Jealousy

[booya]

Assalamualaikum

I have a friend who is very, very smart and dedicated. She already has a lot of degrees, a lot of achievements, and the future looks very bright. She also has a great personality; she's just a very nice woman.

I feel very fortunate to have such a successful friend to learn from, but along the way, sometimes I get this feeling that I also would like to have those achievements. I feel like I'd also want to be recognized. Sometimes I just have the feeling of jealousy.

I have read an article about this and it basically comes down to gratefulness of what we have now and what we have accomplished. I need to realize that Allah gives different people different talents and situations. But I still need to fight the feeling of inferiority.

 

[jabba]

:salam2:
Alhamdulillah Allah (SWT) has blessed your friend with (intellectual) success. You shouldn't be jealous of her, think of all the things you've been blessed with. Also, just because her life looks so bright, we all have problems/issuses/things we've had to struggle for. I'm sure she's had to work extremely for her achievements. Jealously causes resentment, resentment causes hate.

 

[TheHumbleWun]

Asalaamalikum,

You need to strive against your own self (nafs) so that your heart will be free of jealousy towards your friend. Have sincere intentions and pick up the best qualities/habits from everyone you come across. Motivate yourself to learn from them and strive to benefit from her instead of being preoccupied with jealous thoughts of what they have and what you don't have. Be graceful of what you have and not ungraceful of what you don't have.

“That is the Grace of Allah which He bestows on whom He wills" (5:54]

“It is We Who portion out between them their livelihood in this world, and We raised some of them above others in ranks, so that some may employ others in their work" (43:32)