In need of suggestion/ help

[saqhmd52]

Dear Brothers & Sisters,

Assalamu alaikum.

This is my first post in TTI forum. I am writing this seeking suggestion/ guidance in the light of Quran and Sunnah.

I am a young Software professional with lots of enthusiasm and interest towards community service. I have been associated with a few of community service organizations locally. I am a straightforward, positive attitude person with an aim of attaining success in this life & here-after (as every Muslim). Currently, I am stuck badly in a personal situation where I am unable to decide my next step.. Hence, I am seeking your kind suggestions/ guidance.

During my under-grad studies, one of my classmate (a non-Muslim girl) became a good friend of me. After graduation, during the course of our talks/ discussions, I always tried my best in explaining her about Islam and how Islam is the solution for all the problems and all other aspects of Islam which a non-Muslim should know. During those days, I started liking her (w.r.t her attitude and thinking not on beauty) and caring for her. The same was the response from her end (even she started liking and caring for me) which the world names it as "love".

Finally, she loved the concepts of Islam and decided to accept / revert to Islam. That was indeed a happiest day in my life. However, the challenge here was marriage. Since we liked each other and understand each other better, we decided to marry. But the problem was acceptance from parents/ family of both ends.

I tried explaining my parents and they are not ready to accept her even when she is now a "New Muslim". They have posed a condition on me that either I should make them (parents) happy or make myself and the girl happy by going against parents. I am at cross-roads. If I look at one side, I see my parents, their expectations & happiness. The other side, the girl I loved, my wish of marrying her and giving her a "Islamic" life.. Helping her practice Islam and spend my entire life with her.. And the expectations & love of the girl towards me. Situations made me to choose either one.

I never wanted to disappoint my parents & family... Neither I want the girl to get married to a non-Muslim guy (which her parents would surely force to do).

What should I do in such situations?? I already tried my best explaining my parents....but nothing worked.

Kindly help me through your suggestions. Expecting the suggestions to be in the light of Quran & Sunnah.

JazakAllah Qair..

 

[muhammad sabri]

:salam2:

READ IT ALL! ahah it will make alot of things clearer!
Dear brother is both of you are muslims and both the parties of parents don't want to marry you without a just reason islamically talking, then you two are allowed to consult a scholar, you could check in your local mosque and see if the scholar gives you a solution and if he can be the wali, check below for proof!
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Women who are virgins must have a wali when getting married.

"No marriage is valid without a wali." [related by Ahmed and others and deemed sound by Ahmed, Ibn Hajar and others]

The Prophet SAAWS said: "There is no marriage without the permission of a guardian." [Sunan of Abu Dawood 2080, Narrated Abu Musa]

"When a woman marries without the permission of her wali, then her marriage is not valid, not valid, not valid." [Related by Ahmad, Tirmidhi and others. Tirmidhi said, this is a hasan Hadith]

If the woman does not have a male mahram relative, the Imam closest to her locality, of the same faith as her, becomes her wali.

"If they dispute, then the sultan (man in authority) is the wali of those who have no wali."

And the man doesn't need a Wali but only the women, so you can go to the mosque ask the scholar and if he agrees to be the wali of her then you can make the contract and marry if and only IF you both are muslims and she's virgin.

because the wali is still believed to be needed for the performing or
agreement of the actual marriage contract. He cannot, however, hold
up the marriage due to feeling he has to approve it first, in the
case of a non-virgin.


The wali, is, however, highly recommended for new reverts, who some
argue are as innocent as virgins since all sins prior to accepting
Islam are forgiven.

however a wali is recommended to make sure the women rights are being respected and he's the list of who can be her wali:


1. Father

2. Grandparents and above

3. Brother

4. Step-brother

5. Nephew

6. Step-nephew

7. Uncle

8. Step-uncle

9. Cousin

10. Step-cousins and similar relatives (from the side of the father in priority according to inheritance law)

11. Mother

12. Son's daughter

13. Daughter's daughter

14. Grandson's daughter

15. Daughter's granddaughter

16. Sister

17. Step-sister

18. Step-brother

19. Other relatives from the mother's side in accordance with the inheritance law

20. Ruler/judge
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i hope it helps and Allah knows best, and may He forigve any of ym mistake and make things easier for you!

My advice is by the way to consult the imam of the nearets mosque as soon as possible just to be sure ^_^


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