I need help

[abdalwahid]

Asalamu alaikum brothers and sisters.

This past year I have been having some very bad thoughts and experiencing depression. All this has made me question alot and the more I question the more I learn and the more I learn the more I get confused. Before I thought that there was only one Islam, the one my father taught me, then I discover that there is different sects and sunis killing shias and vice versa.

The truth is that all this is becouse I am 23 years old, all my friends and cousins are either married, engaged or have a girlfriend. I am still a virgin. I never had a girl as a friend or anything like that I know 0 girls. My family think that I am gay.

The reason I know no girls or haven't decided to marry is because the guy that circumcised me did a really bad job and has ruined my life completely. My pairent wont live for ever, my brother and sisters are all going to marry and have their own family and I will be lonely and die lonely.

I sometimes feel like dying. I have even considered going to another country away from my family and friends, Because they all expect me to marry etc.

The question I haven't been able to answer is: If everything in our lives is written and Allah know everything we will do and has written it why are we going to be judged if what we did was written and Allah knew we would do it.

I sometime wish I could have had the choice of been born or not. Why go through all this suffering (all the wars,diseases, hunger, poverty) and the devil making you do bad things ect? We could all go to heaven straight away, Allah dosen't need us to worship him or anything.

Anyway I apologize for such a huge post full of bad things. I want help and I just ask for you brothers and sisters to make dua to help me and all others in this situation.

Asalamu Alaikum.

 

[ahmed_indian]

:salam2:,

1. stick to Quran and sunnah. muslims have divided themselves in ignorance.

2. get married. its not necessary to have a girlfriend.

3. try to think positive, if u'll think that u'll die lonely...the mind will get more into depression.

4. Allah is our Master and we are His slaves. thinking that we should not have been born, why this is happening will not bring any benefit. the shaitan will get stronger.

5. we know little about Qadar (destiny). thinking about it too much will only confuse us.

6. brother, will ur employer give you salary if you dont come to work? if we want to enjoy in paradise, we have to do some work.

make duas for good life.

 

[sal12]

Have you been to the doctors about the problem you have? Is there any way they can sort it out? If there is then you'll get married and out of depression. Explain to your mum and sisters that you are not gay and just tell them the real reason as to why you feel you cannot get married.

 

[a_stranger]

:salam2:

If we keep in mind that all the troubles, sadness, problems , sickness.........we suffer we will be rewarded for by our creator then we will be happy and peacefull ....we should have sincere faith in the one who created us and pray for him with humility and sincerity .....we should seek Janna and pleasure of Allah sobhanahu wa taala by doing good in our life then if we change our mentalty Allah sobhanahu wa taala will give us peace and happiness .......have trust in Allah sobhanahu wa taala follow Quran and sunna as much as you can your life will change for better......