Asalamu 3alaikum,
Firstly, I want to state that I’m in no way, shape, or form versed on this topic or any Islamic topic, nor am I at the level I wish to be at...I’m learning about my faith, and implementing Allah’s, the Almighty, the Sustainer, the Ever Forgiver’s rules to the best of my abilities.
I read a thread here that has since closed, and thought a great deal about it. Some of the responses about what women get in Janna, since men get Hoor Al 3ayn, were satisfactory and to the point, while others were too general and somewhat dismissive. I, too, agree that getting to Janna should be our main goal, striving to please Allah so He may have mercy on us, Insha’Allah, but as mere humans, women, we have the right to ask as long as we do not question.
I’d like to take a jab at responding, and if my reply is in error, I ask Allah’s forgiveness.
Muslim men are given the right to have more than one wife, and every Muslim woman knows this and recognizes it; she may not like it, but she has to accept the Will of Allah. Since this is allowed, it should come as no surprise that this will not only be allowed, but be the norm in Janna. Allah knows what He has created, and therefore, men are by nature polygamous and might remain as such in the afterlife. But do keep in mind that the man is allowed two human wives only, and I imagine with emotional attachment to both, but nothing is stated in the Noble Quran about a man's emotional attachment to Hoor Al 3ayn.
Now, about women, it seems that one is rather simplifying our gender when it is said that women are not capable of loving more than one man. She devotes her life to her her family, to only sharing herself with her husband, but how many people have opened the heart of a women to see if she in fact only loves her husband. A man does not have to openly declare his love for two or more women, we see it regularly in our Umma. But women will never declare it and as thus, it is assumed to be true.
How about the woman who was denied the man she loves because he wasn’t of the same class as her family and was ultimately forced into a marriage she did not want. Sure, she may grow to love her husband for being good to her, for loving and providing for their children, but she may still care deeply for the man of her yesteryears. This does not make her a bad person.
How many times have we, unfortunately, heard about Muslim men cheating on their wives, when Allah, the All Knowing, gave them a way out of this sin? Now, how many times have we heard about the wives of these men taking them back. A whole lot. Suppose it was the other way around; how many men take back their cheating wives? I boldly say not many. It is in the nature of men to Gharoo, and to say jealous doesn’t seem accurate. Perhaps possessive with an insurmountable need to protect their women would be more appropriate; a wonderful trait indeed.
Every Muslim, male or female, knows, accepts, lives and breaths the fairness of Allah. The All Mighty would never treat his creations unjustly. He has told us He is the most Just, and He clearly, without a doubt, told us that the inhabitants of Janna will get whatever their inner-selves desire. Allah, the Merciful, did not set limitations.
How many wives have been sneered at because their husbands caught sight of a man looking at their treasured possessions. I’m willing to bet these same women didn’t even notice, but their husbands certainly did and blamed them for it. I, for one, was unfairly blamed for such things. Having said that, I’d like a married woman who questions what she gets in Janna to imagine for a minute what her husband would think if he knew; had Allah clearly stated what a woman would get in Janna the way He did with Hoor Al 3ayn for men. Just him, man, believing for a moment that his wife may be with another man might make him combust, go utterly mad. Perhaps even insane with the mere notion. And perhaps this is why the All-Wise Allah did not make mention of that in the Holy Quran; to keep men sane. Perhaps a man would become so filled with rage that his wife will be with another man in Janna that he may abuse her, think her less moral or modest. Perhaps Allah didn't tell us to keep us from using this against our husbands...'I will have someone better than you in Janna.' How horrible it would be for a woman to say that. There is great wisdom in concealing this, and we should see it for what is and appreciate that Allah is protecting us, not being unfair to us.
I’d like to offer the idea that we, too, MAY get our own version of Hoor Al 3ayen, but indirectly. Perhaps our gifts will only be visible to us.
Salam
Firstly, I want to state that I’m in no way, shape, or form versed on this topic or any Islamic topic, nor am I at the level I wish to be at...I’m learning about my faith, and implementing Allah’s, the Almighty, the Sustainer, the Ever Forgiver’s rules to the best of my abilities.
I read a thread here that has since closed, and thought a great deal about it. Some of the responses about what women get in Janna, since men get Hoor Al 3ayn, were satisfactory and to the point, while others were too general and somewhat dismissive. I, too, agree that getting to Janna should be our main goal, striving to please Allah so He may have mercy on us, Insha’Allah, but as mere humans, women, we have the right to ask as long as we do not question.
I’d like to take a jab at responding, and if my reply is in error, I ask Allah’s forgiveness.
Muslim men are given the right to have more than one wife, and every Muslim woman knows this and recognizes it; she may not like it, but she has to accept the Will of Allah. Since this is allowed, it should come as no surprise that this will not only be allowed, but be the norm in Janna. Allah knows what He has created, and therefore, men are by nature polygamous and might remain as such in the afterlife. But do keep in mind that the man is allowed two human wives only, and I imagine with emotional attachment to both, but nothing is stated in the Noble Quran about a man's emotional attachment to Hoor Al 3ayn.
Now, about women, it seems that one is rather simplifying our gender when it is said that women are not capable of loving more than one man. She devotes her life to her her family, to only sharing herself with her husband, but how many people have opened the heart of a women to see if she in fact only loves her husband. A man does not have to openly declare his love for two or more women, we see it regularly in our Umma. But women will never declare it and as thus, it is assumed to be true.
How about the woman who was denied the man she loves because he wasn’t of the same class as her family and was ultimately forced into a marriage she did not want. Sure, she may grow to love her husband for being good to her, for loving and providing for their children, but she may still care deeply for the man of her yesteryears. This does not make her a bad person.
How many times have we, unfortunately, heard about Muslim men cheating on their wives, when Allah, the All Knowing, gave them a way out of this sin? Now, how many times have we heard about the wives of these men taking them back. A whole lot. Suppose it was the other way around; how many men take back their cheating wives? I boldly say not many. It is in the nature of men to Gharoo, and to say jealous doesn’t seem accurate. Perhaps possessive with an insurmountable need to protect their women would be more appropriate; a wonderful trait indeed.
Every Muslim, male or female, knows, accepts, lives and breaths the fairness of Allah. The All Mighty would never treat his creations unjustly. He has told us He is the most Just, and He clearly, without a doubt, told us that the inhabitants of Janna will get whatever their inner-selves desire. Allah, the Merciful, did not set limitations.
How many wives have been sneered at because their husbands caught sight of a man looking at their treasured possessions. I’m willing to bet these same women didn’t even notice, but their husbands certainly did and blamed them for it. I, for one, was unfairly blamed for such things. Having said that, I’d like a married woman who questions what she gets in Janna to imagine for a minute what her husband would think if he knew; had Allah clearly stated what a woman would get in Janna the way He did with Hoor Al 3ayn for men. Just him, man, believing for a moment that his wife may be with another man might make him combust, go utterly mad. Perhaps even insane with the mere notion. And perhaps this is why the All-Wise Allah did not make mention of that in the Holy Quran; to keep men sane. Perhaps a man would become so filled with rage that his wife will be with another man in Janna that he may abuse her, think her less moral or modest. Perhaps Allah didn't tell us to keep us from using this against our husbands...'I will have someone better than you in Janna.' How horrible it would be for a woman to say that. There is great wisdom in concealing this, and we should see it for what is and appreciate that Allah is protecting us, not being unfair to us.
I’d like to offer the idea that we, too, MAY get our own version of Hoor Al 3ayen, but indirectly. Perhaps our gifts will only be visible to us.
Salam
