Asalamu aleykum wr wb dear sisters and brothers..
Am so confuse. I get angry so easily, and specialy when I feel like people are unfair to me.. Personaly am very kind and emotional.
I dont know who to talk to and what to say, and I feel shame, to talk about it to an imaam.. I do my best to be a good muslim, and am the only one who practice Islam at my home. My allah guide my mother and siblings.. Amin..
Sometimes I see my mom doin somethin that may be harram, or she is unfair with my sisters (when she gets angry she insults you or other people). I tell her to fear Allah, and she usely get angry with me..
So today, I had an argue with my mother. My little bother was ennoying the kids (my aunts kids and my siblings) and they couldnt get peace from him, so I punished him by putting him in a room to teach him the consequences of what he did, so he may not do it again.
So while I was in the kitchen, I dont know what he said to my mother and she had heard him screaming and crying (he is 5years old). She came to me and start beating and yelling about I had pinched and slapped him.. Am a human (allah forgive me) and shaitan overcame me, so I got angry and said that I didnt do that, but she keep saying that I pinched him so I called my bother and asked him what I did to him?? He said that I didnt pinched him..
Even though he said that I didnt do it, mother keept yelling that I did that, so I told her to fear allah and stop saying that, for if she keept saying somethin I didnt do that it was like lying, mother asked me if I was sying she was lyin and I said yes coz she keep saying somethin I didnt do eventhougth my bother was saying that I didnt do that (I was screaming while saying all that, coz I wanted to be heard). I know there is no excuse for doing that, she is my mother and should always look down. Mother have a right to do what ever she want to,. I love my mother, but I just find it very hard to satisfy her.. Alhamdulillahi I dont leave without saying sorry to her..
I do wonder, all the time.. I know that we should respect our parents and honour them, but what if what they are doin is wrong?? Are we supposed to give them right of all the things that is not fair or harram, and which we know is damb??
As for my mother if she gets angry she insults people, which of course is familiar. My siblings, the sisters from the Masjid etc..
Tell me some stories, somethin that will help me hold my anger. Somethin to think of when mother do somethin like that again and which will help not doin anythin.. The only things that helps me and makes me stop sometimes is to think of that I will NEVER enter jannah when mother is angry or sad with me..
Am so confuse. I get angry so easily, and specialy when I feel like people are unfair to me.. Personaly am very kind and emotional.
I dont know who to talk to and what to say, and I feel shame, to talk about it to an imaam.. I do my best to be a good muslim, and am the only one who practice Islam at my home. My allah guide my mother and siblings.. Amin..
Sometimes I see my mom doin somethin that may be harram, or she is unfair with my sisters (when she gets angry she insults you or other people). I tell her to fear Allah, and she usely get angry with me..
So today, I had an argue with my mother. My little bother was ennoying the kids (my aunts kids and my siblings) and they couldnt get peace from him, so I punished him by putting him in a room to teach him the consequences of what he did, so he may not do it again.
So while I was in the kitchen, I dont know what he said to my mother and she had heard him screaming and crying (he is 5years old). She came to me and start beating and yelling about I had pinched and slapped him.. Am a human (allah forgive me) and shaitan overcame me, so I got angry and said that I didnt do that, but she keep saying that I pinched him so I called my bother and asked him what I did to him?? He said that I didnt pinched him..
Even though he said that I didnt do it, mother keept yelling that I did that, so I told her to fear allah and stop saying that, for if she keept saying somethin I didnt do that it was like lying, mother asked me if I was sying she was lyin and I said yes coz she keep saying somethin I didnt do eventhougth my bother was saying that I didnt do that (I was screaming while saying all that, coz I wanted to be heard). I know there is no excuse for doing that, she is my mother and should always look down. Mother have a right to do what ever she want to,. I love my mother, but I just find it very hard to satisfy her.. Alhamdulillahi I dont leave without saying sorry to her..
I do wonder, all the time.. I know that we should respect our parents and honour them, but what if what they are doin is wrong?? Are we supposed to give them right of all the things that is not fair or harram, and which we know is damb??
As for my mother if she gets angry she insults people, which of course is familiar. My siblings, the sisters from the Masjid etc..
Tell me some stories, somethin that will help me hold my anger. Somethin to think of when mother do somethin like that again and which will help not doin anythin.. The only things that helps me and makes me stop sometimes is to think of that I will NEVER enter jannah when mother is angry or sad with me..
preached islam in a calm way. he never became angry or used abusive words.
