FED UP WITH MY LIFE

[friend263]

Assalamualaikum warehmatullahi wabarakatahu... Hope every body on TTI is best in there Imaan and health today i wanted to share my life with you and also need advice and suggestion and dua from everybody of you... Please help me as this is now making me go mad!!!!! I got married to a revert muslim 15 Months back. And now i am a mother of a 6Months Old Baby MashaAllah. My inlaws are very good in terms of there nature and they accepted me as i am. And they are not aware of my husbands reversion. Now before we got married my mother in law ask me give my kundali to her Astagfirullah but i was not having the same with me as i am muslim i said them we dont belive in all these fundas of meeting the stars and the planet. But she asked my hubby to give my DOB and he gave the same my mother in law said my hubby that he cant marry me cozz our stars are not maching and this marriage will be unlucky for us and either one of us will die after the marriage. My hubby told them these are all lies and we got married. Actually i also strictly dont believe in all these *!*!*!*!s because every thing is in the hands of Allah tala but they warned us about it. Any which ways we got married and since the time we got married there are some or theother problems which are coming into our way. I totally forgot about my inlaws talk but today me and my hubby got into one argument and my hubby told me that these all things are happening only because of our stars not matching and you are not ready to do what my mom is telling to make our stars happy.. he wants me to give a consent to his mom to do the pooja and all to make the stars and all happy..... Astaghfirulla...:astag: I said him i dont need any thing i willl pray to Allah and every thing will be fine. Is this all prewritten or my hubby is right????? I am just fed up this daily fights with him..
And another thing is my baby is 6Months old Mashallah and he is very cute Alhamdullilah but he is not keeping well since last month one or the other thing is happeing to him sometimes diorreah now cold and he keeps on weeoing and crying v=every time:angryred: i have a niegbour who is a non muslim every time she enters into my home she says Baap Re Apka beta kitna Cute hai this and that i have prayed for evil eye but it havent worked now i havent allowed her in my home as whwnever she comes to my home my baby feels unwell what to do??? And how to know that whether its an evil eye ar any thing else.. Thank you for going through my problems please do pray for me and please help me by giving ways to come out of all these........

 

[Ahsen]

May Allah help you overcome your problems.

Ameen.

 

[finding light]

Salaam sister...

I will Inshallah pray for your situation to be better. Stay strong in your ISLAMIC faith. What is happening in your life has absolutely NOTHING to do with the stars!! the problems in your marriage are problems in your marriage, not because aries is not aligned with scorpio this month (or however it goes!)....
Do not doubt your faith dear sister. Keep praying to Allah and Inshallah your situation will be better. Allah is the one who will help you. As for any other advice, i cannot say, im sorry.... Maybe other married people can shed light...

 

[lovefordeen]

assalaam alaiikum

dear sister,first of all let me tell you that i'm not a wise person,but i would like to help you in sha Allah

masha'Allah dear sister,you are standing for the truth...yes,you don't need to believe in horoscope and all that ...asthagfirulah...i understand what you are going through ...

this short life is a test from Allah..it's normal to have small misunderstandings between a husband and wife...that is how life is..your husband needs to understand that..he may have got upset with the misunderstandings between you two and shaythan would have made him remember his mother's words regarding horoscope...and shaythan may have wanted him to believe that it is true...Allah knows best..laa awla wa la kuwatha illa billah..
you need to help him from believing in horoscopes in sha Alah

and plz try to solve the misunderstanding between your husband and you and bring the peace back to your life...then,in sha Allah,he may understand that this horoscope this is nonsense...and what his mother said was not right


and plz don't fall into the trap of shaythan and don't ever believe in horoscopes matching and all that.... the stars are themselves creation of Allah...
masha'Allah sister,you have done a good job of standing up for the truth..may Allah reward you for that..ameen

regarding cure for the evil eye,i don't know much..

and please place your trust in Allah and please be patient..please make lots and lots of dua' dear sister...both for you,your husband and child...your title says fed up..no,dear sister,please don't lose hope...place your trust in Allah

may Allah bring back peace in your life and may He reward you much..ameen
may Allah forgive me if i have said something wrong


assalaam alaikum

 

[mohammadyunus]

Firstly you should thank Allah that He has guided your husband and he has reverted to islam.(my wife is a non muslim, please pray for her guidance)

Secondly what you are experiencing is PERFECTLY NORMAL in marital household. Allah has blessed you with a beautiful child and guided your husband. Sister you should be very pleased because i have seen very critical and serious problems with couples and your problem, pardon me, falls in the regular category.

What you need is maturity and patience in such situations.A very strong faith in Allah the creator, is a prerequisite of imaan and as such your husband should be strong in his deen.

This is a test of you and your husbands faith in Allah. He wants to see if you have strong faith in Him or is your faith so weak that a little wind can destroy it. So remain strong and faithful to Allah. Even having doubts about it is shirk. All these are tricks of satan.

Regarding the evil eye, even our prophet has adviced us to protect ourselves from the evil eye.

Recite ayat al kursi , all four kuls over your family daily.

Recite surah baqarah in your home as much as you can.

REMEMBER ANY PROBLEM YOU FACE IN YOUR LIFE OUR PROPHET (PBUH) HAS GIVEN US A CURE THROUGH DAILY RECITAL OF THE HOLY QURAN.

NEVER MISS YOUR DAILY PRAYERS.

FINALLY BEAR IN MIND THAT WHATEVER HAPPENS TO YOU IT HAPPENS WITH THE WILL OF ALLAH AND NOBODY ELSE HAS THE POWER EXCEPT ALLAH.

 

[kashif_nazeer]

Assalamualaikum warehmatullahi wabarakatahu... Hope every body on TTI is best in there Imaan and health today i wanted to share my life with you and also need advice and suggestion and dua from everybody of you... Please help me as this is now making me go mad!!!!! I got married to a revert muslim 15 Months back. And now i am a mother of a 6Months Old Baby MashaAllah. My inlaws are very good in terms of there nature and they accepted me as i am. And they are not aware of my husbands reversion. Now before we got married my mother in law ask me give my kundali to her Astagfirullah but i was not having the same with me as i am muslim i said them we dont belive in all these fundas of meeting the stars and the planet. But she asked my hubby to give my DOB and he gave the same my mother in law said my hubby that he cant marry me cozz our stars are not maching and this marriage will be unlucky for us and either one of us will die after the marriage. My hubby told them these are all lies and we got married. Actually i also strictly dont believe in all these *!*!*!*!s because every thing is in the hands of Allah tala but they warned us about it. Any which ways we got married and since the time we got married there are some or theother problems which are coming into our way. I totally forgot about my inlaws talk but today me and my hubby got into one argument and my hubby told me that these all things are happening only because of our stars not matching and you are not ready to do what my mom is telling to make our stars happy.. he wants me to give a consent to his mom to do the pooja and all to make the stars and all happy..... Astaghfirulla...:astag: I said him i dont need any thing i willl pray to Allah and every thing will be fine. Is this all prewritten or my hubby is right????? I am just fed up this daily fights with him..
And another thing is my baby is 6Months old Mashallah and he is very cute Alhamdullilah but he is not keeping well since last month one or the other thing is happeing to him sometimes diorreah now cold and he keeps on weeoing and crying v=every time:angryred: i have a niegbour who is a non muslim every time she enters into my home she says Baap Re Apka beta kitna Cute hai this and that i have prayed for evil eye but it havent worked now i havent allowed her in my home as whwnever she comes to my home my baby feels unwell what to do??? And how to know that whether its an evil eye ar any thing else.. Thank you for going through my problems please do pray for me and please help me by giving ways to come out of all these........

Wa alaikumassalam warahmatullahi wabarakatuhu,
Never believe in horrorscopes.Never,nor in astrology.As muslims we know our lives is not judged by stars it's because Allah has willed it.

Are we allowed to read our star signs?

Praise be to Allaah.
Al-Bukhaari said in his Saheeh: Qutaadah said: “Allaah created these stars for three purposes: to adorn the heavens, to stone the devils and as signs by which to navigate. Whoever seeks anything else in them is mistaken and does not benefit from them, and he is wasting his time and effort in seeking something of which he has no knowledge.” (Saheeh al-Bukhaari, Baab fi’l-Nujoom, 2/240)

The study of the stars is divided into two kinds:

1- Study of the influence of the stars (astrology)

2- Study of the positions and movements of the stars (astronomy)

Study of the influence of the stars (astrology) is divided into three categories:

1 – The belief that these stars have a real influence in the sense that they create events and evil. This is major shirk (shirk akbar), because whoever claims that there is another creator alongside Allaah is a mushrik in the sense of major shirk, for he is regarding a created thing that is subjugated as a creator which subjugates.

2 – Making this a reason to claim to have knowledge of the unseen, so from the movements and changes in the stars he deduces that such and such will happen because such and such has happened to such and such a star. For example, he may say that one person’s life will be miserable because he was born under this star, and that another person’s life will be happy because he was born under that star. This person is taking knowledge of the stars as a means to claim that he has knowledge of the unseen, and claiming to have knowledge of the unseen is kufr (disbelief) which puts one beyond the pale of Islam, because Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

“Say: None in the heavens and the earth knows the Ghayb (Unseen) except Allaah”[al-Naml 29:65]

The grammatical structure used in the original Arabic – starting with the negation laa (translated here as “none”) followed by the word illa (“except”) – is one of the most emphatic ways of expressing exclusivity. So if a person claims to know the unseen, he is effectively disbelieving what the Qur’aan says.

3 – If he believes that the stars are the cause of good or bad things happening, this is minor shirk (shirk asghar), i.e., when something happens he attributes it to the stars (and only attributes it to the stars after it has happened). The basic principle is that whoever believes that one thing is the cause of another when Allaah has not made it so, is overstepping the mark and not acknowledging Allaah as He should be acknowledged, because the One Who makes things happen is Allaah alone. For example, if a person seeks healing from a piece of string (tied around his wrist), and says, “I believe that healing is in the hand of Allaah and this string is simply the means,” we would say to him, “You have saved yourself from major shirk but you have fallen into lesser shirk, because Allaah has not made string a clear means of healing. By doing this you have transgressed against His position of Controller and Sustainer, by making something a means to something else when Allaah has not made it so.” The same applies to one who regards the stars as the cause of rainfall when this is not the case. The evidence for that is the hadeeth narrated by al-Bukhaari (801) and Muslim (104) from Zayd ibn Khaalid al-Juhani who said: “The Messenger of Allaah SAWs (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) led us in praying Fajr at al-Hudaybiyah, following rainfall during the night. When he had finished praying, he turned to the people and said, ‘Do you know what your Lord has said?’ They said, ‘Allaah and His Messenger know best.’ He said, ‘This morning one of My slaves became a believer in Me and one became a disbeliever. As for the one who said, “We have been given rain by virtue of Allaah and His mercy,” he is a believer in Me and a disbeliever in the stars. But as for the one who said, “We have been given rain by such and such a star,” he is a disbeliever in Me and a believer in the stars.’” So the one who attributes rain to the stars is saying that the stars caused the rain.

Study of the positions and movements of the stars (astronomy) is divided into two categories:

1 – If their movements are used to define things that serve a religious purpose, this is something that is necessary. If that helps in the case of religious obligations, then learning it is obligatory, such as using the stars to determine the direction of the qiblah (direction of Makkah).

2 – If their movements are used to define things that serve a worldly purpose, there is nothing wrong with that. This is of two types:

(a) Using the stars to work out directions, such as knowing that the pole lies to the north, and that the Pole Star, which is close to it, revolves around the North Pole. This is permissible. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

“And landmarks (signposts, during the day) and by the stars (during the night), they (mankind) guide themselves”

[al-Nahl 16:16]

(b) Using the stars to work out the seasons, through learning the phases of the moon. Some of the salaf regarded this as makrooh while others permitted it. The correct view is that it is permissible and there is nothing makrooh in it, because there is no shirk involved in it, unless one learns it in order to attribute rainfall or cold weather to it, and says that this is what is causing that. That is a kind of shirk. But simply knowing the time of year from it, whether it is spring or autumn or winter, there is nothing wrong with that.

See al-Qawl al-Mufeed by Shaykh Muhammad ibn ‘Uthaymeen (may Allaah have mercy on him), 2/102.

Sheikh Muhammed Salih Al-Munajjid

Belief in al-Qadaa’ wa’l-Qadar (Divine will and decree) is one of the pillars of faith. The Muslim’s faith is not complete unless he knows that whatever befalls him could not have missed him, and whatever misses him could not have befallen him.

“No calamity befalls on the earth or in yourselves but it is inscribed in the Book of Decrees (Al Lawh Al Mahfooz) before We bring it into existence. Verily, that is easy for Allaah” [al-Hadeed 57:22]

This life is a collection of events,we have good times and we have bad times,throughout our life we are being tested through these events,as it says ,in the Qur'an in the interpratation of meaning:

[He] who created death and life to test you [as to] which of you is best in deed - and He is the Exalted in Might, the Forgiving [67:2]

In good times we have to be grateful,in bad times we have to be patient.
“O you who believe! Seek help in patience and As-Salaah (the prayer). Truly, Allaah is with As-Saabiroon (the patient)”[2:153 ]– (interpretation of the meaning)

So bear with patience in this time of calamity as it might be a form of expiation of sins.
According to a hadith:

It was narrated in al-Saheehayn that the Prophet said: “No tiredness, exhaustion, worry, grief, distress or harm befalls a believer in this world, not even a thorn that pricks him, but Allaah expiates some of his sins thereby.” (Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 5210; Muslim, 4670).

Also,every affair of a muslim is good.In another hadith:

Muslim (2999) narrated that Suhayb (may Allaah be pleased with him)said: The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “How wonderful is the affair of the believer, for his affairs are all good, and this applies to no one but the believer. If something good happens to him, he is thankful for it and that is good for him. If something bad happens to him, he bears it with patience and that is good for him.”

About evil eye yes,it does exist,

It was narrated that Ibn ‘Abbaas (may Allaah be pleased with them both) said: “The Prophet used to seek refuge with Allaah for al-Hasan and al-Husayn. He said: ‘Your father [i.e., Ibraaheem] used to seek refuge with Allaah for Ismaa’eel and Ishaaq with these words: A’oodhu bi kalimaat Allaah al-taammah min kulli shaytaanin wa haammah wa min kulli ‘aynin laammah (I seek refuge in the perfect words of Allaah, from every devil and every poisonous reptile, and from every bad eye).’”(Narrated by al-Bukhaari, Ahaadeeth al-Anbiyaa’, 3120).

I would advice that you read Surah Baqarah requently as in the mahfoom of a hadith,devil does not enter the house where surah Baqrah is recited(believe me it's powerful biidhnillah!).Also recite Surah fatihah,ayatul kursi,which is the 255th verse of surah Baqarah and the last two verses of surah Baqarah,Surah AlFatihah,the mu'awwidhatayn[verses of refuge](surah al falaq and surah an nas).Seek refuge in Allah always and read Qur'an frequently.InshaAllah,biidhnillah,there will be shifa.

May Allah help you and replace hardhip with ease for you.Ameen.

 

[a_stranger]

:salam2:
Dear , all people fight and all chidren get sick sometimes ....this is life not Janna, but Islam teaches us how to solve our proplems .........try to understand your husband ......forgive him , forget Don't argue, don't be angry ........do your duties .....pray at time , ............seek Allah's pleasure in all that you do .....may Allah help you both to overcome your troubles.