Forgive_Me
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dear brothers and sisters I got some important questions concerning my private life. I am a young muslim living in europe and I'm in love with a non muslim girl. We are going out for 9 months now (elhamdulillah we don't live the typical realtionship).
She is just 15 years old but very smart. Her father is latin american and her mother european. From the beginning of the relationship I told her that I would love to see her become a muslim and walk the right path along with me. So we spoke a lot about Islam and she allways smiled when I talked about that. I think influenced by the enthusiasm she directly replied with yes. She also said when should I wear the hijab. started to talk more about god, I showed her some videos in the web which she did like and even showed her parents etc. I was happy but the same time I had a problem with taking her seriously. Her argumentation was that everything I told her about Islam made sense to her.
She likes it when I tell her something about our religion, Allah and the life of our prophet (s.a.v.). But I allways have the feeling that she is not THAT interested, because she's rarely asking me about Islam, she allways said that I should automatically tell her about Islam. That makes me being more in defense mode and not offensively telling her about Islam. She was not religious at all before she met me. She had a bible for children but did not even look it up yet.
It has kind of ups and downs. Once we were just talking about Islam for 3 days. She said "Do I give you the feeling that I am interested into Islam?". I said sure Iam! On the phone she was also willing to say the shahada. But she was not sure and I didnt want to put pressure on her. She even asked me to teach her how to pray. For example I wrote the Surat al Fatiha on paper and gave it to her with the translation. She spoke to her mums about Islam and the drama began. Her father and mother tried to tell her that she is to young to think about Islam. By converting to Islam she would support those people in Iraq, Afghanistan, Iran and other muslim countries where women are oppressed. Her mother even bought her 2 books of stories of afhghan women wo are oppressed. My advantage is that she tells me EVERYTHING on the phone so I do really know whats going on and I can tell her whats right or wrong.
She still says "I will convert one day" but I told her not to convert because of me but because of Allah. She knows that I want to live the islamic lifestyle. Now she tries to get to know a muslim girl who wears the hijab from school so she can get to know learn more about women in Islam.
My question is what can I do? I know I have to be patient and trust in Allah but how am I supposed to act and react towards this girl, who I really, really love in the name of Allah. I want her to be saved and Im really worried so I need your help my bros and sis
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My second question is the situation in the relationship. It happens that we hug, hold hand and give kisses on the cheeks. Allways after that I feel ashamed in front of Allah. Even if I make salat I don't feel good. I feel like a cheater because I asked him to bring me together with her and he did and look what I am doing now. What can I do? I thought about marrying islamic but my parents would not allow it, so should I marry secretly? I prayed so much to Allah that she would fall in love with me and she did. Now my intention is to be a good husband for her in the name of Allah and I don't want to make something wrong.
dear brothers and sisters I got some important questions concerning my private life. I am a young muslim living in europe and I'm in love with a non muslim girl. We are going out for 9 months now (elhamdulillah we don't live the typical realtionship).
She is just 15 years old but very smart. Her father is latin american and her mother european. From the beginning of the relationship I told her that I would love to see her become a muslim and walk the right path along with me. So we spoke a lot about Islam and she allways smiled when I talked about that. I think influenced by the enthusiasm she directly replied with yes. She also said when should I wear the hijab. started to talk more about god, I showed her some videos in the web which she did like and even showed her parents etc. I was happy but the same time I had a problem with taking her seriously. Her argumentation was that everything I told her about Islam made sense to her.
She likes it when I tell her something about our religion, Allah and the life of our prophet (s.a.v.). But I allways have the feeling that she is not THAT interested, because she's rarely asking me about Islam, she allways said that I should automatically tell her about Islam. That makes me being more in defense mode and not offensively telling her about Islam. She was not religious at all before she met me. She had a bible for children but did not even look it up yet.
It has kind of ups and downs. Once we were just talking about Islam for 3 days. She said "Do I give you the feeling that I am interested into Islam?". I said sure Iam! On the phone she was also willing to say the shahada. But she was not sure and I didnt want to put pressure on her. She even asked me to teach her how to pray. For example I wrote the Surat al Fatiha on paper and gave it to her with the translation. She spoke to her mums about Islam and the drama began. Her father and mother tried to tell her that she is to young to think about Islam. By converting to Islam she would support those people in Iraq, Afghanistan, Iran and other muslim countries where women are oppressed. Her mother even bought her 2 books of stories of afhghan women wo are oppressed. My advantage is that she tells me EVERYTHING on the phone so I do really know whats going on and I can tell her whats right or wrong.
She still says "I will convert one day" but I told her not to convert because of me but because of Allah. She knows that I want to live the islamic lifestyle. Now she tries to get to know a muslim girl who wears the hijab from school so she can get to know learn more about women in Islam.
My question is what can I do? I know I have to be patient and trust in Allah but how am I supposed to act and react towards this girl, who I really, really love in the name of Allah. I want her to be saved and Im really worried so I need your help my bros and sis
.My second question is the situation in the relationship. It happens that we hug, hold hand and give kisses on the cheeks. Allways after that I feel ashamed in front of Allah. Even if I make salat I don't feel good. I feel like a cheater because I asked him to bring me together with her and he did and look what I am doing now. What can I do? I thought about marrying islamic but my parents would not allow it, so should I marry secretly? I prayed so much to Allah that she would fall in love with me and she did. Now my intention is to be a good husband for her in the name of Allah and I don't want to make something wrong.
