Hopetogoparadis
Junior Member
Assalam alakum
I understood that we should be nice to parents and dont say them bad words, listen them and obey them (as long as they dont tell us to disobey Allah)
So there is this situation, where parents dont want you to get married saying that you still need to finish your school. And they give you different excuses, like ''you are not able to afford for family, you dont understand marriage is not easy...'' but honestly it seems like they just dont want me to get married in this age (20) so thats why even if i give them good reasons, they will do not wanna accept it because problem is that they dont want marriage before having graduated and finding a job.
In this case, do you think i should tell them ''you spent all that money with my brother, now its my turn, why dont you give me financial help ?'' and if they say no then i might continue ''You talk about being just, but you are not just with your own sons....'' (So that it can touch their mind maybe and they can say ''ooh, yea, actually he is right'')
I wanted to say these two kind of things to them but then i fear that maybe its not good to talk them like that, however i dont know what else can be said to them, to let them understand, otherwise it seems like i should just sit and wait without doing anything, expecting Allah to change their hearts.
I understood that we should be nice to parents and dont say them bad words, listen them and obey them (as long as they dont tell us to disobey Allah)
So there is this situation, where parents dont want you to get married saying that you still need to finish your school. And they give you different excuses, like ''you are not able to afford for family, you dont understand marriage is not easy...'' but honestly it seems like they just dont want me to get married in this age (20) so thats why even if i give them good reasons, they will do not wanna accept it because problem is that they dont want marriage before having graduated and finding a job.
In this case, do you think i should tell them ''you spent all that money with my brother, now its my turn, why dont you give me financial help ?'' and if they say no then i might continue ''You talk about being just, but you are not just with your own sons....'' (So that it can touch their mind maybe and they can say ''ooh, yea, actually he is right'')
I wanted to say these two kind of things to them but then i fear that maybe its not good to talk them like that, however i dont know what else can be said to them, to let them understand, otherwise it seems like i should just sit and wait without doing anything, expecting Allah to change their hearts.