Religious women ???

[slaveofAllah88]

:salam2:

this hadith
Bukhari :: Book 7 :: Volume 62 :: Hadith 27
Narrated Abu Huraira:
The Prophet said, "A woman is married for four things, i.e., her wealth, her family status, her beauty and her religion. So you should marry the religious woman (otherwise) you will be a losers.

im sure many people have heard it, i shared this hadith with my cousin who is a female and she said that this only apply to man for picking a women ... im not sure and before i say something i want to know the correct answer can someone please help me?

does this hadith only apply to men or both gender?

jazakALlah khair

 

[ovomer]

yes only for womens as we all know that men are always having wealth, family status, beauty and religion. hahaha

 

[Janaan]

:salam2:

this hadith
Bukhari :: Book 7 :: Volume 62 :: Hadith 27
Narrated Abu Huraira:
The Prophet said, "A woman is married for four things, i.e., her wealth, her family status, her beauty and her religion. So you should marry the religious woman (otherwise) you will be a losers.

im sure many people have heard it, i shared this hadith with my cousin who is a female and she said that this only apply to man for picking a women ... im not sure and before i say something i want to know the correct answer can someone please help me?

jazakALlah khair

Akhi, am really not sure what you're askin'. Are you saying 'why' is it that believing men were told to choose the religious woman?? or why does a man need a woman that meets all those four things?
..clarify it so i can try and be of help

 

[BADTASTEBEARS]

Assalamualaikum

I think what brother shaheer meant was, does this hadith only applies to men?

What about women, do they need to follow this hadith when they're searching for a spouse?

I hope i interpreted your question correctly! sorry in advance akhi!

 

[slaveofAllah88]

Assalamualaikum

I think what brother shaheer meant was, does this hadith only applies to men?

What about women, do they need to follow this hadith when they're searching for a spouse?

I hope i interpreted your question correctly! sorry in advance akhi!

:salam2:

JazakAllah khair you did , sorry i didn't articulate myself properly

 

[Janaan]

Ick! I thought you've gone offline-


Well, as far as I know, The first thing to look for when marrying is how commited the person is to Islam. Muhammad SaW said to men,"The whole world is a provision,and the best object of benefit of the world is a pious woman" It's also stated in another hadeeth that He saw said to women,"Choose your husbands charachter and religion wise" the women can also search for particular things in husbands so it sure does apply to women too i guess...anyways, don't people say to choose your friends carefully, so i believe the same goes for marriage, "Choose your wife(wives)/husband carefully". I hope i made sense, even if it's a teeny-tiny bit
N don't worry bro, ur question Does make sense, am just naturally slow

 

[ahmed_indian]

:salam2:,

but basically, laws of Islam applies equally to men and women.

btw, which righteous girl would like to marry a man who dont pray, have affairs, drinks and abuse his relatives?

 

[BADTASTEBEARS]

:salam2:,

but basically, laws of Islam applies equally to men and women.

btw, which righteous girl would like to marry a man who dont pray, have affairs, drinks and abuse his relatives?

Exactly!

Corrupt women are for corrupt men and corrupt men are for corrupt women, Good women are for good men and good men are for good women. The latter are innocent of what they say. They will have forgiveness and generous provision. (Surah An-Nur, 24:26)

 

[slaveofAllah88]

aslam o alaikum

JazakAllah khair for the responses

 

[Aisya al-Humaira]

Assalamualaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh,

Akhi, the answer to your question is YES, the same applies to women who are seeking for a righteous husband. I heard it before in a lecture and just last night, I was reading one of this thread:

This weekend a scholar who frequently appears on “Islam Channel” came to our house and delivered a lecture on marriage. The lecture was about 45 minutes long but I will only relate 2-3 minutes of it…

He is a Salafi Shaykh but the advice is sound so all those who are into their sectology, I advise you to still consider his advice.

Abu Hurairah (RA) related that the Prophet Muhammad (Sallaho Alaihe Wassallam) said: “Men choose women for four reasons:

1. for their money,
2. for their rank,
3. for their beauty
4. and for their religion,

but marry one who is religious and you will succeed (Bukhari, Muslim).

He said that most of his time is spent in correcting marital problems and discords, he also said that most of the calls he gets on TV are about problems with marriage!

WHY?

He said that he sees marriages of practising Muslims (beards, Niqab, Hijab) fall apart and its on the rise.

WHY?

He said that the first misconception is that the Hadeeth ONLY applies to men choosing women; but Scholars have stated that it is equally sound for women seeking men!

In his opinion he said that the problem is in these areas:

• Men and Women don’t consider RELIGION to be the top priority and it’s the same; time and time again! Physical attraction overrules religious priorities

• Men and Women don’t consider the secondary priorities. He said considering religion doesn’t mean that you ignore other bits! He said that the potential spouses must be attractive to each other and the secondary priorities differ for men and women…He said choosing a spouse has affects on YOUR GENERATIONS so be VERY VERY careful! He said for men perhaps the secondary priorities could be “Beauty” or “Rank” but for women it MUST be “Money” (as stated by Scholars and I forgot who he quoted!) because men must be able to financially bear the cost of the household and he said that some sisters overlook that!

• He said we also have to look at Kuff (compatibility and matching) of spouses…He said even marrying women who have grown up here look for “Kuff”….Personally I was surprised about this because not many Salafi Shaykhs say this & in my practical experience; Kuff is ignored at your peril!

• Then he said that “Bid’aas” and customs in our marriages have an affect. How can you start your life with Bid’aa, following culture and intermingling of sexes & expect the help of Allah (SWT) in your marriage?

http://www.turntoislam.com/forum/showthread.php?t=13053

So basically, the hadeeth does applies the same to women as well.

Allah knows best.

Wa'alaykummusalam wa rahmatullah.

 

[slaveofAllah88]

Assalamualaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh,

Akhi, the answer to your question is YES, the same applies to women who are seeking for a righteous husband. I heard it before in a lecture and just last night, I was reading one of this thread:



http://www.turntoislam.com/forum/showthread.php?t=13053

So basically, the hadeeth does applies the same to women as well.

Allah knows best.

Wa'alaykummusalam wa rahmatullah.

:salam2:
JazakAllah khair sister, very nice detailed response,

 

[Abdul Hasib]

السلام عليكم و رحمة الله و بركاته يا أيّها الأخوتي و الأخواتي

In a Sahih Hadith (I think it was from Bukhari), Rasulallah (SAW) ordered the Muslim men to make sure that their daughters are married to Muslim men who are righteous in their Deen and in their Akhlaq (Character).

 

[fada_all]

:salam2:

this hadith
Bukhari :: Book 7 :: Volume 62 :: Hadith 27
Narrated Abu Huraira:
The Prophet said, "A woman is married for four things, i.e., her wealth, her family status, her beauty and her religion. So you should marry the religious woman (otherwise) you will be a losers.

im sure many people have heard it, i shared this hadith with my cousin who is a female and she said that this only apply to man for picking a women ... im not sure and before i say something i want to know the correct answer can someone please help me?

does this hadith only apply to men or both gender?

jazakALlah khair

salam alikum akhi wa rahmatu allah taala wa barakatuh

i think this hadith is aplied for both woman and man ,, because woman also should look for the religoius one rather than his wealth...family tree...wether handsome or not.................yet only wether he is a religious one or not..