HELP PLZZZZZZZZ

[hassana elkoussi]

:salam2: dear brothers & sisters,

I need your help plz. A friend of mine has been studying in London for about a year. She's been a practising Moslem, but right now she feels so out of place with her hijab and she's even considering taking it off, so " she wouldn't feel so different". I tried hard to talk her out of these thoughts and I was wondering if you could advise me what to tell her to help her out of this fitnah. Jazakom Allah khair in advance for your help.

Salam

 

[IHearIslam]

:salam2: Respected sister in Islam

well, I dont know if my advice is good, but I would advice you to remind her the verses of Allah ta'ala, to remind her that she is as a MUSLIM supposed to be "stranger" and to take PRIDE in being one of the "strangers". why would she want to OBEY and be "fit" in the society while DISOBEYING the ONLY, the praise worthy Allah ta'ala??? would it make her feel better, but does that feling last long?? what about the anger Allah will have for her? Does she care about her deen, her RAB?? She has to consider all these and add to this, did she wear the Hijab for Allah or for HIS creation?? who is she really trying to please? remind her that "ALL" she did before was for Allah and she should keep doing THAT to please HIM and HIM ALONE!inshaAllah,I ask Allah to make things easier for her and all the Muslims, I ask Him to keep guding her and all of us, I ask HIM to forgive our shortcomings and I ask HIM to make us among the dwelers of Jannah.ameen,ameen,ameen
PS>I hope I helped and if ANYTHING good come out of this, IT'S FROM Allah, and If I said ANYTHING bad, it's from my UNEDUCATED soul! May Allah help us all ameen.
Allah hafiz now and always

 

[Muslim18]

:salam2:

I dont know much about helping people out of their own fitnah but all you can do is warn and advise her that what she is considering doing is wrong, ask her why she wears the hijab for what purpose, Allah commanded us to wear hijab to cover ourselves and guard our modesty he didnt command us to be the same as the rest of the people we are chosen above them we have imaan why should we feel different or strange when a body without imaan or modesty is the strange thing.....Allah says in the Quran sorry cant find the ayah but Allah says were you to follow the majority of people they will surely lead you to Hell fire.....so you see being different isnt bad its but it is something that distinguishes us as muslimahs so no strange men can take advantage of our beauty so like a jewel Allah tells us to protect ourselves and guard our own modesty beacause all muslimahs have beauty Allah looks not at the looks of a believer but at their Hearts so tell my dear sister Allah sees what trails you face and how difficult it is to stand out and stand for you beliefs so hold firm and you will get the rewards you couldnt dream of Insha Allah:tti_sister:

Hope i didnt say anything wrong or offensive
May Allah guide us all to the correct path and keep us firm upon it :tti_sister:

 

[Hard Rock Moslem]

Sorry, no intention to single out anybody. Tell her, it is known fact from the Hadith that the majority of hellfire residence will be women, one of the reason could be for refusal to wear hijab. She will never know when she is going to die, perhaps tomorrow. She can choose to die while still being good muslimah, with proper hijab etc or vice versa. Ask her to use some wisdom.

 

[zbhotto]

Salam

I would suggest not to meddle too much about this. If you warn her about this and tried to make her understand about the improtance of wearing Hijab then Inshallah I think you have done your job. The rest depends on Her Choice. But you should continue to persuade her in an intellegent way. Dont Force her as it may result otherwise.

 

[IbnAdam77]

wa'alaikumussalam warahmatullahi wabarakatuh

Indeed it is a problem not only with one person or two. Many and many people of this Ummah have this thinking.

Try to advice her like this if other ways do not work.

Allah (subuhaanahu wata'aala) made us in a very weak situation that we do not know anything to do other than crying hard. He gave us Rizq, People who will take care of us (Parents), a brain from which we can think, eyes to see, ears to hear, feet to walk, hands to work, mouth to talk etc. After giving all those trillions and trillions and trillions of Ni'mahs which we cannot count even if we try, as Allah says in Quran, "And He gives you of all that you ask Him; and if you count Allah's favors, you will not be able to number them; most surely man is very unjust, very ungrateful." [14.34], He showed us the correct way from the two, by sending books and Prophets (may Allah have mercy on them all) to teach the correct path.

Life of this world is nothing but a very short period of time. The person who struggles here will be the person who will be delighted at the end. Jannah is covered with hardships and difficulties. If we want to enter it, we have to face them. Jahannam is covered with easiness and laziness. Entering it, will be really easy.

What we always remember throughout our entire life is this Hadith of Prophet (sallallahu 'alaihi wasallam). "Whoever seeks Allah’s pleasure at the cost of men’s displeasure, will win the pleasure of both; as Allah will cause men to be pleased with him. Whoever seeks to please men at the cost of Allah’s displeasure, will win the displeasure of both; as Allah will cause men to be displeased with him." Bukhari and Muslim.

As per leaving the Hijab because people's words or thinking, I would recommend to study this Hadith before doing it.

Abu Huraira reported Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon him) as saying: Two are the types amongst the denizens of Hell, the one possessing whips like the tail of an ox and they flog people with their help. (The second one) the women who would be naked in spite of their being dressed, who are seduced (to wrong paths) and seduce others with their hair high like humps. These women would not get into Paradise and they would not perceive the odour of Paradise, although its frag- rance can be perceived from such and such distance (from great distance). - Sahih al-Muslim Book 40, Number 6840.


Hope this helps you my dear sister. Keep utmost trust in Allah in calling her to the truth.

wassalam 'alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh

 

[hassana elkoussi]

:ma: dear brothers & sisters, your posts are very helpful indeed. isA I'll do my best to help and I hope she accepts my words with an open heart. Plz make du'aa for her so she wouldn't lose her deen. Jazakom Allah khairan katheeran.