging in physical pleasure and giving in to every whim and desire.
No to wasting time with shallow people and spending hours in idle pursuits.
No to neglecting physical hygiene and cleanliness in the house, and being disorganized at home.
No to haraam drinks, cigarettes, narghile ("hookah pipes"), and all foul things.
No to thinking of past calamities and dwelling on past mistakes.
No to forgetting the Hereafter and neglecting to strive for it, and to being careless of what will happen in the Hereafter.
No to wasting money on haraam things, being extravagant with regard to permissible things, and falling short in acts of worship.
1. A Woman who challenged tyranny
"And Allaah has set forth an example for those who believe: the wife of Fir'awn (Pharoah), when she said: "My Lord! Build for me a home with You in Paradise, and save me from the people who are Zalimun (polytheists, wrongdoers and disbelievers in Allaah)." 66:11
Think about how Allaah made this woman - Asiyah, may Allaah be pleased with her - a living example for believing men and women, a clear symbol for everyone who wants to be guided and follow the ways of Allaah in life. How wise this woman was, when she sought a home with the Lord and put that above her worldly interests. She freed herself from the control of the kaafir (disbeliever) tyrant Pharoah and refused to live in this palace with his servants and courtiers, and with all its luxuries. She sought a better home that was more lasting and more beautiful, with the Lord of the Worlds, amidst gardens and rivers, in a seat of truth (i.e Paradise), near the Omnipotent King (Allaah, the One, the All-Blessed, the Most High, the Owner of Majesty and Honour) (54:55).
2. You have a huge wealth of blessings
My sister, verily with every difficulty there is ease (94:6); after night comes the day. The clouds of worry will be blown away, the darkness of distress will be dispelled, and calamities will come to an end, by Allaah's leave. Remember that you will be rewarded, and if you are a mother, your children will be a great support and help for Islam, if you bring them up properly. They will make dua'a for you when they prostrate and at the end of the night, just before dawn. It is a great blessing if you are a comppasionate and a kind mother. It is sufficient honour and pride for you to remember that the mother of Muhammad (Blessings and Peace be upon him) gave mankind a great leader, the noble Messenger.
You have the potential to be a da'iyah (caller to Islam) calling other women to the path of Allaah with kind words, good exhortation and wisdom, arguing in a manner that is better, debating and guiding others by means of your good behaviour and setting an example. A woman may achieve, by means of her conduct and righteous deeds, things that cannot be achieved by means of khutbahs (religious sermons), lectures and lessons. How often has a woman gone to live in a neighbourhood, and people started to talk about her religious commitment, modesty, hijaab and good attitude, her kindness to her neighbours and her obedience to her husband, so she became a good example to others, that was spoken of by all.
3. The believing woman and the disbelieveing woman are not equal
You can be happy if you examine just one issue - the situation of the Muslim woman in the Muslim lands and the situation of the disbelieving woman in the land of disbelief.
The Muslim woman in the Muslim land is a believing woman who gives charity, fasts, prays qiyaam al-Layl, observes hijaab, obeys her husband, fears her Lord, is kind to her neighbours and is compassionate towards her children. So she is to be congratulated for her great reward, tranquility and contenment.
The disbelieving woman in the lands of disbelief is a woman who makes a wanton display of herself, she is ignorant and foolish, a mere fashion model, a cheap and worthless product on offer in all places. She has no value, honour or religion.
Compare the two situations and you will see that you are the happiest, the most well off.
"So do not become weak (against your enemy), nor be sad, and you will be superior (in victory) if you are indeed (true) believers." (3:139)
4. You are better off than millions of women
Think of the world as a whole, of the hospitals filled with patients who have been stricken with disease and calamity for many years, and the prisons in which thousands of people are held behind bars, their lives and pleasures ruined, and the asylums and hospitals which accommodate people who have lost their minds and have become insane.
Are there not poor people living in tattered tents and havels, who cannot find a bite to eat? Are there not women who have been stricken with calamities that took away all their children in a single accident? Or women who have lost their sight or hearing, or whose arms or legs have been amputated, or who have lost their minds, or who have been stricken with chronic diseases?
But you are sound in body and in good health, living a life of tranquility, security and contenment. So give thanks to Allaah, the Exalted, All-Merciful, for His Blessings and do not waste your time with things that are not pleasing to Him, sitting for hours in front of satellite TV with its cheap, nasty and follish content that makes the heart sick and causes depression, and makes the body lethargic.
5. Build yourself a palace in Paradise
Look how many generations have passed away. Did they take their wealth with them? Did they take their palaces and their high status? Were they buried with their gold and silver? Did they take their cars and planes with them to the Hereafter? No! They were stripped even of their clothing and placed in their graves in their shrouds. So prepare yourself for that day; do not grieve or despair about any worldly comforts, for they are cheap and transient. Nothing will abide except righteous deeds. Allaah, the Exalted says:
"Whoever works righteousness - whether male or female - while he/she is a true believer (of Islamic monotheism) verily, to him We will give a good life (in this world with respect, contenment and lawful provision), and We shall pay them certainly a reward in proportion to the best of what they used to do (Paradise in the Hereafter)." (16:97)
...more to come. Stay tuned
P/S : I didnt post it in the sisters' club because I thought that the men can also benefits from this thread. InshaAllaah. Can share it with their mothers, sisters or spouses.
Source/Book title: "You can be the Happiest Woman in the World : A treasure Chest of Reminders" by Dr A'id al-Qarni