Help me decide on the Islamically correct option

[Tabassum07]

Salaam to all my TTI brothers and sisters.

Okay, my story is a little complicated, and I've been really troubled for a while. But now I have some options and hopefully someone can help me make some sense of this stuff.

So my family has lived half their life in India, and half in USA. Till last year, I was in India but my life was going absolutely nowhere. I had applied for my parents greencard, just as a possibility of going back to the US. We got a response from the Embassy that I must be in America to sponsor them. Then a lot of stuff happened, and I suddenly decided to move to America, which I did back in November. I've been living with some acqaintances since then and its been four months, and I haven't been able to find a real full time job. I'm just working part time at a silly place and doing some volunteer work in a hospital administration section. I search every single day for more and more jobs and have applied to practically thousands of places. No response. Not even a glimmer of hope. I've been crushed and I've cried more times than I can count anymore. And I'm tired of staying at other people's houses.

I'd sent the necessary documents to my parents for their sponsorship, and within a week of the submission, my parents got their immigrant visa. (Whereas for everyone else we know who went through this, the process has taken more than a year and a half...). And they have to move here by July at the latest.

Now, here is the situation. My parents are not moving to the same city I am in. They'll be moving to where we were before, in Minnesota. So what should I do? Should I continue where I am for four months, by getting my own place to stay temporarily?? Or should I move back home, and then come back with my family?? If I stay, I'll accumulate job experience, and then it will be easier for me to apply for more jobs in MN. If I leave, no job experience.

But I just want other's opinion on this. It's not financially easy to travel back and forth across the world either....

Please advise.

 

[Frank_H_Smith]

As Salamu 'Alaykum,

Sister, that is way to serious for a new revert like me to answer. However, I will include you in du'a as I do al my TTI Family. Hopefully, one of the more knowledgeable Muslim or Muslimah members can give you some beneficial insight, Insha Allah.

 

[Basicofislam]

:salam2: Sister. Do Istikhara and find out if staying back is right for you. I dont think 3-4 months is a very long time. If you have ( VERY IMP) a safe place to live then i would say stay back but if not it would be better to go back. More then job experience your safety should be NO1 . But if you feel it is safe for you then i would not waste money going back to India. cause the trip will cost atleast 2000-3000 dollars.

 

[Frank_H_Smith]

Now, here is the situation. My parents are not moving to the same city I am in. They'll be moving to where we were before, in Minnesota. So what should I do? Should I continue where I am for four months, by getting my own place to stay temporarily?? Or should I move back home, and then come back with my family?? If I stay, I'll accumulate job experience, and then it will be easier for me to apply for more jobs in MN. If I leave, no job experience.

But I just want other's opinion on this. It's not financially easy to travel back and forth across the world either....

Please advise.

As Salamu 'Alaykum, Sister, if I understood you correctly, you would be moving to Minnesota to where your parents are moving. As I said before, I am not comfortable giving advice on such an important matter, but what ever you do, Insha Allah, may you be blessed.

 

[ahmed_indian]

I've been crushed and I've cried more times than I can count anymore. And I'm tired of staying at other people's houses.

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but its been just 4 months right? i think you are getting over-anxious. give ur self some more time. atleast Allah got you part-time job in these recession times when usa is trying to get up.

if we'll consume all the tears for worry about this world, then when we will cry about whether Allah is pleased with us or not, we will get into jannah or not, when will the ummah prosper,etc.?

if u'll visit new york, you will find many taxi drivers who have mbbs/b.e. degree frm india/pak. but their degree were not accepted by usa, so they are in this sector. we dont get everything we desire.

one sahaba told that without difficult times, we'll be bankrupt in our good deeds on Day of Judgment.

and there are beautiful verses by a famous scholar as well:

O my soul! It is not except a few days of patience;
As if the extent were but a few dreams.
O my soul! Pass quickly on through this world;
And leave it, for indeed life lies ahead of it.

*sorry as my post could not help you decide where to live.