What would/do you do ?

[Hopetogoparadis]

Assalam alakum

If you have relative/famly friends who doesnt know much about free mixing in Islam, and when you go and meet with them, rather in their house or somewhere else, you have to shake hand or give a little hug with women in family, what would you do ???

Its important to keep family ties, right ? It's also important to keep parents content (who may ask you to go and meet them together). But we also should try to stay away from other harams in this environment, right ? Especially the greeting part, where women and men greet each other even a little physically.

Here are options;


A- Visit them as rare as possible, be in such gatherings as less as possible, especially if there are young females as well

B- Go and make people happy, keep family ties well, but you cant run away from that greeting things

Please dont say ''go and tell them that you dont wanna greet women, its not good in Islam'' because its not that easy, especially if they are already Muslims then they may give bad reaction (Allah knows best about whats gonna happen)

 

[Aapa]

Assalaam alaikum,

You do just that. You let them know where you stand. That puts them at ease. Keep it simple; they will not get offend but think that you are shy and get over it.

 

[strive-may-i]

Assalam alakum

If you have relative/famly friends who doesnt know much about free mixing in Islam, and when you go and meet with them, rather in their house or somewhere else, you have to shake hand or give a little hug with women in family, what would you do ???

Its important to keep family ties, right ? It's also important to keep parents content (who may ask you to go and meet them together). But we also should try to stay away from other harams in this environment, right ? Especially the greeting part, where women and men greet each other even a little physically.

Here are options;
A- Visit them as rare as possible, be in such gatherings as less as possible, especially if there are young females as well

B- Go and make people happy, keep family ties well, but you cant run away from that greeting things

Please dont say ''go and tell them that you dont wanna greet women, its not good in Islam'' because its not that easy, especially if they are already Muslims then they may give bad reaction (Allah knows best about whats gonna happen)

Thats good. In my opinion, in this matter, you seem to have picked the essence of why you should be there. You can with right approach completely eliminate the physical part, by adding more life to your Salaam. Dont think much about what they are going to say behind your back. Stick to being present at family gatherings, and while at at, slowly by your actions and words bring the change you want to see. Dont compare yourself to others and feel superior or inferior.

May Almighty help each one of us, in such sticky situations, to stick to that which is better and good for our deen... Ameen