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I agree with you sister 100%. At the same time, I believe that children need lots of attention. Children between the age of 1 to 12 need emotional stability, and development. According to my studies parents must shape the child's behaviour, emotions, education, intelliegnce, and health wise. And then from the age of 14 to 20 is the cruciel part of the son/daughter's life which determines whether he/she is emotional intelliegent and stable because this will determine the success of the child in the future...
Its like a mother who calls her daughter 'a doctor' from a young age, that child will simply believe in herself, full of confidence, and when she grows up she is most likely to become a doctor. In my basic opinion, if every mother aim to make her child for example an islamic leader/doctors/engineers from the young age, this Ummah will reach somewhere inshallah... Arab people say, ''Al omo madrasaton'', ''Mother is school'', surly the first and most important school in all our lives was our mothers..
Children have feelings, and extremley sensitive. A Kuwaiti psychologist once said, ''a child needs at least 12 hugs a day, for emotional stability, 2 hours dedicated for them, where they can talk & talk & talk, and the parents listens to them, that will develop a confident child with strong will''.
Mothers/father' s attention to their children is so important. In contrary, a simple loud argument between them could ruin years of what they've achieved in their child's development an emotional stablility. As stated by sister Huda, mother at home have huge difficulties. Every mother is a wife, psychologist, doctor, nurse, teacher ect.., whether she is at home or at work..
As shiekh Ahmed Kaibissi said '' Mothers deserve so much respect because they are, daughters, mother/wives, and grandmothers. They live three generations, and their importance is wanted even when they are granmothers''.. May Allah (swt) reward all mothers...
it wasn't my intention, forgive me if I did so :shymuslima1: 
and the best "work" is to look after them...then obviously everyone could choose a different way 
