Advice Needed ASAP

[HappyMuslimah]

I have just found that my friend has cheated on an assignment. I am also doing the assignment, and its unfair that she gets a grade for copying from someone else. I am 100% certain about this. Its a fact.
I'm very angry. I'm considering going to the head of department about this. But if I do, she will almost certainly lose her grade. I'm uneasy about this. She is a muslim, and not a bad person underneath all her swagger.
What shall I do? I've helped her out plenty in the past. and im really peeved.
I'm going to see my tutor tomorrow, so quick replies please, y'all!

 

[OsMaN_93]

sorry............

 

[Turk Gumption]

Selamun Aleykum

You can send one of her chated thing with its original source through unknown e mail and notice her friendly way . I think it is better as a first step

 

[al-muslimah]

Come on Osman!!! her friend is the one who started cheating.
she shouldn't have cheated from the first place :S

Sister, I think you have to have a strong heart to tell her about what shes doing and let her know what's the ruling of cheating in islam. and see her reaction, if she feels sorry about this she will redo her own assignment. and if she denies cheating or somthing, go and tell the head of the department. I seriously know what you feel. Its not fair and so annoying, specially when she gets a higher grade!!!

May allah be with you, wish you all the best!

 

[HappyMuslimah]

why the hell do you want to dob your friend in?
jelousy.
well it doesn't work this way..
how then?
Allah (swt) will take action on the day of judgment.
however, dobbing people in, is NOT allowed in Islam.
maybe you shouyld talk to her privetly.
and tell her what islam says about cheating...

why are you jelous ???
your not gona be punished on the day you face your lord for this, inshallah?
i just don't understand why are yu jelous?????????????????????????????????????
:salam2:

I beg your pardon?!
You've said your piece, now its my turn. However, unlike you, my dear brother, I will make my critisism constructively.

That was a very rude and ill-considered reply. It hurt my feelings, in all honesty. I am in a difficult situation and have things other than this on my mind.You have just reduced me to tears. Thanks a lot.

Think before you type. What did you think your hasty, angry post was going to achieve? Did you think I would suddenly, say 'ok, this angry guy who has just had a go at me in front of the whole TTI community, is actually right'??

I don't think your opinion is right and I don't think your way of handling your feelings is correct. Think. Lets imagine for a second that you were, actually, correct. Do you think anyone at all would take your RANTING as useful, trustworthy advice?

Even to the most difficult people, you should answer in calm, and peace. Try not to be aggressive. The louder you shout, the more people stop listening.

This is a key Islamic concept. Do not attack people, verbally or via computer. Treat all peacefully. If you think you are right, speak up.

Finally, do not use metaphorical language with me. I take it too ironically. 'why the HELL do you want to...'.

And for your opinion, I am not jealous. In fact, this girl has copied from me numerously in the past. Mashalah, I achieve the highest grades in the class. Therefore, I have no need for jealousy.

You do not know everything about everyone in a few sentances on a forum. Do not assume you do.

I am sorry I have had to be so blunt. But I am upset, and I have tried to adhere to Islamic principles of calm and forgiveness in this post.

Fix yourself before it is too late.

 

[ditta]

Asalaamu'Alykum,

Insh'Allah this Fatawa may help, its not in relation to an assignment but an exam, but nevertheless its cheating.

Question:

Is it okay to cheat during an exam? When I see students cheating, I warn them, but they tell me that there is nothing wrong in doing it. Please provide us with some insight - and may Allah reward you. And may the peace, blessings, and merch of Allah be upon you.

Answer:

Cheating is unlawful, regardless whether it is in an exam, in worship, or in dealing with others, because the Prophet said:

"Whoever cheats us, is not from us." [Muslim no.101]

And because of the manifold evils (in this world and the next) that result from cheating, it is obligatory to warn against it and to work together to eradicate it.

Ibn Baz (May Allah have mercy on him)

Source: Fatawa Islamiyah Volume 8, Rulings for Teachers & Students, page 121.

My advice is that you should read that to her or make her read it, confront it. I will have a better look with Fatawa's that relate more to what you are saying - about reporting the sister, just in a little rush. Insh'Allah this helped.

Walaykum Salam

 

[Al-Salam]

salam sister, i know cheating is a very bad thing, but is it necessary to tell that to ur teacher? you should think about ur self and instead of getting angry, thank god that ur not the one who cheated. as long as ur not doing it, and know it's harram, dont get ur self into others problems. allah can see everything,before and after it happend. so by telling on your friend, you're not going to get a higher grade, but maybe lose a friend. i'm sure u don't want do that. just let it go.

 

[ShyHijabi]

Salaam sister,

I think you should approach this person and let them know you are saddened and disappointed at their action. I am not sure turning her in would be the Islamic thing to do, but I do know correcting her in private is a proper way. I am sorry you are in pain because I know you have to be saddened by your friends behavior. Mashallah on your high marks though.

Wasalaam

~Sarah

 

[a_brother]

Asalamo alaikom sister

this is a difficult situation.... but, why now that you feel bad about it (when you got lower grade than her) than other times when she copied from you.... i would suggest to take your time and think and don't take any action when you are in a bad mood.... Salam

 

[massi]

:salam2:
oh sister don't care about osemanpost ....:lol:
1-he is good brother but he made a mistake and i hope he ll give apologize ...
2-give her a good advice about cheating
3- don't tell the head of departement untill you see she doesn't accept your advice ...
4- don't show that you are involved in it....
5-if she asked you if you are invlved about it just say i don't know what are you talking about also it's a punishment from Allaah ...good luck

 

[Suhaila1]

Does her cheating affect your grade in any way? No. So there's no reason to rat her out.

If you do feel strongly about this, I suggest talking to the person who cheated, not the teacher.

 

[HappyMuslimah]

Does her cheating affect your grade in any way? No. So there's no reason to rat her out.

If you do feel strongly about this, I suggest talking to the person who cheated, not the teacher.

Her cheating does not affect me in any way - just like all my Palestinian brothers and sisters being killed does not affect me at all. Of course it affects me!

She's my friend. It angers me that she doesn't care for the Hereafter. If we all keep minding our own businesses, we'll all lead seperate lives. No one will help anyone. How can we expect Islam to flourish without support when we stary? If I'm doing something wrong, I want you all to tell me.

And it does affect my grade. I'm upset because she is taking the worth out of my grade. If half of the class get grades they don't deserve, then I'll just be one of 15 people who have passed. Only I worked hard for mine. They did not. I therfore become in disrepute, as does my college.

I hope this makes sense.

 

[mosabaig]

do your duty..

Assalam O alakum,

I think its our duty to stop the wrong by our hands if we cannot then with our tounges then the least thing is to consider the bad as bad and there is no lesser degree then that for a muslim or muslimah........do you best and it is your decision how strong a person you are..

 

[mezeren]

:salam2:
sister,i think you should talk to your friend in a polite way,tell her that what she does is wrong.But i wouldn't recommend you take another action,like,informing someone else.As far as i can see,she does not feel too uncomfartable about the situation and will not change her attitude untill she feels otherwise.you can't force someone to feel as you do or believe what you believe.i am sure,she will realise one day that she had been wrong and regret what she did.your telling the situation to your teacher will do you no good but you will loose a friend,and never look for a perfect friend because none of us is perfect.
mind you,others getting better grades because of cheating,in no way,takes anything away from you.First and the most important,Allah knows who is doing what,second,schools are just tools and when you and others get a job,the differences will be clear.
:salam2:

 

[Suhaila1]

Her cheating does not affect me in any way - just like all my Palestinian brothers and sisters being killed does not affect me at all. Of course it affects me!

She's my friend. It angers me that she doesn't care for the Hereafter. If we all keep minding our own businesses, we'll all lead seperate lives. No one will help anyone. How can we expect Islam to flourish without support when we stary? If I'm doing something wrong, I want you all to tell me.

And it does affect my grade. I'm upset because she is taking the worth out of my grade. If half of the class get grades they don't deserve, then I'll just be one of 15 people who have passed. Only I worked hard for mine. They did not. I therfore become in disrepute, as does my college.

I hope this makes sense.

I asked if her cheating affects your grade only, not you. Also, I think it very naive of you to compare something as silly as cheating in school to the plight of the Palestinians, although I'm sure your intent was only to be melodramatic.

Not that I condone cheating or anything, but if you are, as you say, only concerned with her moral wellbeing, then you should talk to HER, not the teacher. You do her an injustice by talking about that behind her back.

Sorry if I seem harsh, but I am very opposed to that type of behavior, just as you're opposed to cheating :]