"ignorant" neighbours

[jabba]

I assuming these are apartments.....have your reported them to the leasing office? You should file a grievance with them each time until they take action against....ie make them move out or shutup. File police reports as well, it sounds odd that the wife won't come to the door or show her face. Is it possible that she is being abused and the children, as you state they do not go outside. Maybe they are hiding bruises or injuries.....just a thought.

:salam2:
OH I wish it were that easy, the police here do nothing, although my mom has already threatened them with that. This is Syria and I guess (umf) there is nothing I can really do

 

[jabba]

Neighbors
Up to Seven Doors Away

By IOL Team
14/08/2003


"A Muslim should maintain good relations with his relatives, but he should not unjustly favor them over others. Further, a Muslim must be good to his neighbors, no matter their religion. But the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) taught us that a “neighbor” is not just the one next door but includes all those up to seven doors away - effectively a whole neighborhood.

This concern for our neighbors can take many forms. It means to ensure that our neighbors have the basic necessities, for a Muslim should not eat if his or her neighbor is going hungry. It means that Muslims should wish for their neighbors what they wish for themselves. It means sharing their happiness and sorrow. Further, it means to not spy on them and respect their privacy, to not gossip about them, to not harm them in any way, and to keep common use areas — such as apartment building entrances, streets and sidewalks — clean.

The Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) was told of a woman who prayed and fasted a lot and gave alms generously, but whose neighbors complained of her abusive tongue. He said that she would be in Hellfire. When he was told of another woman who did not do all those extra acts of worship but whose neighbors were happy with her, he said that she would be in Paradise . Thus we see the importance of being good to our neighbors, both in actions and words."


for more: http://www.islamonline.net/english/introducingislam/society/Neighborhoods/article01.shtml

:salam2:
Thank you this is very useful

 

[jabba]

salam aleikum
I think its her choise not show her face to anyone,plus this family has a lot of kids ,I dont think it will be just to act this way,plus we dont know anything about that family to judge ,they are naighbors and there should be nice way to solve this situation without stressing out and involving police etc...
I know how much it bothers when somebody lives upstairs ,i have the same problem ,but the problem is sometimes with the appartments not people ,I just got used to it ,thats all .
To switch appartments with them would be best solution I think ...
And Mabrook sister

waaleikum salam

:salam2:
Gee thank you so much for you lack of support but it's truly not wanted or needed, I think I explained myself very clearly when I said It's not normal noise and that I told them I am pregnant, thank you so much for assuming that we haven't tried to solve the situation, when I have stated very CLEARLY that we have tried everything, hence coming here for advice. P.S. yea the women can cover her face that's not the issue the issue is when I go up there by myself she won't come to the door like a proper parent, not even fully covered.....I can see how I've handled this situation in a poor way, yea.

 

[jabba]

:salam2:
Sorry another thing I have to add is no we can't switch apartments, the aparments are individually owned like condos in canada or america, the place we have right now is not normally rented out but because they are friends of my husbands family we are able to stay here. I guess the owners just don't want anyone living here, you never know who your going to end up with

 

[a_brother]

:salam2:
Gee thank you so much for you lack of support but it's truly not wanted or needed, I think I explained myself very clearly when I said It's not normal noise and that I told them I am pregnant, thank you so much for assuming that we haven't tried to solve the situation, when I have stated very CLEARLY that we have tried everything, hence coming here for advice. P.S. yea the women can cover her face that's not the issue the issue is when I go up there by myself she won't come to the door like a proper parent, not even fully covered.....I can see how I've handled this situation in a poor way, yea.

:salam2: sister

as you said, you came for an advice... you should not pick on no one... we can see that you are frustrated, but don't put your anger on some one who just tries to give his/her point of view AS YOU ASKED...

may Allah make it easy for you.... Salam

 

[IslamIsLight]

:salam2:
Gee thank you so much for you lack of support but it's truly not wanted or needed, I think I explained myself very clearly when I said It's not normal noise and that I told them I am pregnant, thank you so much for assuming that we haven't tried to solve the situation, when I have stated very CLEARLY that we have tried everything, hence coming here for advice. P.S. yea the women can cover her face that's not the issue the issue is when I go up there by myself she won't come to the door like a proper parent, not even fully covered.....I can see how I've handled this situation in a poor way, yea.

salam aleikum
Never mind sister ...
May Allah make things easy for u and your family and those naighbours too ...

waaleikum salam

 

[Sakib]

assalam

i think that if youve tried everything then you should make dua or something but if nobody gives advice you can take, and you act this way it seems as if its just to complain right? and it might go into worse things.

because backbiting is when you say something someone doesnt like behind them, even if its true, and since nobody is being able to help you then what is the point of this anymore?

not saying you are backbiting, just that after a while if none of us can help, maybe just complaining isnt the best thing then. if you cant reason with them then how can we help?

my opinion

w/salam

 

[jabba]

because backbiting is when you say something someone doesnt like behind them, even if its true, and since nobody is being able to help you then what is the point of this anymore?

not saying you are backbiting,

I can see how you think I'm not backbitting.....yea. It's funny how people can openly talk about their husbands and maritial problems, but when I mention something and ask for advice without saying any personal details about the people I'm all of a sudden backbitting. I came here to see if there was another way to handle the situation, if you have no advice then keep your comments to yourself, just my opinion.

 

[Happy 2BA Muslim]

:salam2:

May Allah subhanahu wa taala help you in your predicament.

I can see how much it is bothering you, since you feel it might be a threat on your pregnancy. Stress is considered a risk factor for preterm birth. May Allah give you a healthy pregnancy and grant you a healthy son or daughter.

There is no backbiting here. Unless someone knows precisely who your neighbor is.

:salam2:

 

[jabba]

:salam2:

May Allah subhanahu wa taala help you in your predicament.

I can see how much it is bothering you, since you feel it might be a threat on your pregnancy. Stress is considered a risk factor for preterm birth. May Allah give you a healthy pregnancy and grant you a healthy son or daughter.

There is no backbiting here. Unless someone knows precisely who your neighbor is.

:salam2:

:salam2:
Thank you brother, ameen.

 

[Rosheen]

salaams.....

noisy neighbours can be very distressing.

i have had a fair few.....the most distressing being a mad woman who was living with 5 guys below us. She kept having mental fits at 5 in the morning and waking us up.

There was nothing we could do. Thankfully they moved out!

Is there no way you could move somewhere else???

Failing that, try and befriend them. Invite them for dinner and maybe they will be ashamed of any further behaviour, when they see you are kind hearted.

Insha Allah it will stop soon.

 

[Sakib]

assalam

I can see how you think I'm not backbitting.....yea. It's funny how people can openly talk about their husbands and maritial problems, but when I mention something and ask for advice without saying any personal details about the people I'm all of a sudden backbitting. I came here to see if there was another way to handle the situation, if you have no advice then keep your comments to yourself, just my opinion.

Your sarcasm is so cool, you seem to be very good at it. if you see my post i never said you were backbiting at all, i just wanted to show that if even backbiting is true even if its bad, then complaining is true too but can also be pointless. i can see that its trouble, i've had bad neighbors too. they were university guys, all night parties, booming music that would shake our basement, and we could hear it everywhere, not to mention beer bottles and cans littering our yard, so i know a little what you mean.

but i apologize for being angry, because you ask for advice then people give it, and then you just go around and through your sarcasm. it can hurt. words can do that. are you angry at what i had said? dont you think people are too sometimes? we all want to help you. we cant really do it but we all try how we can. if some1 ask for an apple then i give them a red one and they say, i wanted green, you shouldnt have offered; its not very nice.

:salam2:

May Allah subhanahu wa taala help you in your predicament.
May Allah give you a healthy pregnancy and grant you a healthy son or daughter.

There is no backbiting here. Unless someone knows precisely who your neighbor is.

:salam2:

ameen. i never said she was backbiting, thought id say that.

~~~ plz just re-read these... it was to your ask for advice ...

salam aleikum
I think its her choise not show her face to anyone,plus this family has a lot of kids ,I dont think it will be just to act this way,plus we dont know anything about that family to judge ,they are naighbors and there should be nice way to solve this situation without stressing out and involving police etc...
I know how much it bothers when somebody lives upstairs ,i have the same problem ,but the problem is sometimes with the appartments not people ,I just got used to it ,thats all .
To switch appartments with them would be best solution I think ...
And Mabrook sister

waaleikum salam

:salam2:
Gee thank you so much for you lack of support but it's truly not wanted or needed, I think I explained myself very clearly when I said It's not normal noise and that I told them I am pregnant, thank you so much for assuming that we haven't tried to solve the situation, when I have stated very CLEARLY that we have tried everything, hence coming here for advice. P.S. yea the women can cover her face that's not the issue the issue is when I go up there by myself she won't come to the door like a proper parent, not even fully covered.....I can see how I've handled this situation in a poor way, yea.

salam aleikum
Never mind sister ...
May Allah make things easy for u and your family and those naighbours too ...

waaleikum salam

its not easy to give advice this way.

may allah help you in everything u do though.

w/salam

 

[Mrmuslim]

salaam alikom

None of the people here can solve this problem You came for advise people did advised with different way there is no point of blaming each other and misunderstand each other

this thread now C L O S E D

wa salaam alikom