El Gordito
strength thru faith
wasalaamu alaikum waramatullahi wabarakatuhu TTI !
i need your advices !
for the past few weeks i have been fighting with my wife... well more she has been fighting me.. i have been only trying to maintain peace and stability... and to be nice and kind to her..
she cannot accept Islam as my choice and my faith...
when we married, she was a devout Christian..and i was raised Catholic, but never really felt that dedicated to it.. although i attended CCD for 10 years, and even served on the Altar... but after years of questioning and inner turmoil.. i figured it was just best that I believed in the Creator, and maintained my faith my own way... until of course i began to research and feel the Dawah all around me...
anyway.. she has begun to get violent (pooring water on my head in my sleep, and slapping me in my face in public places)... lots of screeming and shouting...
she keeps saying she just wants me to be back to old times.. but i cannot go back to
1) celebrating holidays i never believed in
2) looking at graven images of Jesus (pbuh) and crosses in my home
3) letting her watch very haram movies
4) allowing alcohol and pork in my refrigerator, and smoking in my house
5) my old life style was lost, directionless and hedonistic... i can't go back
I refuse to shake my faith, for her.. or any human on earth... and yet
she gave me an ultimatum - Islam.. or her.
is this enough for a divorce? i am sick of her treating me like this...
it's not just my Deen though, its everything... the events in the past few weeks have only opened up my eyes to see just how bad our marriage has been.. times where i thought i was doing the right thing by allowing her to act anyway she wanted, and for me to just cater to her feelings no matter how illogical or nonsensical it was....
*sigh*
a'oodthu billahi minash shaitanir rajeem
i do not want to hit her... and when i suggest time apart... she gets only more violent... i need to know what to do.
i know it is said that you can never love someone who does not love Allah (swt) the same way you do.............. so.... does this mean I can call for divorce?
jzk
i need your advices !
for the past few weeks i have been fighting with my wife... well more she has been fighting me.. i have been only trying to maintain peace and stability... and to be nice and kind to her..
she cannot accept Islam as my choice and my faith...
when we married, she was a devout Christian..and i was raised Catholic, but never really felt that dedicated to it.. although i attended CCD for 10 years, and even served on the Altar... but after years of questioning and inner turmoil.. i figured it was just best that I believed in the Creator, and maintained my faith my own way... until of course i began to research and feel the Dawah all around me...
anyway.. she has begun to get violent (pooring water on my head in my sleep, and slapping me in my face in public places)... lots of screeming and shouting...
she keeps saying she just wants me to be back to old times.. but i cannot go back to
1) celebrating holidays i never believed in
2) looking at graven images of Jesus (pbuh) and crosses in my home
3) letting her watch very haram movies
4) allowing alcohol and pork in my refrigerator, and smoking in my house
5) my old life style was lost, directionless and hedonistic... i can't go back
I refuse to shake my faith, for her.. or any human on earth... and yet
she gave me an ultimatum - Islam.. or her.
is this enough for a divorce? i am sick of her treating me like this...
it's not just my Deen though, its everything... the events in the past few weeks have only opened up my eyes to see just how bad our marriage has been.. times where i thought i was doing the right thing by allowing her to act anyway she wanted, and for me to just cater to her feelings no matter how illogical or nonsensical it was....
*sigh*
a'oodthu billahi minash shaitanir rajeem
i do not want to hit her... and when i suggest time apart... she gets only more violent... i need to know what to do.
i know it is said that you can never love someone who does not love Allah (swt) the same way you do.............. so.... does this mean I can call for divorce?
jzk