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[chitlay]

asslamialaikum,

If someone could suggest me a zikr/tasbi which would aid me to leave home and lead my life independent according to allah. my adopted family are way too strict and putting unbearable burden on me. if there are any zikr which would help me will be great....

cheers....

 

[NewMuslim]

:salam2: wa rahmatullah wa barakatuh

You can make any Zikr (rememberance of Allah) or Du'a you want; it must come from the heart. There is no need for you to recite something already written; say it from the heart. Get on your face in prostration just as you do in Salat (the Prophet said that a Muslim is closest to Allah in this position) and say what you want to say and ask what you want to ask from Allah and Allah ALONE. Say: "Praise be to you, O Allah and may you send peace and blessings upon your Prophet Muhammad". Then state your request and at the end say "Ameen".

 

[acedoc]

Istikhara Seeking Allah's help in decision making

asslamialaikum,

If someone could suggest me a zikr/tasbi which would aid me to leave home and lead my life independent according to allah. my adopted family are way too strict and putting unbearable burden on me. if there are any zikr which would help me will be great....

cheers....

Walaikum salam wa Rahmatullah wa barkatuh

Sister, is your adopted family..muslims?? if the answer is yes..there being "strict" may be to your own benefit..if these restrictions are in accordance with Islam. If this "burden" is not to follow the Quran and sunnah then it is indeed in your interest to find a family who follows the word of Allah and prophet (sws). Please do not be short-sighted and see what is the best option is for your faith.

You may do dua Istikhara (see below) and Allah shall find the best option for you.

http://www.islamawareness.net/Dua/Fortress/026.html


Jabir bin Abdullah (RA) said: The Prophet (SAW) used to teach us to seek Allah's Counsel in all matters, as he used to teach us a Surah from the Qur'an. He would say: When anyone of you has an important matter to decide, let him pray two Rak'ahs other than the obligatory prayer, and then say:

"اللَّهُمَّ إِنِّي أَسْتَخِيرُكَ بِعِلْمَكَ، وَأَسْتَقْدِرُكَ بِقُدْرَتِكَ، وَأَسْأَلُكَ مِنْ فَضْلِكَ الْعَظِيمِ، فَإِنَّكَ تَقْدِرُ وَلَا أَقْدِرُ، وَتَعْلَمُ، وَلَا أَعْلَمُ، وَأَنْتَ عَلَّامُ الْغُيُوبِ، اللَّهُمَّ إِنْ كُنْتَ تَعْلَمُ أَنَّ هَذَا الْأَمْرَ- خَيْرٌ لِي فِي دِينِي وَمَعَاشِي وَعَاقِبَةِ أَمْرِي- عَاجِلِهِ وَآجِلِهِ- فَاقْدُرْهُ لِي وَيَسِّرْهُ لِي ثُمَّ بَارِكْ لِي فِيهِ، وَإِنْ كُنْتَ تَعْلَمُ أَنَّ هَذَا الْأَمْرَ شَرٌّ لِي فِي دِينِي وَمَعَاشِي وَعَاقِبَةِ أَمْرِي- عَاجِلِهِ وَآجِلِهِ- فَاصْرِفْهُ عَنِّي وَاصْرِفْنِي عَنْهُ وَاقْدُرْ لِيَ الْخَيْرَ حَيْثُ كَانَ ثُمَّ أَرْضِنِي بِهِ".

Allaahumma 'innee 'astakheeruka bi'ilmika, wa 'astaqdiruka biqudratika, wa 'as'aluka min fadhtikal-'Adheemi, fa'innaka taqdiru wa laa 'aqdiru, wa ta'lamu, wa laa 'a'lamu, wa 'Anta 'Allaamul-Ghuyoobi, Allaahumma 'in kunta ta'lamu 'anna haathal-'amra-[then mention the thing to be decided] Khayrun lee fee deenee wa ma'aashee wa 'aaqibati 'amree - [or say] 'Aajilihi wa 'aajilihi - Faqdurhu lee wa yassirhu lee thumma baarik lee feehi, wa 'in kunta ta'lamu 'anna haathal-'amra sharrun lee fee deenee wa ma'aashee wa 'aaqibati 'amree - [or say] 'Aajilihi wa 'aajilihi - Fasrifhu 'annee wasrifnee 'anhu waqdur liyal-khayra haythu kaana thumma 'ardhinee bihi.

O Allah, I seek the counsel of Your Knowledge, and I seek the help of Your Omnipotence, and I beseech You for Your Magnificent Grace. Surely, You are Capable and I am not. You know and I know not, and You are the Knower of the unseen. O Allah, if You know that this matter [then mention the thing to be decided] is good for me in my religion and in my life and for my welfare in the life to come, - [or say: in this life and the afterlife] - then ordain it for me and make it easy for me, then bless me in it. And if You know that this matter is bad for me in my religion and in my life and for my welfare in the life to come, - [or say: in this life and the afterlife] - then distance it from me, and distance me from it, and ordain for me what is good wherever it may be, and help me to be content with it.

Whoever seeks the counsel of the Creator will not regret it and whoever seeks the advice of the believers will feel confident about his decisions . Allah said in the Qur'an :

"And consult them in the affair. Then when you have taken a decision , put your trust in Allah."

Reference: Al-Bukhari 7/162. and Aal-'Imran 3:159.

 

[Noor to shine]

asslamialaikum,

If someone could suggest me a zikr/tasbi which would aid me to leave home and lead my life independent according to allah. my adopted family are way too strict and putting unbearable burden on me. if there are any zikr which would help me will be great....

cheers....

Dear chitly

Don`t rush ......try to be patient ....when we were young .......we all thought in the same way you do but later we reliazed that all the burden our families put on us is for our own benefit. I don`t know exactly what are you suffering from but .....try to be wise and think may be your family is doing all that out of love and care. Sometimes we need more time to discover the Truth.

And the following duaa are very warm and beautiful:

Say: "O Allah. Creator of the heavens and the earth! Knower of all that is hidden and open! it is Thou that wilt judge between Thy Servants in those matters about which they have differed."

Quran 39:46

 

[chitlay]

thank you so much every1....

 

[dexter]

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:salam2:

sister I would suggest you what our member NewMuslim had suggested

Our 4th caliph, may God be pleased with him, had suggested that when we ask God we may first praise and thank him and then ask him to send his blessings upon prophet mohamed and his righteuos family members, and then we should state our prayer: God's too generous to accept one prayer and reject the other...

With the beauty of this description I advise you on what our beloved prophet (pbuhaf) had told us about the Sajdah when the slave is the closest to God, and then ask... Indeed, NewMuslim's answer contained all that was needed, so go ahead...

Otherwise, if you had any intention of choosing between things and were confused, then go ahead and do the Istikhara prayers just as advised by AceDoc..

Thanks brothers for helping, God bless you all..
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