CHANGEMENTS

[hayat84]

:salam2:
Brothers and sisters,
I wish to expose you some changements that Islam made to me and verify if Im the only woman who feels it.
I can feel Islam in my heart,I love it more than any other thing,it's like living a dream that only me I can know.But facing to the reality of nowdays,in Italy above all(I don't know if out of it it's the same),I can perceive a sense of fear toward muslims and toward strangers in general.I had a bad experience two weeks ago.I went out with husband:while he was parking his car,I saw a man running toward him with anger and I heard with how much aggressivity there was in his face and words.this man substained that my husband's car was going to take down his little daughter and he started to offend my husband by telling him bad things:I know how much strengh has my husband,but he didnd't defend his body,cause he thought that in Italy it wins the Italian and not the stranger.But the thing that let me be sadder is that I clearly heard by the mouth of that man this sentence"Marocchino di m...".It is a bad word that offended me a lot,above all because I was born in Italy and was touched in my dearest thing.I ashame to be Italian,cause here there's only depravation,nakeness,volgarity and anything bad that hurts my personality.
Another strange thing is that from the day I told to my few friends that I am muslima and dress Hijab,none of them made me a call and when I met them by chance,they turned their sight to another part...Is there someone of you who felt what I felt?:shymuslima1:

 

[BADTASTEBEARS]

Assalamualaikum ukhti.

In the name of Allah, the most gracious the most merciful.

You should know that..Well infact we ALL knows that this is yet another test from Allah. I used to feel the same way as u did. But for the last 2 years of learning this wonderful religion of Allah's, Ive learnt that after every hardship, there comes ease.

Think positive ukhti, no muslim can get afflicted but Allah expiates his or her sins.

I dont know if im helping but, we're all here and we'll be praying for you insya Allah!

 

[arzafar]

Dont worry sister.
a friend in need is a friend indeed! the fact that they dont like you anymore implies that you're a fairly good muslimah.

1) you should find muslims near your place.

2) give your neighbors their rights. you and your husband can invite them for dinner, ask for their health, send them gifts, help them in time of need etc. All this is part of Islam teachings. If you follow these things, Inshallah, people in your neighborhood will realize that muslims are good people! And it may also open their heart to islam.

3) if you have the means you should migrate to an islamic country.

 

[katieanneb]

Salem,

I'm sorry about your experience. A lot of these things happen because of people's ignorance about Islam, other nationalities, the bad way Muslims often behave, and finally because of the bad image of Islam and Muslims portrayed by the media. I agree that we should try to change these negative ideas by example, showing people how real Muslims behave, and how Islam improves our lives in every way. I would just like to say that I'm living in an "islamic" country, but people are ignorant about their religion here, too, and I've had bad experiences here also. Sometimes there is more freedom to live true Islam in "Western" countries than in so-called islamic countries (dress, study groups etc).

All in all, I think we will just have to be patient and endure these trials, as they are a test of our faith and perseverence, and try to understand the wisdom behind every experience, whether good or bad, as they all happen to teach us something, but we sometimes don't understand what the lesson is. We are simply too short-sighted and want everything to be perfect all the time. This is my experience in life, if it means anything to you. I wonder if it's a part of growing up, to be more open-minded and to try to see the good in every experience. What do you think?

Best wishes to you and your family.

Salem.

 

[hayat84]

he he!it could be easy if only you come here and see with your eyes how they look at us.the neighbours were kind before they took confidece withus and exployted our disponibility.

 

[arzafar]

he he!it could be easy if only you come here and see with your eyes how they look at us.the neighbours were kind before they took confidece withus and exployted our disponibility.

you mean your neighbors treated you badly?
i suppose you're right, as i cant judge without experiencing your situation. Basically I was trying to say that morals and worship go together. Non muslims dont care about your worship, they are concerned with your morals. So continue treating your neighbors kindly and Inshallah they will change.

 

[hayat84]

I was talking in general,the bad adventure we passed was caused by a man in a parking,but the matter of our neighbours is another thing.They perfectly know we are muslims,more times we purposed them to come in our house,but time by time I only could see that their speeches didn't interest us and vice-versa,till the moment they turned their face to another side.this is it,I wrote in my profile that I like honesty and respect,I didn't fail in anything,I only made my businesses and let those untrue people go far from us.What I meant to say is if some of you tested the sensation to be avoided like a thief or something ugly...I don't care if others don't accept my faith,but I also ask to respect of my dignity,cause the animal too has its dignity.My husband is going to renounce to take Italian nationality cause he was offended many times from Italians.It's bad to say,but I judge my Country like the trash of Europe.don't get ungry with me,if there's some italian brother or sister who is reading my post,but I only expressed what I feel in a place without rules