Sakeena
Junior Member
Asalaamu 'Alaikum brothers and sisters!
I plan to spend s few days with my Muslimah friend from college inshallah.
She's going to pick me up on Thursday. As you know, Christmas is Saturday, and I still haven't told me mom about my plans. I don't know how to tell her because I'm afraid she may get mad or something because I won't be here for the traditional Christmas dinner. I'm with my family all year and I see them all the time. I just want to spend some time with my sister in Islam. I'm not a kid anymore and I want to be around people who respect me and don't blame me for everything.
HELP!! How should I tell her? I don't want to fall into her guilt-layered trap again!
I don't want to offend her in any way because she's my mother, but I want to be stern and stand my ground and not be intimidated by her. Of course, I could stay in the house and be miserable day after day, year after year. Even Christmas doesn't make me happy or excited anymore. If I want something, I'll go out and buy it. I won't be upset if she doesn't buy me anything. That's fine with me. I want to tell her tonight inshallah, since the sister is coming to pick me up on Thursday inshallah.
I'm excited about going but the fear of chance is getting to me. I've never gone against the grain before, especially at this time of year since Christmas is a big deal in my family... I just want peace and happiness and staying in the house isn't helping me achieve that. I know I'm free to do what I wish, but I keep feeling scared to tell my mother.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated!
But PLEASE REPLY TODAY INSHALLAH!
Ma salaams, :tti_sister:
I plan to spend s few days with my Muslimah friend from college inshallah.
She's going to pick me up on Thursday. As you know, Christmas is Saturday, and I still haven't told me mom about my plans. I don't know how to tell her because I'm afraid she may get mad or something because I won't be here for the traditional Christmas dinner. I'm with my family all year and I see them all the time. I just want to spend some time with my sister in Islam. I'm not a kid anymore and I want to be around people who respect me and don't blame me for everything.
HELP!! How should I tell her? I don't want to fall into her guilt-layered trap again!
I don't want to offend her in any way because she's my mother, but I want to be stern and stand my ground and not be intimidated by her. Of course, I could stay in the house and be miserable day after day, year after year. Even Christmas doesn't make me happy or excited anymore. If I want something, I'll go out and buy it. I won't be upset if she doesn't buy me anything. That's fine with me. I want to tell her tonight inshallah, since the sister is coming to pick me up on Thursday inshallah.
I'm excited about going but the fear of chance is getting to me. I've never gone against the grain before, especially at this time of year since Christmas is a big deal in my family... I just want peace and happiness and staying in the house isn't helping me achieve that. I know I'm free to do what I wish, but I keep feeling scared to tell my mother.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated!
But PLEASE REPLY TODAY INSHALLAH!
Ma salaams, :tti_sister: