WannabeHijabi
بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم
Some advice is appreciated here. This may be a long post. I should state my mother is a non-Muslim, an atheist to be exact and this is something which seems to be in part the problem.
A few nights ago, my mother and I got into an argument. We intended to go out together, for a meal and possibly go to the cinema or something too. She asked me to drive, which I didn't mind doing. That was until I found out WHY she'd been so keen to get me to drive- her intention was to get very drunk, and then I was being expected to ferry her home as a free taxi.
This wouldn't have been too much of a problem if it was a one-off incident but it isn't. My mother has the attitude that if she can't do as she pleases, it's bad. This goes for Islam in particular, which she has called 'disgusting' and how it 'treats women like rubbish', and these are just the things I can safely type here. But any attempt to control her behavior either by verbal or physical means does little good. One incident saw her attend a family wedding, only to again become drunk, act in a very stupid way and then again expect people to just put up with it. Similarly she is selfish in her refusal to stop smoking around my grandfather who last year had cancer treatment, as well as some other things.
The most annoying part is that she has then tried to get me to engage in the same haraam things.
I've so far tried to talk with her in a reasonable manner several times before, but this seems to do little good. I've even tried inviting her to read even a single surah of the Quran or come to Islamic class with me. All was refused. So what do I do?
A few nights ago, my mother and I got into an argument. We intended to go out together, for a meal and possibly go to the cinema or something too. She asked me to drive, which I didn't mind doing. That was until I found out WHY she'd been so keen to get me to drive- her intention was to get very drunk, and then I was being expected to ferry her home as a free taxi.
This wouldn't have been too much of a problem if it was a one-off incident but it isn't. My mother has the attitude that if she can't do as she pleases, it's bad. This goes for Islam in particular, which she has called 'disgusting' and how it 'treats women like rubbish', and these are just the things I can safely type here. But any attempt to control her behavior either by verbal or physical means does little good. One incident saw her attend a family wedding, only to again become drunk, act in a very stupid way and then again expect people to just put up with it. Similarly she is selfish in her refusal to stop smoking around my grandfather who last year had cancer treatment, as well as some other things.
The most annoying part is that she has then tried to get me to engage in the same haraam things.
I've so far tried to talk with her in a reasonable manner several times before, but this seems to do little good. I've even tried inviting her to read even a single surah of the Quran or come to Islamic class with me. All was refused. So what do I do?