I ask u all surrendered to Allah 4 help...

[dragonfly]

SAlaam Alaykum dear brothers and sisters

Im in TTi since some time now, I wana say o beginning that people dd a fantasticjob with creating this page, thanks a lot...
Now its time to say a word about myselff. Im a young muslim revert from Poland, work as a translator, export specialist, office worker and many more at my company here. Some time I got 2 know wonderful man.He lives now in America and is good muslim. We r inlove with each other. Now comes my trouble... There r 2 things I wish most in my whole life, now muslim one. First of all, I wish to meet my man cuz we know each other from net and stay with him lke he wants it. But to do this i need to find job in usa. And tis is my second goal. I really wish find job or internship in some USa company also for my work development. And now comes huge request to u bros and sisters in Allah, especially those having somethoing in comon with USA. Could u be so kind and help me anyway in fulfilling my goals. I must tell u that I dont fel wel to twll such things to u, cuz i am not the type who just waits when something comes by itself or somebody would do or find it for me, or I dont wana use people as things just to do what i wana do. Its not me, Im working really hard to do all well, but its really not an easy thing and im all alone in this, thats why I didnt have any option like ask 4 help. And where I could find better one if not here in the muslim family. I know it may sound strange, but im really a good worker, here at muy job people appreciate my work and abilities, so if someone knows something that might help, even the smallest thing in those 2 topics I would be really grateful 4 help and i even may send my documents plus CV & cover leter if needed.I think thats all, im sorry for such a style but dont wana make this mail huge cuz its big already and dont wana hide anything in front of u bros and sisters. I really need ur help and support, cuz if i wont makethese 2 i will loose my whole my life...
Let Allah keeps u all forever in the sweet shadow of His merciful grace and protets u from all troubles in ur life...
Sister Anna

 

[hamdulliah]

pray istekhara sister

 

[a_brother]

Asalamo alaikom sister Anna

I would say to take it step-by-step... get married and then look for a job... financial responsibility is on the husband... please don't have the idea of having both goals or non... He may just want you to come to US and doesn't care as much if you work (as that's his responsibility)...

i live in US... economy now is bad and job opportunities are not as good as used to be... i am not saying that you wouldn't find a job... economy goes up and down... people are hopping to get better after the elections... Also, without having the permission to work in US (having social security number, ssn), most of companies try to not hire someone without ssn because of the work that they'll have to do to provide you ssn...

i Highly suggest to come to US (if you can), get married, apply for social security number, then look for a job if you still want to work...

these are some known websites in US where employers post jobs...
http://www.careerbuilder.com/Defaul...7ea1180e2b4f6f848a4af969370af1-263672815-JK-5
http://www.monster.com/
www.craigslist.org

you may also use google directory to search within country (US)
http://www.google.com/Top/Regional/North_America/United_States/

wasalamo alaikom

 

[Ibn_Syena]

SAlaam Alaykum dear brothers and sisters

First of all, I wish to meet my man cuz we know each other from net and stay with him lke he wants it.

Sister Anna

As Salamu Alekum sister

I'm sorry cuz this's off topic, but you say you know each others only from the net? If this's the case, I've to tell you to be careful. I don wanna seem obtruding, but you've to take care, cuz things don't always turn to be the same you thought it is on the cyber space.
I'm sorry if I'm interfering with your business or offending you in any way

Salam

 

[mymohsin]

As Salamu Alekum sister

I'm sorry cuz this's off topic, but you say you know each others only from the net? If this's the case, I've to tell you to be careful. I don wanna seem obtruding, but you've to take care, cuz things don't always turn to be the same you thought it is on the cyber space.
I'm sorry if I'm interfering with your business or offending you in any way

Salam

Salam Brothers/Sisters,

Sister I too agree with what brother Ibn_Syena said there is lot of different in real life and cyber stuff pls be carefull.

For of Allah for ur information now u can't go to USA on work visa, as work visa for usa is know as H1B and it has a limit of 65,000 for every fyscal year, and this limit for the fyscal year Oct.2008 to Oct. 2009. is already finished so I m srry to say u cant apply for work visa in this period, other work visa is L1, on this if the company u r working now has a office there in usa then they can apply for L1 for u, or if u both get married then u can go there and take SSN and work as brother/sister mention above. that to u will only get SSN only if ur husband will have Greencard. this what I know to my lil knowledge about USA work visa. Pls correct me if I m wrong jazak Allah.

Allah hafiz.

 

[a_brother]

As Salamu Alekum sister

I'm sorry cuz this's off topic, but you say you know each others only from the net? If this's the case, I've to tell you to be careful. I don wanna seem obtruding, but you've to take care, cuz things don't always turn to be the same you thought it is on the cyber space.
I'm sorry if I'm interfering with your business or offending you in any way

Salam

I also agree to what the brother stated above... be careful and pray salat istikara... the reason i said to come to US if you can is because that's the fastest way for you to be together... if he tried to bring you as his wife/fiance, paper work would take some time (most likely months)...

this is the US immigration website
http://www.uscis.gov/portal/site/uscis

don't worry, if you meet for each other, then you'll be together married inshaAllah... Salam sister

 

[Proud_2b_Muslim]

:salam2:
may Allah gives you what is best for you insha`Allah

 

[dragonfly]

Salam a'Laykum 2 u all
First of all thank u very much for interest in my case. I knew that in such warm community I wont be left without help. Ur mails gave me much courage. Of course I am totally aware that I know this person only from the net however I know also I trully love him and I will do all to help him and to make his llife happy. I just know what i want in my life, to be with person I love most in my life despite my sweet parents, to support man oof my life in all so that he could be better and better, in his religion in Islam, in his work just in all, to make him pleasures and to fullfil his wishes according to my best possibilities... Oh Im sorry I started it once again, I always sam this way when I talk like this about him But let's back to topic, yes i have received all links and infos u send me al they r really helpfu, and if somebody else has some other info in the mater described by me in my previous mail, or if u have maybe abny other new informations i will say I will be again most grateful for any message cuz I still gather the info on this issue of work and visa in usa so that not to lost any important thing. One more thing dear brothers and sisters in Allah, I would be also grateful on info of how it si with mixed relations, i mean culturally mix, like polish and Algerian in my case, how shall I behave in front of his family, how shall i behave in front of my man, how may I make him pleasure with my acting, behaviour,dressing or maybe in any other way, I would be also grateful for an advise in this matter both from u brothers and from u sweet sisters of TTI (Maybe u will tell me some secrets of hoow to gently attract ur man as a true isklamic woman trusting Allah most ). I am waiting any other possible informations and once again thank u all for uall u have done till now for me
Ah one more, somebody from USA from TTI had send me a private message but unfortunatelly there was something wrong with my computer and i was not able to fully read it and dont even saw the TTI nickname, so if u could write me again I would be really happy to hear from u
ILet Allah protects u all from bad and brings u only good days in ur life,

 

[massi]

Salam a'Laykum 2 u all
First of all thank u very much for interest in my case. I knew that in such warm community I wont be left without help. Ur mails gave me much courage. Of course I am totally aware that I know this person only from the net however I know also I trully love him and I will do all to help him and to make his llife happy. I just know what i want in my life, to be with person I love most in my life despite my sweet parents, to support man oof my life in all so that he could be better and better, in his religion in Islam, in his work just in all, to make him pleasures and to fullfil his wishes according to my best possibilities... Oh Im sorry I started it once again, I always sam this way when I talk like this about him But let's back to topic, yes i have received all links and infos u send me al they r really helpfu, and if somebody else has some other info in the mater described by me in my previous mail, or if u have maybe abny other new informations i will say I will be again most grateful for any message cuz I still gather the info on this issue of work and visa in usa so that not to lost any important thing. One more thing dear brothers and sisters in Allah, I would be also grateful on info of how it si with mixed relations, i mean culturally mix, like polish and Algerian in my case, how shall I behave in front of his family, how shall i behave in front of my man, how may I make him pleasure with my acting, behaviour,dressing or maybe in any other way, I would be also grateful for an advise in this matter both from u brothers and from u sweet sisters of TTI (Maybe u will tell me some secrets of hoow to gently attract ur man as a true isklamic woman trusting Allah most ). I am waiting any other possible informations and once again thank u all for uall u have done till now for me
Ah one more, somebody from USA from TTI had send me a private message but unfortunatelly there was something wrong with my computer and i was not able to fully read it and dont even saw the TTI nickname, so if u could write me again I would be really happy to hear from u
ILet Allah protects u all from bad and brings u only good days in ur life,

:salam2:
sorry to say that but :
1-your way to get married like that is wrong ...
2-because it's not an Islamic way so don't play with the fire ...
3-married with a different culture even it's halale ...it's very difficult to supported ...specially like race Europe with race Africa (Poland/Algerian) in Islamiclife
4-travel abroad without Mahram like(father ,brother, ...) is haram in Islam...
5-Choosing a husband
6-Attributes of the ideal Muslim husband
Allaah know the best

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[ShyHijabi]

sorry to say that but :
1-your way to get married like that is wrong ...
2-because it's not an Islamic way so don't play with the fire ...
3-married with a different culture even it's halale ...it's very difficult to supported ...specially like race Europe with race Africa (Poland/Algerian) in Islamiclife
4-travel abroad without Mahram like(father ,brother, ...) is haram in Islam...
5-Choosing a husband
6-Attributes of the ideal Muslim husband
Allaah know the best

Salaam,

Brother you make this look like a fatwa. Firstly, who cares if they are different races? If they are both Muslim then this is the most important thing of all. Secondly, due to the fact she is a convert the mahrem issue takes on a new twist, according to shariah law she must still be kind to her parents/family but they no longer have authority over her. The scholars are still hashing out if a convert female can travel without mahrem due to her unique circumstances.


Sister,
My advice to you is to is to speak to an imam locally and talk to him about becoming your wali. You do need someone who will watch out for your interests and protection. I can't advise you on the culture thing unless you can speak to some Algerians and get a feel for their cultural norms.

Wasalaam

~Sarah

 

[massi]

Salaam,

Brother you make this look like a fatwa. Firstly, who cares if they are different races? If they are both Muslim then this is the most important thing of all. Secondly, due to the fact she is a convert the mahrem issue takes on a new twist, according to shariah law she must still be kind to her parents/family but they no longer have authority over her. The scholars are still hashing out if a convert female can travel without mahrem due to her unique circumstances.


Sister,
My advice to you is to is to speak to an imam locally and talk to him about becoming your wali. You do need someone who will watch out for your interests and protection. I can't advise you on the culture thing unless you can speak to some Algerians and get a feel for their cultural norms.

Wasalaam

~Sarah

:salam2:
sister
1-I know the most important is Islam ...but I'm talking about marriage and live together with their different cultures ...it's not easy as you know ...
2-of course the mahram must be a Muslim... but the point is : a female alone travel abroad to meet a gay to get married ...lol...it's too long way with many risk ...and we all know the marriage will be without paper of Akd aNikah to insure her marriage ...
3-I'm Algerian too ...

 

[ShyHijabi]

and we all know the marriage will be without paper of Akd aNikah to insure her marriage ...

Salaam,
How do we know this? I still think it would be better for her to get a wali (imam at mosque) and let him guide and assist her in this endevour. Perhaps you are not as familiar with how difficult it is for a convert to find a match? We have no family to help us and when we do find a match we often deal with people telling us how difficult trans-racial marriages are. I find this very disheartening, instead we should try to support someone who is seeking to marry within Islam.

Should she keep it within the confines of Islam? Absolutely, but to tell he she can't travel without mahrem makes her life impossible. Besides, if the imam would agree to be her wali maybe he can travel with her! Good suggestion? ANd Massi, maybe you could have a sister PM her and advise on Algerian customs.

Wasalaam

~Sarah

 

[massi]

Salaam,
How do we know this? I still think it would be better for her to get a wali (imam at mosque) and let him guide and assist her in this endevour. Perhaps you are not as familiar with how difficult it is for a convert to find a match? We have no family to help us and when we do find a match we often deal with people telling us how difficult trans-racial marriages are. I find this very disheartening, instead we should try to support someone who is seeking to marry within Islam.

Should she keep it within the confines of Islam? Absolutely, but to tell he she can't travel without mahrem makes her life impossible. Besides, if the imam would agree to be her wali maybe he can travel with her! Good suggestion? ANd Massi, maybe you could have a sister PM her and advise on Algerian customs.

Wasalaam

~Sarah

my sister you don't understand me ...That's the problem with new convert ...
they trust any Muslim ...thinking any Muslim is like she/he know it from his knowledge when she/he studying Islam.....islam is not muslim
so they have many troubles and i m sure you have read many topics here from ppl who has this kind of matters ....

hahaha..sorry ...how can the imam travel with her ...he is not her mahram any way...
customs Algerian ...it's a difficult thing to agreed with it....just ask our sister dianek ...
Wali of Muslimah if her parents are kuffaar


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[massi]

my suggest is to send the question to Islam Q&A
Allaah know the best ​

 

[ShyHijabi]

my sister you don't understand me ...That's the problem with new convert ...
they trust any Muslim ...thinking any Muslim is like she/he know it from his knowledge when she/he studying Islam.....islam is not muslim
so they have many troubles and i m sure you have read many topics here from ppl who has this kind of matters ....

hahaha..sorry ...how can the imam travel with her ...he is not her mahram any way...
customs Algerian ...it's a difficult thing to agreed with it....just ask our sister dianek ...
Wali of Muslimah if her parents are kuffaar


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Salaam,

So given that she can't tavel without mahrem, but her family is non-Muslim, what would you suggest for the sister? How will she ever find a husband? Whom shall she seek since she is not likely to find anyone from her culture? There seem to be a lot of people telling her what she can't do but no advice on how to do things Islamically. Since she has not mahrem that is Muslim...how can she travel? These questions have been asked before but never satisfactorily answered.

Wasalaam

~Sarah

 

[ShyHijabi]

my suggest is to send the question to Islam Q&A
Allaah know the best ​

Salaam,

I've actually submitted this very question to Islam Q&A, *****but have yet to get a response...and it's been months. Anyways, I feel for this sister, being a female convert can be very challenging.

Wasalaam

~Sarah

 

[a_brother]

:salam2:

brother massi, you can't generalize... that's how some none-muslims think about muslims from watching the media (not saying that you are not a muslim)... as muslims we should always give benefit of doubt to our brothers and sisters...

one safe way is for the brother to go to the sister's country and get married...

 

[massi]

Salaam,

I've actually submitted this very question to Islam Q&A, AskImam, and Sunnipath but have yet to get a response...and it's been months. Anyways, I feel for this sister, being a female convert can be very challenging.

Wasalaam

~Sarah

​

Maybe you could ask huda tv ...:lol:​

 

[massi]

:salam2:

brother massi, you can't generalize... that's how some none-muslims think about muslims from watching the media (not saying that you are not a muslim)... as muslims we should always give benefit of doubt to our brothers and sisters...

one safe way is for the brother to go to the sister's country and get married...

I don't say anything about anyone ...I'm talking about what we are seeing and watching ...and of course her way is not islamic way ...but I can't judge her act cause I'm not a scholar ...may Allaah help her and give her a best husband
and at last sister pray istikhaarah​

 

[dragonfly]

I don't say anything about anyone ...I'm talking about what we are seeing and watching ...and of course her way is not islamic way ...but I can't judge her act cause I'm not a scholar ...may Allaah help her and give her a best husband
and at last sister pray istikhaarah​

Thank u all 4 ur interest in my matter, Im really grateful.If anyone has other or new opinion or idea I would be really glad to hear this cuz I'm thinking over so many solutions that I statted to feell little lost mus honestly say... I just wana make things right and help us and my beloved man to have chance be togehther. Brother massi were it u who pm me last time? If yes I'm glad as well cuz if u would let me I would have some questions to u concerning ur life, culture, all the details on how algerian people trully live, and where can I get the best and honest information than not from the person of such life and culture? So if u wouldn't mind I would be grateful if we could talk little bit about such topics, so that u could open me the eyes... U know, I;'m really trying my best to act as a true muslim, but as sisiter ShyHijabi said its not easy task in such difficult and let us be honest abnormal situation. Whatever I do I olmost only and always hear u can't do this, u r not allowed, u won't make it. And such words just kill my heart cuz i trully and honestly love this good man, not just for fun but with whole my woman and islamic soul....So if I hear just word impossible how can I be happy than?Isn't it a role of a good man woman tand wife to love her husband trully and to hep him in his life in everything and support him as much as she can? Isn't it true love? So if he can't do as much as he would like to shouldn't I help my beloved person? I think u agree wuth me brother massi...Once again ty 4 ur support (sister ShyHijabi u were really swet ty 4 ur words, u know welll what I feell...)and I hope we will be able to talk little brother massi.
Let Allah be with u ...