LoL Saheer Bhai, are you even married yet? LoL
But why give her a gift on Valentine's Day? Why not everyday? Every muslim brother (especially OUR Muslim brothers (here), and more than that, especially our brothers from amongst Ahlus as Sunnah) shouldn't just dedicate one day in a year to show his wife how much he appreciates her, rather, you should do it everyday, and that's what I think all our brothers should do, because TRUE Muslim men show kindness and Love to their wife(because that HAS to exist in them, and before THAT exists, they have a deeper Love for Allah Ta Alla nad Rasulallah (SAW) and a dedication to Islam), and a Muslim brother who is steadfast starts to get a softer heart (they just have to understand the lessons of the Seerah), and Mashallah their heart is soft with their wife.
So brother, if you're married, I suggest (aw this sounds so sweet) that you always make everyday to be special for your wife, always tell her how much you love her, say nice words to her, always tell her how much you love her because of her good character, how beautiful she is (to you) because she is steadfast, and you should always be gentle and soft to her in words, and in your actions. Always groom yourself and adorn yourself with beauty (by imiating the way Rasulallah (SAW) looked, if you want me to give you a better hint, look at the way the Thaaliban brothers dress and look like), perfume yourself (with pleasent smelling Athar), sweeten your voice, always use Miswak (trust me, if you carry it around in your pocket a lot of times, you start always using it when you get bored, LoL
), and always smile sweetly at your wife; let your eys look soft, gentle, and beautiful for her to look at. If you beautify yourself (in appearance and character) and talk sweetly and gently with your wife, she starts feeling excited, and it makes her feel better. Whenever she's around you, she'll start feeling really happy because you always tell her how much you appreciate her.
And not only should you be kind, sweet, and gentle with your wife, but you should also by a gift for her once in a while. Come home with a nice handful of colorful flowers, and adorn yourself and beautify yourself. So when your wife is with you, as you smile to her and talk gently and sweetly with her, she starts feeling happier, but as you give her the flowers, the colors catches her eyes and she starts feeling more and more happy, speechless, and in her heart, a never ending joy.
The words you should also speak to your wife when talking about how much you love and appreciate her should be that you always mention that you love her for Allah Ta Alla's sake, and that you love the beauty in her character, and in her piety, and that you hope that she can become SO pious, and feel close to Allah Ta Alla. Tell her that you love her because she reminds you of Allah Ta Alla, His Beauty, and His Power, and the Wisdom that he had behind giving her that perfection, being beautiful in her character, modesty, and piety. Being someone who is so soft and gentle in her heart, someone who you want to always stay beautiful that way, someone, like her.
And even if your wife isn't extremely "Kubsurat," doesn't mean that that is why you shouldn't love her; after going through years and years of marriage, your wife will start to pick up on weight (after bearing children), and her youth will fade away, but you should remember the TRUE beauty in a Muslimah, and that is her Piety, because Wallahi Bhai (and this goes for other brothers) if you have a wife who exceeds extremely in her Piety, then that is all that matters, because the beauty will show in her appearance, when she's in her (well in both of your) room putting on her Hijab, Jilbab, and Niqab, when she's about to go outside, or when you see the Noor that shines in her face and in her character because of her Piety.
So as your wife gets older, her youth starts to fade away, and so does yours (you could appear younger than you really are, but in a diffearnt way then when you were a young newly married man), but as you grow older, then the only beauty that really remains is that of your Piety, and that is the case with your wife, so that is why, even as you grow older, you should beautify yourself and look lovely and beautiful in your appearance to please her eyes, and to make her smile when she sees you. And even if you are more beautfiul (in apperance) than her, then that (and her youth fading) is not the reason of why you should abandon her, for it will only lead to her becoming more and more stressed and unfriendly, because she feels upset and lonely in this world, and she needs someone special by her side who can be her chest to lean on when she needs someone close to her that understands her problems and who can be like a sheild to sacrifice itself so that no harm touches her, she needs someone who touches her heart (or who's heart she can touch, LoL) for her to lean on and who'll be her support as she goes through the differant obstacles in Life, and more importantly, someone who will be there for her to take her hand and help her get closer to Allah Ta Alla, together. Someone who she can count on to always Love her forever, no matter HOW she looks like, someone who will love no other women or girl but her, someone who will always forgive her for her shortcomings and mistakes, someone who will always be there for her and Love her with their full heart, in this Duniyah, and in the Akirah, Inshallah.
And you should always remember to do Ebadah with your wife as well! Wake her up for Fajr, and if you must, then take her out of bed so that she could worship Allah Ta Alla, and also you should do that for Tahajud, sit down on the floor reciting Quran, and understanding the verses and learning and gaining wisdom with eachother, let your time for worshipping Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta Alla to be a time to feel together, and make it a happy time for yourself, and for your wife, under the Mercy and Light of Allah Ta Alla, most high.
So Inshallah, all of us brothers will be able to acomplish these things, and to Allah Ta Alla belongs all Praise (and not me!), and he is the Most High and Beautiful, and never will I find a guiding and loving protector but him.
Assalamu Alykum Warahmatullahe Wabrakaathuh dear brothers and sisters.
-Your Chutu Bhai, Abdul Hasib