well
well:
about shake hands..
it's haram in islam..
to tell a female
say it,with nice way as ..when female come and she's going to greet u..or it was the fist time to meet her,and u have to work with her in project
tell her"look..,i don't shake hands,i tell u that..cuz,i didn't want u get embarssed"
and tell her..why it's haram,give her aprove?
about,women,was going to fall
i ;ll answer u..cuz,when i was in high school in school's bus..i was going to fall...and guy in bus,save me,from falling..
i told him"thx ,"
about:looking to women eyes:
look,i'm girl...and i get So annoyed from the man who looking to the women eyes
i know,there's something called eye contact..
it's important at work..School
but,don't look to the eyes...and dream...
u know?
once i was working on project....and i was with one girl,and a boy...
we work through the day 5 hours..
so,i told them "i need break "
So,i take off my glasses..while break..
i find the guy who was wokring with me "u have such a nice eye..don't hide them with glasses...u looks so pretty"
i told him "well...no,i love to wear my glasses.."
since,that..i never take off my glasses at school,in social activites..
and about Shaking hands..
i do that
when i work with mens in project..i told them "that i don't shake hands"
with respectful way
So,Avoid,looking to women's eyes..
Avoid it,brother...
i guess,i answer all ur quizzes
u know.that shaking hands is haram..
i'd love to give the prove..
Question:
Is it allowable for a muslim woman to greet a muslim man by shaking hands?
Answer:
Praise be to Allaah.
For a man to shake hands with a non-mahram woman (one to whom he is not related) is haraam and is not permitted at all. Among the evidence for this is the hadeeth of Ma’qal ibn Yassaar (may Allaah be pleased with him) who said: “The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: ‘If one of you were to be struck in the head with an iron needle, it would be better for him than if he were to touch a woman he is not allowed to.” (Reported by al-Tabaraani; classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Jaami’, 5045).
There is no doubt that for a man to touch a non-mahram woman is one of the causes of fitnah (turmoil, temptation), provocation of desire and committing haraam deeds. No one should say that their intention is sound or their heart is clean, because the one who was the purest of heart and the most chaste of all, the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) never touched a non-mahram woman, even when accepting bay’ah (oath of allegiance) from women. He did not hold their hands when accepting their bay’ah, as he did with men; their bay’ah was by words only, as was reported by his wife ‘Aa’ishah (may Allaah be pleased with her). She said that the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) would test the believing women who emigrated to him with the aayah (interpretation of the meaning): “O Prophet! When believeing women come to you to give you the bay’ah (pledge), that they will not associate anything in worship with Allaah, that they will not steal, that they will not commit illegal sexual intercourse, that they will not kill their children, that they will not utter slander, intentionally forging falsehood (i.e., by making illegal children belong to their husbands), and that thye will not disobey you in any ma’ruf (Islamic monotheism and all that which Islam ordains), then accept their bay’ah and ask Allaah to forgive them. Verily Allaah is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful.” [al-Mumtahinah 60:12] ‘Aa’ishah said: “So whoever of the believing women agreed to these conditions, the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) would say to her: ‘I have accepted your bay’ah by words.’ By Allaah, his hand never touched the hand of any woman when accepting their bay’ah; he accepted their bay’ah by saying ‘I have accepted your bay’ah on this basis.’”
(Reported by al-Bukhaari, 4512; according to another report: he accepted their bay’ah by words… the hand of the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) never touched the hand of any woman except a woman he owned . Reported by al-Bukhaari, 6674).
Some Muslims feel too embarrassed to refuse when a woman offers her hand to them. In addition to mixing with women, some of them claim that they are forced to shake hands with fellow-students and teachers in schools and universities, or with colleagues in the workplace, or in business meetings and so on, but this is not an acceptable excuse. The Muslim should overcome his own feelings and the promptings of the Shaytaan, and be strong in his faith, because Allaah is not ashamed of the truth. The Muslim could apologize politely and explain that the reason he does not want to shake hands is not to offend or hurt anybody’s feelings, but it is because he is following the teachings of his religion. In most cases this will earn him respect from others. There is no harm done if they find it strange at first, and it may even be a practical opportunity for da’wah. And Allaah knows best.
Sheikh Muhammed Salih Al-Munajjid