What should i say?

[zinirah]

:salam2:
I am sister from Usa. I reverted to Islam on February 4th. My mother was 100% against me becoming a Muslim. One day she yelled at me and told me to either give up this faith or find someone else to live with. I know she loves me and thinks she is doing best for me, besides the fact that she doesn't want a Muslim in her house. So now i live with my grandmother to practice my faith freely. She is also Christian...I figured she would accept me a little more since i haven't seen her in awhile...but now she is the same as my mother. This house hold is horrible. She treats me like crap, and she is always trying to argue about how i am wrong in my choice...she does so much haram...she doesn't let me use a phone to contact anyone or use a computer (I am secretly using from library) her and my mother keep in contact and talk about me and how i am, and if i am having second thoughts on Islam. I know this is the truth and they cant change me, and I treat them with respect even if they don't treat me that way, and i don't follow the haram that they do...so anyways..i go to a school here were i am living..one day i met this teacher she is also Muslim..and she asked me about my family and how i came to Islam and my living..I told her everything..So she takes me to her home a couple of times (secretly) and she introduced me to her family. This lady agrees that i have horrible living place..so she told her sister everything.. Her sister wants to take me into her family. They are such a wonderful family too and I think it would be best for me to live in a Muslim family..but i don't know how this process could be, and i know for sure that my mother is going to hate this idea...but how do i get it to happen????I know it's Allah's will..but how should i bring it up to my mother and grandmother? There Christian and this woman is Muslim of course there not going to like the idea having their daughter with someone they don't know.and is muslim...but how do i get them to agree to it?????? HELP! REALLY I CAN'T TAKE BEING DEPRESSED all the time and my real family treating me like crap!!!

 

[ShyHijabi]

Salaam sister,

You do not tell us your age so this makes giving advice dfficult. If you are under 18 yrs of age then the only advice I can give is for you to continue to live with your family until you reach the proper age to leave. If you are under age then legally your mother cannot kick you out, this is considered child abandonment and she can go to jail for it. Technically as long as you worship Allah swt in your heart and try to pray your salat (you may have to do this in secret) then you are doing everything you can. Allah knows your heart and your intentions.

If you are a legal adult then you simply move out and that's that. Continue to treat your elders with respect but also put yourself in a place where you are free to worship.

Wasalaam

~Sarah

 

[ama6621]

Assalamu Alaikum sister,
I'm so sorry for all the hardships that you are going through. I am pray to Allah SWT to take away your pains. May He bless you with the best in this world and the hereafter. It is very wonderful to note that you are strong in your faith despite what you are facing.

Sister, it is always the best thing to live in an Islamic environment (by this I mean the muslim family) but I was wondering how old you are. You know how is it in the USA...if you are consider underage, your mother and/or grandmother may contact social services, and that will get the muslim teacher in a lot of trouble with the authorities. On the other hand, if you are an adult, you are free to make your own choice.

May Allah SWT help you and guide you to the right path. Ameen.

Assalamu Alaikum

 

[zinirah]

I am 15..I can't say it's impossible..but almost..it's driving me mad!!
I hate to say that

:salam2:
I am sister from Usa. I reverted to Islam on February 4th. My mother was 100% against me becoming a Muslim. One day she yelled at me and told me to either give up this faith or find someone else to live with. I know she loves me and thinks she is doing best for me, besides the fact that she doesn't want a Muslim in her house. So now i live with my grandmother to practice my faith freely. She is also Christian...I figured she would accept me a little more since i haven't seen her in awhile...but now she is the same as my mother. This house hold is horrible. She treats me like crap, and she is always trying to argue about how i am wrong in my choice...she does so much haram...she doesn't let me use a phone to contact anyone or use a computer (I am secretly using from library) her and my mother keep in contact and talk about me and how i am, and if i am having second thoughts on Islam. I know this is the truth and they cant change me, and I treat them with respect even if they don't treat me that way, and i don't follow the haram that they do...so anyways..i go to a school here were i am living..one day i met this teacher she is also Muslim..and she asked me about my family and how i came to Islam and my living..I told her everything..So she takes me to her home a couple of times (secretly) and she introduced me to her family. This lady agrees that i have horrible living place..so she told her sister everything.. Her sister wants to take me into her family. They are such a wonderful family too and I think it would be best for me to live in a Muslim family..but i don't know how this process could be, and i know for sure that my mother is going to hate this idea...but how do i get it to happen????I know it's Allah's will..but how should i bring it up to my mother and grandmother? There Christian and this woman is Muslim of course there not going to like the idea having their daughter with someone they don't know.and is muslim...but how do i get them to agree to it?????? HELP! REALLY I CAN'T TAKE BEING DEPRESSED all the time and my real family treating me like crap!!!
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salamu alaykum sister Zinirah.

may Allah subhanah bless you and guid your familly and all of us.

how old are you first ?
do you think that life with your mother or your grandmother is impossible ?

what they know about Islam ?

 

[zinirah]

I am 15. It's just hard to live in this family, and i was happy when she offered for me to live in her family. I think it is horrible that they would call social services.

Assalamu Alaikum sister,
I'm so sorry for all the hardships that you are going through. I am pray to Allah SWT to take away your pains. May He bless you with the best in this world and the hereafter. It is very wonderful to note that you are strong in your faith despite what you are facing.

Sister, it is always the best thing to live in an Islamic environment (by this I mean the muslim family) but I was wondering how old you are. You know how is it in the USA...if you are consider underage, your mother and/or grandmother may contact social services, and that will get the muslim teacher in a lot of trouble with the authorities. On the other hand, if you are an adult, you are free to make your own choice.

May Allah SWT help you and guide you to the right path. Ameen.

Assalamu Alaikum

 

[slaveofAllah88]

aslam o alikum sister,
I understand how its really hard for you, Well you dont want to go too far away from ur parents ... well You need legal consultations from someone who will be able to give u a better idea, and maybe u can not totally move with that new family but kinda stay with them not overnight ... and ignore wat ur grandma says ... idk the situation is really hard and Well to tell u the truth sister Shyhijabi gave u the best advice, u can always be muslim secretively
sorry idk wat can u do

 

[slaveofAllah88]

wa alaykom salam wa rahmatu Allah taala wa barakatuhu.

to advice a legale consultation must be the last solution brother . or the solution when it is emergency situations .
but it's better to resolve such a problems with wisdom and good solutions , who know may Allah subhanah make all good and guid them .
may Allah subhanah male it easy for her .

Amen .

:salam2:
brother addalilah you are right but i kinda meant some other way, let me clear it up sister ... For legal issue i mean to ask them if you are allowed to live with another family, it wont be right for your family to call the cops on the muslim family and for them to be in trouble cuz legally they are your guardians, thats why it is important for you to know your rights and law, So thats why i sugguested use proper law to do things cuz like u said u want to move with the muslim family that might even be possible.
thx

 

[ShyHijabi]

Salaam,

In order for her to legally be in the custody of the Muslim family, her mother would have to actually sign papers. Given the aggressive nature they feel towards Muslims, I do not think this is likely. If she were to just move into their house her grandmother/mother would well be in their legal rights to call the police and have the adults arrested for housing a runaway.

At this point she will most likely have to stay with her own family and exercise patience until she is of age to move away. She will be greatly rewarded for dealing with this jihad, insh'Allah.

Wasalaam

~Sarah

 

[slaveofAllah88]

Salaam,

In order for her to legally be in the custody of the Muslim family, her mother would have to actually sign papers. Given the aggressive nature they feel towards Muslims, I do not think this is likely. If she were to just move into their house her grandmother/mother would well be in their legal rights to call the police and have the adults arrested for housing a runaway.

At this point she will most likely have to stay with her own family and exercise patience until she is of age to move away. She will be greatly rewarded for dealing with this jihad, insh'Allah.

Wasalaam

~Sarah

:salam2:
sorry sis, what Shyhajabi said is the bitter truth so you would have to be patient ... well u cud try to spend more time outside maybe make some muslims friends or u cud always go to that family house in the day to learn or practice islam freely
sorry cant help much

 

[palestine]

My sister you've chosen the right path. but as you may already know, there will be many obstacles in your way. and those obstacles can be your friends and family members. Patience is a virtue and we must all try to make the best of our lives whatever the circumstance may be. i cannot really advice you much, except that you read the following dua inshaAllah which i will post. and also if you are able to watch the video i post here. it would be beneficial especially in your case now. and also a letter of a sister that i have found on another site. asalamu alaykum wrwb and welcome to islam.
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[palestine]

:salam2:
I am sister from Usa. I reverted to Islam on February 4th. My mother was 100% against me becoming a Muslim. One day she yelled at me and told me to either give up this faith or find someone else to live with. I know she loves me and thinks she is doing best for me, besides the fact that she doesn't want a Muslim in her house. So now i live with my grandmother to practice my faith freely. She is also Christian...I figured she would accept me a little more since i haven't seen her in awhile...but now she is the same as my mother. This house hold is horrible. She treats me like crap, and she is always trying to argue about how i am wrong in my choice...she does so much haram...she doesn't let me use a phone to contact anyone or use a computer (I am secretly using from library) her and my mother keep in contact and talk about me and how i am, and if i am having second thoughts on Islam. I know this is the truth and they cant change me, and I treat them with respect even if they don't treat me that way, and i don't follow the haram that they do...so anyways..i go to a school here were i am living..one day i met this teacher she is also Muslim..and she asked me about my family and how i came to Islam and my living..I told her everything..So she takes me to her home a couple of times (secretly) and she introduced me to her family. This lady agrees that i have horrible living place..so she told her sister everything.. Her sister wants to take me into her family. They are such a wonderful family too and I think it would be best for me to live in a Muslim family..but i don't know how this process could be, and i know for sure that my mother is going to hate this idea...but how do i get it to happen????I know it's Allah's will..but how should i bring it up to my mother and grandmother? There Christian and this woman is Muslim of course there not going to like the idea having their daughter with someone they don't know.and is muslim...but how do i get them to agree to it?????? HELP! REALLY I CAN'T TAKE BEING DEPRESSED all the time and my real family treating me like crap!!!

the duas:

When fearing the enemy

Recite:
اللَّهُمَّ إِنَّا نَجْعَلُكَ فِي نُحُورِهِمْ وَنَعُوذُ بِكَ مِنْ شُرُورِهِمْ

"O Allah, we make you the turner of the (enemies) chest (heart) and seek refuge in You from their evils".

(Abu Dawood)



When the enemy surrounds

Recite:
اللَّهُمَّ اسْتُرْ عَوْرَاتِنَا وَآمِنْ رَوْعَاتِنَا

"O Allah, save our honour and remove the fear and keep us safe"

(Hisnul Hasin)

When in any difficult

Recite:
اللَّهُمَّ رَحْمَتَكَ أَرْجُو فَلَا تَكِلْنِي إِلَى نَفْسِي طَرْفَةَ عَيْنٍ وَأَصْلِحْ شَأْنِي كُلَّهُ لَا إِلَهَ إِلَّا أَنْتَ

"O Allah, I hope for Your mercy, do not leave me for even the duration of an eye blink (duration) and correct my total condition. Besides You there is none worthy of worship".

(Hisnul Hasin)

Alternate dua
حَسْبُنَا اللَّهُ وَنِعْمَ الْوَكِيلُ

"Allah is sufficient for us and He is the Best Guardian".

(Quran, Surah Al-Imraan)

Alternatively recite
اللَّهُ اللَّهُ رَبِّي لَا أُشْرِكُ بِهِ شَيْئَاً

"Allah is my Lord, I do not ascribe anything unto Him".

(Hisnul Hasin from Abu Dawood)

or recite
يَا حَيُّ يَا قَيُّومُ بِرَحْمَتِكَ أَسْتَغِيثُ

"O Alive and everlasting One, I beseech You by Your mercy".

(Mustadrak Hakim)

لَا إِلَهَ إِلَّا أَنْتَ سُبْحَانَكَ إِنِّي كُنْتُ مِنَ الظَّالِمِينَ

"O Allah, there is none worthy of worship besides You. You are Pure, definitely I have oppressed my soul by sinning".

The Qur'an states that these words were recited when Yunus (A.S.) called upon Allah from the belly of the fish. Prophet Mohammad (S.A.W.) stated in a hadith that when any Muslim makes this dua via these words to Allah, then Allah surely accepts his duas.

(Tirmidhi etc)

It is stated in a hadith that

لَا حَوْلَ وَلَا قُوَّةَ إِلَّا بِاللَّهِ

is the medicine for 99 ailments, the least of which is depression.

(Baihaqi in Dawatul Kubra)

It means that these words are so beneficial and useful that big/great grievances, depression and sorrow are easily removed in its stride.

Abdullah bin Abbas (R.A.) narrates that Prophet Mohammad (S.A.W.) stated that if a person constantly makes "Astaghfar", then Allah removes every difficulty, frees him from every sorrow and makes a means for him to receive sustencance from places that he never thought of.

(Mishkat from Ahmad)

 

[palestine]

Sister, this following story is a story of a woman who embraced Islam and was disowned by her family. and this is a letter she wrote to them. i could be wrong but i believe that this letter might help your family understand a bit more. If Allah wills. Asalamu alaykum wrwb and stay strong.

By Michelle Al-Nasr

I am writing this for all my Muslim brothers and sisters who have converted (or re-verted) to Islam, and have had the courage, against all odds, to stand firm on their beliefs - no matter how great the cost. I want to convey the sorrow I share with many of my fellow brothers and sisters in Islam, that have had to distance themselves from their families, because of their acceptance of the religion of Islam. I want to first tell you, "I love you", you are my family, I have not forgotten you. It breaks my heart that if you do not agree with my life choice, that you have chosen to reject me. If you do not agree with me, then at least respect my decision. If you only knew how difficult this decision was for me, how difficult it is to be a Muslim. Especially, a Muslim woman. Did you ever try to imagine what kind of commitment it takes to be a Muslim? It is not as easy as you may think. I want to let you into my mind. I want you to look through my eyes, and just know - if only for a moment - how I have felt, what I have dealt with and what it is like to for me.


Think for one minute about something that means so much to you, something that you feel so strongly about, that you are willing to undergo losing your entire family and friends as you know it. Becoming estranged to the same people that you have known all your living years. All of the sudden, you are the outcast, the lost soul who doesn't have enough sense to know what you are doing, everyone is telling you that you are throwing your entire life away. Think about how strong you must feel about the actions you are taking. Not just any actions, mind you, but actions that take sincerity and a firm belief. Actions that are not to be taken lightly. Actions with consequences which include: sacrifice, loss, humiliation, degradation and racism to name only a few. Continue to think about something in your life that means this much to you. Would you be willing to sacrifice your career? Money? Your new car? Your house? Would it be easy for you to give up many of the pleasures that this life has to offer? Think about your family.


How would you handle losing your entire family for this 'something' that means so much to you. No longer are you wanted to even talk for a while, for fear that you might mention this 'something' that means so much to you. You mention it, why? Because it is the 'something' by which you base and dedicate your entire life to. Of course, if talking means to discuss the things that means so much to others, you should not be offended, you should only be quiet and listen. After all, it is important to them. Maybe they might bring up the something they heard on the news, the 'something' that you dedicate your entire life to, but do not disagree - nor tell them what you know from hands-on research and personal experience - only listen, because the TV knows more, and so do they. You must realize, as well, that because of this 'something' you have chosen, you know longer have a right to discuss or comment on any matter about the city, state or country you have spent your whole life in, if you do - you now are told (instead being respected for an intelligent opinion) you should be expelled from the country.


Think about going to the store just to pick up some bread. As you get in your car and drive down the road someone begins screaming curse words at the very sight of you, dressed according to this 'something' that you believe so firmly about, probably they think that you don't understand them - but you do, and all too well. Just get used to it, it happens quite often. Also, remember that you are oppressed and you are looked at with pity and contempt, as an oppressed woman - having no mind of her own. All this, even though this 'something' is what you chose, what you live everyday - not by force, but because you believe it is right. Keep all of this in mind as you are driving in your car. Walking into the store, you feel all eyes are on you - all of the sudden you hear laughing - you think to yourself, they aren't laughing at me, are they? But of course, you know better, because every time you leave your house people are constantly either making fun of you or cursing you, one of the two. All because of this 'something' you love. At the bread aisle, you notice the grocery store security guard seems to be following you up and down each aisle in the store, when you look in his direction, he discreetly glares at the kitty litter boxes on sale, not wanting to give himself away. As you get to the cashier, ready to check out - you notice how courteous the cashier is to the woman in front of you. Don't get your hopes up, there will be none of that when it is your turn. They really don't care, 'How are you doing, today?'. They just take you money, and glare at you. Never mind, you are on your way home. In your car you notice your gas gage and panic a little, it's on empty, and you need some gas, but don't chance it, do not stop - if you were to try to pay for the gas, even though you could be waving your money, they will most likely assume that you are there to rob them. It is better to go straight home, home is comfort. By the time you get home, hoping for relief, you notice a crowd of kids around your house, and wonder what they are up to. After you get in the house, someone starts knocking at your door. You answer the door, but no one is there. You walk outside to get the mail, and the kids run from behind the corner of your house yelling, "You don't belong here!". A while later, the teenagers in the neighborhood decide to join in on the fun by standing in your driveway and cursing you, as you are standing inside your own home. And this is only the beginning of the days in your life, but wait, there's so much more... Now stop and think. Is there anything that you love so much?


Well, you may ask, 'Is it worth it?' I will tell you without hesitation, Yes it is. All that and more. Because this 'something', Islam, is my way of life, my love, my peacefulness, and my hope. You may think, "That doesn't sound very peaceful, being harassed and all". But it is. Not the harassment, of course, but the purpose behind it. The reasons that I dress as I dress, and I live in the manner I have chosen. And I want to say again, do not think for a second I take this lightly. I believe and know this way of life to be right and true.


If you cannot be happy for me, at least be content to know that you have raised someone that stands firm in what she believes. Not just a blind follower, not just one of the crowd, not someone who will be swayed at the drop of a hat. If you cannot support me in my decision , then be satisfied to respect me for my convictions, morals and values. Not an immoral, vulgar, and dishonorable life. Know that what I believe in, Islam, is not something I believe in because it's the popular thing to do, or that it the best way to 'Gain Friends and Influence People'. Realize, this is not a phase I am going through and I am not an over-zealous fanatic. I am striving to be the best Muslim that I can be. That is something that is not easy, but I believe that it will lead me to Paradise if I strive hard enough, and stand firm on the beliefs that "There is nothing worthy of worship but God alone, associating no partner with Him". Where was it that I learned that I should strive to be the best I can be, and to try my hardest to stand firm on the things that I believe are just and truthful? Hey, wasn't that you? Didn't you teach me that?

 

[zainsmommy]

Assalamu Aleikom Sister,

I am sorry for the troubles you are facing and I pray that Allah swt gves you the strength and patience needed to get you through this trial.

I think that Sister ShyHijabi gave you some very good advice. As you are very young and live here in the US, you must know the difficulties you will face trying to move in with someone else. I will tell you what someone once told me when I converted and was faced with losing custody of my children from my ex husband and alienation from my family.

The person who helped teach me about Islam was the first person I called and they told me to stop trying to fight them. Just to lay low for a while and respect my parents NO MATTER WHAT! They said that eventually they will come to see that despite the new religion I chose, I am still the same person...still the daughter that they love....my children were still the same children. And you know what? It worked! Eventually my family changed sides and took up defense for me against my ex and accepted my choice. What happened was, they were scared. They didn't know anything about Islam and the all of a sudden drastic change in my scared them. They feared I would become some extremists or something ... who knows?

So my advice would be to lay low for a while. Let them see the good in you and the good in Islam. Someone posted something here on another thread about the importance of respecting your parents. I will try to find it because in a situation such as this, I think it's vitally important to reflect upon that Hadith and Surah.

As for the kind Muslim woman who wants to help you....sister, it is too difficult here in the US. Someone wrote that Muslims follow the law of their religion? Well that may be true, but in the US when a minor is involved....that doesn't work. In the eyes of the law, you are a minor unable to make decisions for yourself. It's the ugly truth. No matter how mature you may be. You will get that woman and her family in a lot of trouble if you were to try and go with them. If your family is against you this much, and you raise the possiblity of moving in with a Muslim, they will go crazy. They have the upper hand here.

There is also one other thing....you can find some legal counsel and ask them about Emancipation. (not sure how to spell it) Where you want legal counsel to help you basically divorce from your parents so that you can have say over what you want. I think this will be difficult though,....usually cases involving this have to have some sort of physical abuse of something serious to back up the request in front of a judge.

Anyway...I also think that Sister Palestine, may Allah swt bless her for her efforts in helping you, has posted some beneficial threads for you....but there is one thing there that I personally don't agree with. And that is the part where it talks about the "enemy" I personally don't feel that your Mother, the woman who gave birth to you...whether she is Christian or not...is your enemy. Nor your Grandmother. I am sure you can resolve this issue maturely and in a calm way until you reach the age where you will be able to practice freely in your own environment. Despite the heartache and the difficulty you are facing living there, you must remember she is your Mother. Those who are kind to their parents and those who endure patience in times of great adversity, are those who are most blessed.

 

[muthmainnah]

Sister, wake up in the middle of the night, have wudhu (ablution) and do salat (prayer) qiyamul lail, ask Allah while your'e in sujud (prostration) to soften your mother's heart because HE IS THE OWNER OF THE HEART and He CAPABLE to change your mother's and grandmother's heart. Ask Allah in your prayer to ease your problem your'e facing now, to show and guide and open your mother's heart. Insha Allah you will find peace in your mind. Insha Allah...

 

[ShyHijabi]

salamu alikom sister Sarah.

i don't know what is the age of maturity in USA and how it work exactely .
but sister she is a muslim and muslims and jews have a special law , because they follow the law of their religion in general for the questions of Marriages , divorces , heredity , etc... i don't know what they call that in english ( this part of law ) but in french we call it " les statuts personnels " .
if i can translat it in english modestly i say " the religiouse rights of the personnes " .

thank you

Abdalilah from Morocco .

Salaam,
IN America there is no religious law, so the sister in question would have to submit to the law of the land. Unless her parents are abusive and/or neglectful she cannot leave her home, she would be considered a runaway. If a child converts to another religion than their parents, the parents can refuse to allow their child to practice their new chosen religion. There is no law against this in America, sadly.

So basically the sister can worship in secret and when she reaches the age of 18 she can move out and practice freely.

Wasalaam

~Sarah

 

[ShyHijabi]

can you give me more informations about this law who allow the parents to refuse the practice of the chosen religion by their child please ?

just for information sister : not always the law of the land is the law that all must follow . there's another principel known by lawyers when somtimes it's a question of religiouses rights.

Salaam,

It is not a written law per se but there is no law that states parents must allow their children freedom to worship as they choose. The law only protect those from religious discrimination by the government and bussinesses.

A lawyer would not be able to take this to court as there is no legal precedent. Furthermore who would pay the legal fees? It's a shame but it's true.

Wasalaam

~Sarah

 

[AZAM_SIDDIQUI]

YOU REMIND ME OF THE COMPANIONS IN THE TIMES OF THE PROPHET MUHAMMAD (SAW)compliment.WHAT CAN YOU DO .I THINK FIRST OF ALL IT WOULD BE REALLY WISE NOT TO GET PULLED IN THE TIDE OF NEGATIVITY THAT SATAN IS CREATING AROUND YOU ,AND THJE SUREST WAY TO DO THAT WOULD BE TO resist what ur people r doing 2 u.you dont need 2 give in...but You dont need to resist either .Surely Allah WILL TAKE CARE OFTHEM.yOU JUST CONCENTRATE ON ALLAH,YOUR LOVING lORD .LIVE ISLAM AND BE TOTALLY DEDICATED TOWARDS PARADISE AS UR GOAL.EACH HARDSHIP MEANS CLOSER TO ALLAH.READ THE STORIES OF THE COMPANIONS AND THE PROPHETS.YOU CAN DOWNLOAD FROM SCRIBD.COM.THERE WERE MANY WHOSE MOTHERS OPPOSED THEM VEHEMENTLY.
AND YES YOU CAN USE THE MOST UNCONVENTIONAL FORM OF WARFARE,PRAY FOR YOUR ENEMIES.
DONT TRY TO THINK TOO MUCH .CONCENTRATE ON ALLAH.THIS IS A TEST.SUCCESS AND BLESSINGS AND BLISS ,INSHALLAH IS JUST AROUND THE CORNER.
DONT LOOSE TOUCH WITH MUSLIM SISTERS AT ANY COST.
AND KEEP US INFORMEDOF THE SITUATION.
MAY Allah be kind to you .ameen yaa rabbulaalameen.

 

[Asha88]

Salaam Sister,

I am so sorry to read about your situation. It is a pity that at a young age you are faced with such an obstacle!

Since I don't reside in America, thus I have no idea about the law there so I can't help you much. I am just thinking, if you really want to leave the house, can you get a pro bono lawyer to help you?

However, I do agree with what the others said. Sometimes, it works the opposite. The more you fight and struggle with your family, the more difficult the situation may be. If you try to be patient and respectful towards them, perhaps they might soften up. Show them what Islam really is and you never know they might slowly begin to accept your conversion to Islam.

I hope Allah will help you out with this Sister. It is really sad to read about your situation and there is no one there to physically help you. InsyaAllah we will all be here to give you advice if you need it (I've seen a few good ones!)

Please take care sister!

 

[AlQurtubi]

Sister zinirah, may ALLAH gives you courage and make the things easier for you.
I would suggest you to write a private message to sister shyhijabi, zainsmommy and mirajmom.

I am sure they will be able to help you more than guys . All I can do is just pray for you.

 

[a_muslimah86]

:salam2:

mashallah & alhamduliallah...many of the posts here were very sufficient in providing suggestions and help to the best of ability of the poster...so I won't hassle you by posting pretty much the same things you've been reading...

I only want you to know that whatever harm befalls you is a reward for you..and a step upon which you can climb closer to Allah (swt) and get showered with His pleasure..mercy..and love..so be patient and always thank Allah for giving you opportunities to earn rewards..and be close to Him (swt)...

You will be in my dua'as and please keep all of us updated on your situation...so we know that you're safe and sound