My new husband recently pronounced Talaq and I am hurt, angry and frankly a bit confused. The truth is that we still live together in a very small apartment and I have no desire to even be in the same room with him let alone talk to him. My question is, am I still suppose to ask his permission to go places, like Masjid or out with other sisters? Also, do my obligations as a wife remain the same?
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Sister please contact a Shaykh, i don't think anyone should give any advice regarding this issue except someone with knowledge.
Sister please contact a Shaykh, i don't think anyone should give any advice regarding this issue except someone with knowledge.
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pcozzy
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I strongly strongly third that.
If you want to read the book of divorce by sunan abudawud the link is :
http://abdurrahman.org/sunnah/abudawood/deed/hadith/abudawood/006_sat.html
but I caution you because sometimes you need a sheik understanding of when it applies and how applied.
To my understanding, you shouldn't be living together if it is final.
PARVEZ SHAHIDI
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Sister this is very serious situation.
Please seek advise form knowledgeable person, preferably from the Imam of the Masjid you go.
Nurain
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Sis insha'Allah I can help you because I just learnt this topic last week.
Talaq raja'in - a talaq where your husband can revert back to you (1 and 2) whilst still in iddah (iddah period depends. i.e. menstruation must be noted, if you are menopausal your iddah is 3 months only. if you are pregnant, your iddah is until the period you give birth etc.) During this talaq, if he reverts back to want to be with you, you cannot refuse him. The only way you can do so is to bring this matter to the shari'ah court and give good evidence as to why you want to reject (i.e. he beats you up, he has been squandering your money, he refuses to let you see your parents etc. but the reason must be strong and valid). Only the qadi has the power to decide, not you.
In this talaq, you can stay under a roof with him. He still has to provide for you and you still need to seek his permission. But the conditions are, you cannot have sexual intercourse with him and as long as there is somebody else (adult) in the house. If your children are grown up (i.e. in their teens, twenties etc. & able to ensure he does not sleep with you) then it is okay. I suggest you cover your aurat at home sis, and if he wants to be with you (perhaps because he wants to sleep with you) which is most likely at night, perhaps you could put it off until you can reject the matter in court
(if you are not willing to go back to him).
Talaq (3)
This talaq he cannot be wanting you back (I am not sure if forever).
Finally,
a woman is not in iddah after divorce when she was married to the man but they had never had sexual intercourse.
(In addition you can also re-marry after your iddah period is over).
Do take care of yourself sis. I am not so knowledgeable and I do not have the sources for these but I'd just learnt it in class last week and want to help you... If you do not want him back sis, please take care of your modesty. I am afraid if he sees you uncovered he would want you back (for the wrong reasons).
Wallahua'lam bishawab
Talaq raja'in - a talaq where your husband can revert back to you (1 and 2) whilst still in iddah (iddah period depends. i.e. menstruation must be noted, if you are menopausal your iddah is 3 months only. if you are pregnant, your iddah is until the period you give birth etc.) During this talaq, if he reverts back to want to be with you, you cannot refuse him. The only way you can do so is to bring this matter to the shari'ah court and give good evidence as to why you want to reject (i.e. he beats you up, he has been squandering your money, he refuses to let you see your parents etc. but the reason must be strong and valid). Only the qadi has the power to decide, not you.
In this talaq, you can stay under a roof with him. He still has to provide for you and you still need to seek his permission. But the conditions are, you cannot have sexual intercourse with him and as long as there is somebody else (adult) in the house. If your children are grown up (i.e. in their teens, twenties etc. & able to ensure he does not sleep with you) then it is okay. I suggest you cover your aurat at home sis, and if he wants to be with you (perhaps because he wants to sleep with you) which is most likely at night, perhaps you could put it off until you can reject the matter in court
(if you are not willing to go back to him).
Talaq (3)
This talaq he cannot be wanting you back (I am not sure if forever).
Finally,
a woman is not in iddah after divorce when she was married to the man but they had never had sexual intercourse.
(In addition you can also re-marry after your iddah period is over).
Do take care of yourself sis. I am not so knowledgeable and I do not have the sources for these but I'd just learnt it in class last week and want to help you... If you do not want him back sis, please take care of your modesty. I am afraid if he sees you uncovered he would want you back (for the wrong reasons).
Wallahua'lam bishawab