Assalamu Alaikum....
a cousin of mine who has worn the hijab since 6th grade untill 10th grade is seriously consideriing quiting wearing the hijab for the remainder of her highschool years or more. She has told me that she has started wearing the hijab becuase other relatives such as me did and she didnt really wear it out of conviction but more to please or to fit in. but now that she has reached highschool she feels like she does not want to wear it anymore. she states that she knows herself, her religion, and the imp of hijab but she still feels like she is young and she wants to wear it when she is older and definetly before she is married. she has spoken with her mother who has adviced her that she cannot force her into wearin the hijab and that she should only wear it 4 Allah and not for anyone else. I also adviced her the same but i tried to remind her of the importance of wearing the hijab and the effects of not wearing one during highschool which is the time of great temptation. i am very worried about her. i asked her what her reason was 4 not wearing the hijab anymore and she said she luks at her friends and she envies not having the chance to dress up and do her hair like they do and that she is still a girl. i told her that life is supposed to be a struggle especially for muslims but she wants to have her fun before the struggle. i tried to advice her further but she has made up her mind and is going to stop wearing the hijab. i told her that i will pray 4 her and i respect her personal decision but i do not agree with it..but in the end it is her choice.
this is somthing i thought would never happen to a relative this close to me. I have a few relatives my age who also dont wear the hijab and have never in their lives and some who have recently started. but this situation is a first. all i can do is put my trust in Allah and pray for her.:tti_sister:
can some1 advice me with this situation.
a cousin of mine who has worn the hijab since 6th grade untill 10th grade is seriously consideriing quiting wearing the hijab for the remainder of her highschool years or more. She has told me that she has started wearing the hijab becuase other relatives such as me did and she didnt really wear it out of conviction but more to please or to fit in. but now that she has reached highschool she feels like she does not want to wear it anymore. she states that she knows herself, her religion, and the imp of hijab but she still feels like she is young and she wants to wear it when she is older and definetly before she is married. she has spoken with her mother who has adviced her that she cannot force her into wearin the hijab and that she should only wear it 4 Allah and not for anyone else. I also adviced her the same but i tried to remind her of the importance of wearing the hijab and the effects of not wearing one during highschool which is the time of great temptation. i am very worried about her. i asked her what her reason was 4 not wearing the hijab anymore and she said she luks at her friends and she envies not having the chance to dress up and do her hair like they do and that she is still a girl. i told her that life is supposed to be a struggle especially for muslims but she wants to have her fun before the struggle. i tried to advice her further but she has made up her mind and is going to stop wearing the hijab. i told her that i will pray 4 her and i respect her personal decision but i do not agree with it..but in the end it is her choice.
this is somthing i thought would never happen to a relative this close to me. I have a few relatives my age who also dont wear the hijab and have never in their lives and some who have recently started. but this situation is a first. all i can do is put my trust in Allah and pray for her.:tti_sister:
can some1 advice me with this situation.