Convert missing Xmas

[dianek]

OK, so you will all probably tell me how pathetic I am and wrong.....but remember be gentle.....I miss the warmth and spirit of the Christmas season. Now that my kids are overseas and I just had a very lonely Eid.....truthfully, felt like just another day, even though I did fast on Tuesday......It makes me long for the traditions of my life, like christmas. Not for religious purposes but the memories it conjures and stirs in me from my childhood and the christmas' spent with my eldest daughter. I am heartbroken that I don't have the money to provide for her, my oldest, a good christmas this year. My husband won't allow it now that I am muslim, I should not provide christmas for my daughter. I am lost and sad.......any encouraging words out there?

 

[croatian/jewconv]

im a convert to islam too elhamdulilah

i feel quite opposite then you though tell you the truth
the rest of family are kufaar and im getting quite sick of hearing all this christmas music in my house

if i have to hear jingle bells one more time when im doing my salaaat im gonna smash somebodies head

 

[dianek]

im a convert to islam too elhamdulilah

i feel quite opposite then you though tell you the truth
the rest of family are kufaar and im getting quite sick of hearing all this christmas music in my house

if i have to hear jingle bells one more time when im doing my salaaat im gonna smash somebodies head

Well, it has always been a wonderful time of year for me and my family....so I miss the warmth of it all....maybe next year will be better....

 

[croatian/jewconv]

christmas is nice and all but its too materialistic
may Allaaah(sw) bid us refuge from its tempatations

 

[croatian/jewconv]

Well, it has always been a wonderful time of year for me and my family....so I miss the warmth of it all....maybe next year will be better....

i know...it is warm and cozy ....but i dono...i dono what to say

 

[dianek]

What made you convert? How is your family dealing with it and you with them?

 

[TheHumbleWun]

OK, so you will all probably tell me how pathetic I am and wrong.....but remember be gentle.....I miss the warmth and spirit of the Christmas season. Now that my kids are overseas and I just had a very lonely Eid.....truthfully, felt like just another day, even though I did fast on Tuesday......It makes me long for the traditions of my life, like christmas. Not for religious purposes but the memories it conjures and stirs in me from my childhood and the christmas' spent with my eldest daughter. I am heartbroken that I don't have the money to provide for her, my oldest, a good christmas this year. My husband won't allow it now that I am muslim, I should not provide christmas for my daughter. I am lost and sad.......any encouraging words out there?

Salaam,

Like sister Mirajmom says "Islam is a spiritual journey." The more you practice Islam the less you will be intrigued in these festivities. Many tend to lose non-Muslims freinds, give up alcohol, smoking, partying, etc. This is inevitable. This is what happens over time. Just remember that this life is just a test. Your reward will remain with Allah swt. Inshallah things will get better gradually.

 

[Allahu_Hassbi]

Salaam,

Like sister Mirajmom says "Islam is a spiritual journey." The more you practice Islam the less you will be intrigued in these festivities. Many tend to lose non-Muslims freinds, give up alcohol, smoking, partying, etc. This is inevitable. This is what happens over time. Just remember that this life is just a test. Your reward will remain with Allah swt. Inshallah things will get better gradually.

:salam2:
I agree with you 100 %

 

[Allahu_Hassbi]

christmas is nice and all but its too materialistic
may Allaaah(sw) bid us refuge from its tempatations

:salam2:
Allahumma Ameen to what you said.
Brother I see your words full of Imaan.:ma:
May Allah SWT always increase it for you.Inshallah.:tti_sister:
Very few can prevent themselves from such temptations.
May Allah SWT guide all those engaged in such delusions.Ameen:tti_sister:

 

[tabaria]

:salam2:
Eid was like 3 days ago. You could have bought your daughter eid presents, and went out or something. During the eid sermon the imam stressed the need to ensure this day was different for the family not just regular routine. I'm not sure how big the muslim community is were you live, but up here they have a variety of events. Try seeing what's happening around you but they usually have some type of events going on.

 

[Optimist]

Assalam Alaikoom !

How r u doing Diane ?

It is tough and shaytan is just making all this stuff beautiful in your eyes. See the wider picture and think how people are lured into shirk (polytheism) with these niceties (food, company, festivals .. etc) that act like a bait. Think about your feeling if you do go there. I'm sure you won't really feel good, rather guilty. It only looks now nice BECAUSE you are not going.

And remember, the harder the test the bigger the reward when you pass it.

Quran 29:2-3

"Do people think that they will be left alone because they say: "We believe," and will not be tested ? And We indeed tested those who were before them. And Allâh will certainly make (it) known (the truth of) those who are true, and will certainly make (it) known (the falsehood of) those who are liars"

 

[ProudToBeaMuslim]

Assalam Alaikoom !

How r u doing Diane ?

It is tough and shaytan is just making all this stuff beautiful in your eyes. See the wider picture and think how people are lured into shirk (polytheism) with these niceties (food, company, festivals .. etc) that act like a bait. Think about your feeling if you do go there. I'm sure you won't really feel good, rather guilty. It only looks now nice BECAUSE you are not going.

And remember, the harder the test the bigger the reward when you pass it.

Quran 29:2-3

"Do people think that they will be left alone because they say: "We believe," and will not be tested ? And We indeed tested those who were before them. And Allâh will certainly make (it) known (the truth of) those who are true, and will certainly make (it) known (the falsehood of) those who are liars"

:ma: :ma: :ma: :ma: :ma:

 

[simmri]

OK, so you will all probably tell me how pathetic I am and wrong.....but remember be gentle.....I miss the warmth and spirit of the Christmas season. Now that my kids are overseas and I just had a very lonely Eid.....truthfully, felt like just another day, even though I did fast on Tuesday......It makes me long for the traditions of my life, like christmas. Not for religious purposes but the memories it conjures and stirs in me from my childhood and the christmas' spent with my eldest daughter. I am heartbroken that I don't have the money to provide for her, my oldest, a good christmas this year. My husband won't allow it now that I am muslim, I should not provide christmas for my daughter. I am lost and sad.......any encouraging words out there?

I know exactly how u feel. This year is my first year away from mum, dad and brother in christmas. And I must say I miss it. For us christmas has always been a time where we stay together and eat good food, play games and just enjoy being a family. The only time in the year. Frankly, I dont see any harm in that. We live far away from each other and it means alot for my parents. Maybe Im bad, but I dont want to give this up. My parents mean alot to me, I hope Allah will understand.

 

[new-muslim]

As salam o alaikum

Yes I know how you feel Diane. It does get easier though. I do know Muslims though that say that you can go to say Christmas events/meal as long as you are not participating in any religious acts or any other things haram. I was looking on Islamonline last night and similar advice was given to someone who was wanting to go to their mother's house on Christmas as she'd be alone. A sister that leads the prayer circle near me goes each year to her fsmily's at Christmas. She stays for say the meal then leaves and thats the time when they start drinking alcohol etc. My husband though is not happy with me going to my family at Christmas. My family were supposed to be coming round tomorrow for a meal but my husband took it as it's a Christmas meal really, so no they can't come!! It wasn't meant that way though. Anyway it is difficult-the whole atmosphere of Xmas is in your face everywhere but now it doesn't bother me too much. I know the mosque near me usually have something on the 25th-various Imams come to visit. Maybe you could find out.
Salam o alaikum

 

[dianek]

:salam2:
Eid was like 3 days ago. You could have bought your daughter eid presents, and went out or something. During the eid sermon the imam stressed the need to ensure this day was different for the family not just regular routine. I'm not sure how big the muslim community is were you live, but up here they have a variety of events. Try seeing what's happening around you but they usually have some type of events going on.

My daughter is not muslim, nor does she know that I have converted. I was all alone with this one, thus no different than the day before or after.......thanks all for the words.

 

[dianek]

I know exactly how u feel. This year is my first year away from mum, dad and brother in christmas. And I must say I miss it. For us christmas has always been a time where we stay together and eat good food, play games and just enjoy being a family. The only time in the year. Frankly, I dont see any harm in that. We live far away from each other and it means alot for my parents. Maybe Im bad, but I dont want to give this up. My parents mean alot to me, I hope Allah will understand.

Well, I am going to my parents for Christmas Eve and day. My family does not celebrate any religious aspect of Christmas, it is like you said food and family........I agree with you that there is no harm in this. It's nice to know that there are others out there who get where I am coming from. I am sorry you will not be able to see them this year.

Also, my family does not drink anyway so I don't need to concern myself with trying to avoid this issue.

 

[tabaria]

My daughter is not muslim, nor does she know that I have converted. I was all alone with this one, thus no different than the day before or after.......thanks all for the words.

:salam2:
She doesn't have to be. It could be your eid and a special day for her, where she does something different.

 

[Munawar]

I know exactly how u feel. This year is my first year away from mum, dad and brother in christmas. And I must say I miss it. For us christmas has always been a time where we stay together and eat good food, play games and just enjoy being a family. The only time in the year. Frankly, I dont see any harm in that. We live far away from each other and it means alot for my parents. Maybe Im bad, but I dont want to give this up. My parents mean alot to me, I hope Allah will understand.

Yes sister simmri... Allah will surely understand it. Allah has created you, me and every other creature in this universe. He knows what is in your heart and what is in other people's heart. So, surely he understands everything.

Allah is all knowing, which means that he knows whatsoever happened in the past and whatsoever is happening in the present and whatsoever will happen in the future. Nothing is secret from him and He has power over everything.

So, I hope you learn more about your creator, Allah (Tabarak-Wa-Talla)

 

[Shahzad]

may ALLAH grants u more sabar sister dianek.

We have really joyfull eid. We slaughtered cows and goats and then ate them

 

[dianne]

Salam,

My older son doesnt have a chance to celebrate a christmas with his grandparents and his biological father.
Since i was real far away from them,so were not able to meet,im in Malaysia & his grandparents in Oregon while his dad is Washington State.
my son only know Eid,he doesnt know what is Christmas.i do not know what is going to be when he celebrated christmas for a first time.
im lucky that my son with me,to give him the right way of life - Islam.

wassalam