Assalamun aleykum to all ummah.hi brothers and sisters.i am a 24 years old man married a scottish woman{21}.we married 3 yaers ago and she became a muslim by her decision.She was praying, fasting till we had our daughter {medena}3 months ago.than she became really strange.and she gave up praying and last week she said there is no proof that islam is right way to god .i tried to exaplain but i was in shock cos me and my wife was talking about islam till mornings.and she saw PROPHET 2 TIMES IN HER DREAM.I TRIED TO TELL HER BUT IT MADE THE THINGS WORSE COS I COULD FEEL THE SEYTHAN BETWEEN US.WHEN I AM ALONE TEARS IN MY EYES NEVER STOP I PRAY TO ALLAH TOO MUCH.BUT I KNOW ALLAH WILL SHOW.I CANT DO ANYTHING AT THE MOMNET COS I VE BEEN IN SCOTLAND JUST FOR 3 months AND I have TO STAY FOR MY DAUGHTER MEDINA TO BRING HER UP AS A MUSLIMAH INSALLAH.WHAT SHOULD I DO?DO I GET ANY SINS IF SHE GIVES UP ISLAM AND I STILL BE WITH HER .SOMETIMES I THINK MAY BE ALLAH IS GOING TO MAKE HER IMAN STRONGER .I CANT EVEN EXPLAIN WHAT IS HAPPENING AS U SEE BECAUSE I AM STILL IN SHOCK.I WOULD ALWAYS THINK SHE WAS VERY GOOD.I REALLY DONT KNOW .YA RABBI I KNOW I AHVE TO BE PATIENT AND STAY STRONG IN UR WAY INSALLAH.HOW DID SHE BECOME LIKE THAT?I REALLY DONT KNOW.WHAT WOULD I DO IF SHE TRY TO BE BAD TO ME WHILE I AM BRINGING UP MY DAUGHTER AS A MUSLIM.I DONT KNOW.LAST NIGHT I HAD A DREAM AND I COULD SEE SEYTHHAN IN MY WIFE"S EYES THAN I STARTED TO READ ADTHAN THAN I WOKE UP.OH MY BROTHERS AND SISTERS I KNOW EVEN PROPHET"S UNCLE DIED AS A UNBLEIVER.BUT PLS TELL ME WHAT CAN I DO?ASSALAMUN ALEYKUM
Assalamun aleykum
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MubarekMuslimah
Junior Member
Salaams brother
I am very sorry to hear of your problems, may Allah guide you and your wife and child insha'allah.
You can never pray to Allah too much, Allah loves to hear our du'as and to be asked for help from us.
I suggest getting some sisters to talk to your wife and also try and speak to her yourself - be gentle, she sounds confused. Try and find out what the problem is and where she has got this idea from about Islam not being right - go back to basics with tawheed, miracle of the Qur'an etc.
It is important that you continue to raise your daughter as muslim as much as in your control as you have responsiblity towards her as well as your wife.
Remember "Allah swt never burdens a soul more than it can bear"
Insha'allah all will be well, you are in my du'a
Salaams
I am very sorry to hear of your problems, may Allah guide you and your wife and child insha'allah.
You can never pray to Allah too much, Allah loves to hear our du'as and to be asked for help from us.
I suggest getting some sisters to talk to your wife and also try and speak to her yourself - be gentle, she sounds confused. Try and find out what the problem is and where she has got this idea from about Islam not being right - go back to basics with tawheed, miracle of the Qur'an etc.
It is important that you continue to raise your daughter as muslim as much as in your control as you have responsiblity towards her as well as your wife.
Remember "Allah swt never burdens a soul more than it can bear"
Insha'allah all will be well, you are in my du'a
Salaams
Abdul Hasib
Student of Knowledge
Spit to your left side three times brother. And post a thread asking any sisters if they live in Scotland. Ay the Shaytaan! A fool that retarted demon is, a boasting fool thinking he knows more than Allah. I'll make dua for Allah to make your wife become a mmuslim again, and I'll pray and help you brother! I 'll not rest till I'm stasfied I found one. But Please brother!
Inshallah, Allah's light will guide her.
From your 12 yr old little brother, Salam.
Inshallah, Allah's light will guide her.
From your 12 yr old little brother, Salam.
Abdul Hasib
Student of Knowledge
I've posted the thread on the Sisters Club know.
Albint_Almuslima
Im Proud 2 B Me!
Asalam Alakum Wa Rahmet Allah Wa barakatu
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I am really sorry to hear what you are going through right now. May Allah make everything easy for you and guide your wife.
You need to know why your wife has misconceptions of Islam, what made her feel that way about Islam?:astag: :astag:
Dont give up brother, be patient. In his Holy Book Allah said" In Allah Yihib kul sabarin Shakoor" " Allah loves those who are patient and thankful".
:tti_sister:
I ask Allah the Most Merciful and Most Benificient to help you and your family overcome your problems. I pray to The Almighty and Most Great to guide your wife to the right path which he bestowed. I ask Allah to give you patients and help you raise your daughter and carve Islam in her heart. Allahuma Istajib. Oh please Allah answer my Duaa. AMEEN
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I am really sorry to hear what you are going through right now. May Allah make everything easy for you and guide your wife.
You need to know why your wife has misconceptions of Islam, what made her feel that way about Islam?:astag: :astag:
Dont give up brother, be patient. In his Holy Book Allah said" In Allah Yihib kul sabarin Shakoor" " Allah loves those who are patient and thankful".
:tti_sister:
I ask Allah the Most Merciful and Most Benificient to help you and your family overcome your problems. I pray to The Almighty and Most Great to guide your wife to the right path which he bestowed. I ask Allah to give you patients and help you raise your daughter and carve Islam in her heart. Allahuma Istajib. Oh please Allah answer my Duaa. AMEEN
Assalamu Alaykum,
May Allah help you and your family Ameen.
Yeah I agree you need to discuss things with her and get some sisters to see her.
Also, you may look into post-natal depression.
wasalam.
May Allah help you and your family Ameen.
Yeah I agree you need to discuss things with her and get some sisters to see her.
Also, you may look into post-natal depression.
wasalam.
Abdul Hasib
Student of Knowledge
Abdul Hasib
Student of Knowledge
Oh now it works after I Quoted!
Abdul Hasib
Student of Knowledge
Gaaaa...... I snt the board to 15-16 sisters on this board. http://www.turntoislam.com/forum/showthread.php?t=4153&page=2
Please tell me of any successss brother...
Salam from your 12 yr bro.....
Please tell me of any successss brother...
Salam from your 12 yr bro.....
hambaAllah
Junior Member
:salam2: bro
POST_Natal depression or blues,,, is a depress condition some women suffered after giving birth,, due to some drastic changes in body hormones n new a responsibility,, the baby....Some of them get it in the early stages of pregnancy some after birth...Be patience with her brother,, try to help her out with the baby n maybe housework,,,Pray to Allah to give both of u the strength to overcome this temporary setback
Maybe bring her to see a specialist...hope this help...
LoveIslam
ALLAH FORGIVE US
assalamualaykum brother it is really sad that your wife behave like this about islam:astag: , inshaallah i will rember her in my prayer i am agree with sister Albint_Almuslima that
You need to know why your wife has misconceptions of Islam, what made her feel that way about Islam?:astag: :astag:
aslo agree with sister MubarekMuslimah
Try and find out what the problem is and where she has got this idea from about Islam not being right - go back to basics with tawheed, miracle of the Qur'an etc.
you should just cheack her friend circle is ther anybody who is washing her brain
faiz_fauzi
Junior Member
Assalamualikum!
Remember what ALLAH says in THE GREAT QURAN bro,
O ye who believe! seek help with patient perseverance and prayer; for Allah is with those who patiently persevere. Al-Baqarah 153.
So perform ur solah better and do pray a lot.And be patient.InsyaALLAH she will come back to u in a better condition other words better muslim.
Hopes and prayers for u bro.
Remember what ALLAH says in THE GREAT QURAN bro,
O ye who believe! seek help with patient perseverance and prayer; for Allah is with those who patiently persevere. Al-Baqarah 153.
So perform ur solah better and do pray a lot.And be patient.InsyaALLAH she will come back to u in a better condition other words better muslim.
Hopes and prayers for u bro.
Abdul Hasib
Student of Knowledge
But remember to raise your only kid as a Muslim and not a Mushrikun.
Abdul Hasib
Student of Knowledge
Just make sure your kid stays away from your wife.
just b/c she's going through a rough time in her life does not mean she'll be a bad mother or stop her daughter from believing..."keep her away from her mother"...that's the worst thing you can do!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!...your wife will hate you more...not less...then again after thinking about it, if she is suffering from depression it could turn into a Yates thing...(texas woman that drowned her five kids...awful)...i'm not trying to make you think of this like she's dangerous or anything...far from it...i'm just trying to see where the brother was coming from...take her to a doctor and make sure she doesn't have depression though...just in case...
Seriously, I think you guys should just try to be open with each other about what's going on...maybe she's suffering from that thing women get after they have a baby like depression or something?...either way, just let her know you'll always be there...she'll get through this with your help...don't give up on her...allah will reward you for it...she hasn't lost faith...in my opinion, once someone believes it will always be in them...a part of her always will...just give her time...talk to her and be there...
Praying for her and being there is really the only thing you can do right now...allah is with you...salam
Seriously, I think you guys should just try to be open with each other about what's going on...maybe she's suffering from that thing women get after they have a baby like depression or something?...either way, just let her know you'll always be there...she'll get through this with your help...don't give up on her...allah will reward you for it...she hasn't lost faith...in my opinion, once someone believes it will always be in them...a part of her always will...just give her time...talk to her and be there...
Praying for her and being there is really the only thing you can do right now...allah is with you...salam
Abdul Hasib
Student of Knowledge
Yeah now I think about that the depression thing could really be it. But, what about brother seeing the Shaytaan in her eyes? Huh? That seems over natural.
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I would certainly check out how your wife is feeling since having the baby as she may have some signs of post-natal deppresion and may feel confused about other things too.
I really do hope Inshallah that your wife finds herself again with Allah help and plenty of dua she will and this Inshallah will only be a tempory way of thought for her at this moment. Brother you must be supportive and understanding to her and with Allah help guide her back onto the rightous path Inshallah.
I would certainly check out how your wife is feeling since having the baby as she may have some signs of post-natal deppresion and may feel confused about other things too.
I really do hope Inshallah that your wife finds herself again with Allah help and plenty of dua she will and this Inshallah will only be a tempory way of thought for her at this moment. Brother you must be supportive and understanding to her and with Allah help guide her back onto the rightous path Inshallah.
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I would just like to say that I think you shouldnt write about things you obviously no nothing about,due to your age brother. I personally find what you said offensive.
She was given that baby at Allah will and carried that baby for nine long months gave birth to that baby and put up with the pains of labour. The mother gets alot of reward from Allah for having children and the suffering that a woman goes through and you been of what 12? can give the opinion of "Just make sure your kid stays away from your wife" is very unjust and unfair in my opinion.
May Allah forgive me for anything I have said wrong Inshallah