Asiya-sparkles
Junior Member
Asalam alaikom wa Rachman tullah wa burraktohu
I have encountered a sister in the last few months who initially appeared to be so very pious and knowledge ma'shAllah and alhamdulillah was very inspiring to be around and especially so for a vulnerable sister who I had been concerned for for a long time- she is a treasure! Now however, increasingly the new 'pious' sister is risking her good reputation and our desire to be with her because she frequently becomes angry and resorts to backbiting sisters (and some brothers too) and when is reminded about the sin of backbiting or to address her issues with the actual person she is complaining about she becomes more angry and wont listen. She is the first person to enjoin right upon others alhamdulillah, she also has many many good qualities and is a busy and active person who genuinely believes that she only has good intentions and that her actions or words are always justified. It is increasingly difficult to be around her and though we have been 'overlooking' many hurtful things she has said and making excuses, we realise the compassion and tolerance and patience is one way...she is demonstrating none for other people. Her life is alhamdulillah by the rule book literally, yet, elements such as compassion and being gentle in speach etceteras seem to be attributes she excuses herself from!
If anyone knows how to address and resolve this kind of problem and somehow encourage good relations- letting the actual relationship benefit as well as the sisters conduct and our enviornment inshAllah I would be sooooooo grateful.
Jazak alak ghairun
Asiya
I have encountered a sister in the last few months who initially appeared to be so very pious and knowledge ma'shAllah and alhamdulillah was very inspiring to be around and especially so for a vulnerable sister who I had been concerned for for a long time- she is a treasure! Now however, increasingly the new 'pious' sister is risking her good reputation and our desire to be with her because she frequently becomes angry and resorts to backbiting sisters (and some brothers too) and when is reminded about the sin of backbiting or to address her issues with the actual person she is complaining about she becomes more angry and wont listen. She is the first person to enjoin right upon others alhamdulillah, she also has many many good qualities and is a busy and active person who genuinely believes that she only has good intentions and that her actions or words are always justified. It is increasingly difficult to be around her and though we have been 'overlooking' many hurtful things she has said and making excuses, we realise the compassion and tolerance and patience is one way...she is demonstrating none for other people. Her life is alhamdulillah by the rule book literally, yet, elements such as compassion and being gentle in speach etceteras seem to be attributes she excuses herself from!
If anyone knows how to address and resolve this kind of problem and somehow encourage good relations- letting the actual relationship benefit as well as the sisters conduct and our enviornment inshAllah I would be sooooooo grateful.
Jazak alak ghairun
Asiya