I lost my sister

[ratna_abdat]

I am Indonesian, live in Malaysia. I have sister married and live in Holland (chroningen). Since she married her husband, only once she visited us, when her daughter was 8 years old ( she and her daughter only). Few years ago (dec 2007) her daughter married to christian, she was okey with me when I told her not to let her married because we are muslim, but after that she never pick up our call, even when one of my sister went to Amsterdam (oct 2008) to see her, she never pick her up. After she got married her husband won't allow her to close to any of her friends, only be with her husband's friends dan families. I am scare something happen with her, because she's quite scare to her husband (her husband revert to islam, but never pray)
Is there anyone out there can help me? Do you think I should ask help from Dutch embasy in Malaysia? Can you please help me ??

 

[Ahsen]

You should go yourself if possible.

 

[IbnAdam77]

Assalam 'Alaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh sister

I am so sorry to hear the issue. I hope a brother or sister here can help you in it, with the best advice, because I really do not have any experience about Inter-Country issues.

If you decide to go there, please do not go alone. Take a Mahram man with you. NOT a woman. That is for your safety, and that is how Muslim women should travel.

InshaAllah you and family are in my Du'as.

Wassalam 'Alaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh

 

[kashif_nazeer]

:salam2:

Sister,this may be a serious issue.I hope insha'Allah your sister is safe.
Trust Allah and pray that she is safe,make du'a.
Try contacting her once again,if you cant reach her then contact local police and the embassies concerned inshaAllah,Allah will find a way out to it.
As brother Ibn Adam said,if you leave country to go to search for her take a male mahram with you.So that you may be safe.
In the meantime be patient and place your trust in Allah and make dua.We are all praying for you and your sister.
May Allah keep your sister safe and grant sabr to you and your family.Ameen.

 

[ratna_abdat]

Thank you for you advice

 

[alf2]

My family has had a similar problem. My sister married a man from Costa Rica, after 9 years of marriage and having a son he said his mother was ill and they had to move back to Costa Rica. My sister came to visit us for a few weeks and he said she COULDNT bring her son. When she went back to Costa Rica, they were gone. It appears he kidnapped their son. Their house was empty and no relatives will tell her where they went.

This is never an easy issue for families to face and sometimes it is IMPOSSIBLE to resolve.

You tried to call - and failed.
Your sister tried to visit her - failed.
I'm not sure what else there is. But you should keep calling, keep calling, keep calling EVENTUALLY shes going to pick the phone up even if it means to tell you to stop calling. If you do get her on the phone, you need to immediately ask her what happened, why she wont talk to you. Ask her if her husband is hurting her, does she need help?

Also, you know her address? Write her a letter, ask her why she wont talk to you. Tell her to call you as soon as possible. In the letter DO NOT mention her husband because he will probably read it.