can she do this??

[Seeking Allah's Mercy]

:salam2:wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu. . .

hope everyone is in the best of health and imaan...

i've got a Question regarding something that we here, call "iddat". i'm not sure what it's called in Arabic. i'm talking about the period of four months in which a muslim women has to stay in her house, going out only incase of extreme necessity, after her husbands dies.

so that, i mean iddat, my aunty was at her in laws in the village when her husband was rested in his grave. Her in laws are not exactly friendly creatures and she and her brothers want her as far away from them as possible. Now that the only hindrance(her husband) is out of the way, they want that done.

she's planning to shift to her house after eid and complete this four month period there. living with her sons and younger brother.can she??

living with her in laws also mean she'll constantly have to come in front of her Brother in laws.so that is also one of the contributing factors of her decision.

so what's the islamic ruling on this?? i heard that the woman has to stay in the house from where her husband's body is taken out.

Jazakallah khair.

wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu

 

[Nayyararsi]

http://www.islamqa.com/en/pda/ref/islamqa/6240. I think that this should help you InshaALLAH...

 

[mosabaig]

ideet

:salam2:

I think she should contact a scholar (an Aalim ) whom she knows, in the local area or ask by phone. Islam offers ways for different issues we face and we should always contact a pious scholar to make our life better in here and in hereafter.

 

[faaraa]

Ikhthi... as I know Iddah means to calculate some people say it does mean "the waiting period"..

However, I know that in most of the south Asian countries (INCLUDING SRI LANKA ) people have a misconception on IDDAH

They think that the lady widow should be kept inside a dark room, she shouldn't see non mehrams, etc etc etc...

As you said that "i heard that the woman has to stay in the house from where her husband's body is taken out."

No sister, the women should start calculating her period of IDDAH as soon as she gets the news of the death of her husband, NO MATTER WHERE SHE IS...

But, in a divorce case, the wife should be permitted to live in her husband's place... THAT'S A DIFFERENT CASE...

ALLAH AZZAWAJAL KNOWS BEST

Your Aunt has to stay away from marriage for 4 months and 10 days according to the Lunar calender, from the day your Uncle passed away... '

ALLAH AZZAWAJAL KNOWS BEST

and another misconception we have about IDDAH is, as you said that most of the people think that she should not communicate with her BROTHERS IN LAW as they are Ajnabis..

BUT... we must understand one thing clearly...

ITS NOT PERMITTED TO ANY MATURED GIRL, MARRIED OR UNMARRIED, TO HAVE USELESS COMMUNICATIONS WITH ANY NON MEHRAMS WHETHER THEY ARE BROTHERS-IN-LAW OR ANY ONE ELSE...

The ruling of HIJAAB is there to be maintained whether she is a married woman or widow or a virgin..

People think that ALLAH AZZAWAJAL only looks at you when you are counting the period of IDDAH... (Sounds funny some times.. )

ALLAH AZZAWAJAL KNOWS BEST

ANOTHER POINT TO BE NOTED HERE IS, I know many people fix a date according to their wish, to start the IDDAH...

But as I understand that's also wrong... I am saying this YA UKHTHI.. because, you said that Aunt is planning to shift to her house after eid and complete this four month period there....

This is not correct... as I said earlier, Aunt has to calculate 4 months and 10 days according to the Lunar calender, from the day your Uncle passed away, and that would be her IDDAH..

ALLAH AZZAWAJAL KNOWS BEST

correct me if I am wrong..

FEE AMANILLAH

 

[Nayyararsi]

Ikhthi... as I know Iddah means to calculate some people say it does mean "the waiting period"..

However, I know that in most of the south Asian countries (INCLUDING SRI LANKA ) people have a misconception on IDDAH

They think that the lady widow should be kept inside a dark room, she shouldn't see non mehrams, etc etc etc...

As you said that "i heard that the woman has to stay in the house from where her husband's body is taken out."

No sister, the women should start calculating her period of IDDAH as soon as she gets the news of the death of her husband, NO MATTER WHERE SHE IS...

But, in a divorce case, the wife should be permitted to live in her husband's place... THAT'S A DIFFERENT CASE...

ALLAH AZZAWAJAL KNOWS BEST

Your Aunt has to stay away from marriage for 4 months and 10 days according to the Lunar calender, from the day your Uncle passed away... '

ALLAH AZZAWAJAL KNOWS BEST

and another misconception we have about IDDAH is, as you said that most of the people think that she should not communicate with her BROTHERS IN LAW as they are Ajnabis..

BUT... we must understand one thing clearly...

ITS NOT PERMITTED TO ANY MATURED GIRL, MARRIED OR UNMARRIED, TO HAVE USELESS COMMUNICATIONS WITH ANY NON MEHRAMS WHETHER THEY ARE BROTHERS-IN-LAW OR ANY ONE ELSE...

The ruling of HIJAAB is there to be maintained whether she is a married woman or widow or a virgin..

People think that ALLAH AZZAWAJAL only looks at you when you are counting the period of IDDAH... (Sounds funny some times.. )

ALLAH AZZAWAJAL KNOWS BEST

ANOTHER POINT TO BE NOTED HERE IS, I know many people fix a date according to their wish, to start the IDDAH...

But as I understand that's also wrong... I am saying this YA UKHTHI.. because, you said that Aunt is planning to shift to her house after eid and complete this four month period there....

This is not correct... as I said earlier, Aunt has to calculate 4 months and 10 days according to the Lunar calender, from the day your Uncle passed away, and that would be her IDDAH..

ALLAH AZZAWAJAL KNOWS BEST

correct me if I am wrong..

FEE AMANILLAH

Sister do you mean to say the widow needs not to stay in her husbands house to complete her Iddah...Please correct me if i am wrong...

 

[Seeking Allah's Mercy]

:salam2:wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu. . .

http://www.islamqa.com/en/pda/ref/islamqa/6240. I think that this should help you InshaALLAH...

Jazakallah khair for the fatwa akhi, i have a Question about it though.

it says she should stay at her huband's. The house my aunty is about to shift to is the one they were living in. It's her husband's house. Her brother lives near that house.

He died in that house, but he was taken to his village and burried there. So can she move back to her house?? Her husbands house? That was my Question.

:salam2:

I think she should contact a scholar (an Aalim ) whom she knows, in the local area or ask by phone. Islam offers ways for different issues we face and we should always contact a pious scholar to make our life better in here and in hereafter.

Jazakallah khair. There are a lot of opinions roaming about. i want to see the salafi point of view. Which i can safely say, is based on sunnah Inshaa'Allah.

 

[Seeking Allah's Mercy]

No sister, the women should start calculating her period of IDDAH as soon as she gets the news of the death of her husband, NO MATTER WHERE SHE IS...

:salam2:wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu. . .

sister i'm only asking if she can leave that place or not, it is clear that her iddah starts from monday, when he pass away rahimallahu. But there is a concept here that she stays where she is, although that's not her husbands house, that's what you may call the brother in law's house now.

 

[Seeking Allah's Mercy]

*EDITED: Got answer to the first Question ;http://www.islam-qa.com/en/ref/6240/'iddah rulings *


Asalamoalaikom wa rahmatullahi wa barakaatuhu. . .

Since I have another Question in similar context I'll just ask here:

My understanding of 'iddah is that it is for solving/proving the matter of weather a child is concieved by a woman or not.

Is there 'iddah for elderly ladies. Woman who cannot concieve children? For example my grandma is performing(?) her iddat in my village and she's above 85 i.e past the age of concieving children.