Just married!
Asslamo Allaikum Brother,
Being married and waiting for your wife to arrive can be a tremendously exhausting and stressful experience.
Brother! You are married and the woman is now YOUR SOLE responsibility. It is your DUTY to look after her physical, emotional and financial needs as Allah (SWT) has commanded you to do so in the Qur’aan. Allah (SWT) has made you a man and it is time for you to fulfil your obligations and responsibilities, Insha’Allah.
What does all that mean?
It means that you communicate (phone, email, write etc.) and ensure that she is fine and happy and she is not in any kind of need, Insha’Allah.
It is from human nature for you to feel lonely and desire companionship. My brother Allah (SWT) commands us to seek GOOD companionship and avoid BAD companionship. Go out of your way to seek Good Muslims and enjoy life in a HALAL (Islamically permissible) manner. Travel a little further if you have to.
But if the Muslims in your area are engaged in HARAM (Islamically impermissible)activities then AVOID them and seek solitude (be alone) and Allah (SWT) will reward you for exercising patience.
You will find that you will miss your wife a lot when you are ALONE so go back to my previous suggestion and engage in HALAL (Islamically permissible) activities i.e. sports, Masjid, Islamic circles, outdoor activities, travelling and AVOID being ALONE because Shaytaan prays on people who are alone and leads them ASTRAY.
Insha’Allah you will be in our duas.
SALAM
I AM MARRIED AND MY WIFE NOT COMING TO ENGLAND YET COS OF VISA
AND
I HEARD PEOPLE TELLS ME DO NOT SPEND TIME TOO MUCH WITH MY WIFE OTHERWISE WE WILL HAVE AN ARGUMENT??
I AGREE....
MY FAMILY ADVICES DA I SHOULD GO OUT WITH MY MATES AT LEAST 2 HOURS EVERY DAY BUT I HAVE NO MATES SO I DONT LIKE GO OUT ON MY OWN THERE IS NO GOOD MUSLIMS IN MY AREA OR WORK, I'M ALONE. SHALL I LIE TO MY WIFE THAT I GONE MEET MY MATES? THERE IS NO LOCAL MOSQUE. HELP ME.
