Just a question on long distance relationship!

[zshahz]

Salaam, this is the situation:

A man from new zealand (NZ) meets a girl in Australia (Aus). They are both Muslims and fall in love and want to marry. Both parents are happy. The man has 3 older sisters who are married. One resides in Aus, the other two in NZ. Mans parents reside in NZ. Mans mother has chronic illnesses - back operations, hip operations, heart problems, thyroid etc. He is the only son so parents need him morally emotionally etc. daughters living their own married lives.

The girl is the youngest of the 2 daughters. The older sister is married and is living in Aus near her parents. Her parents are in good health Mashallah and not to the seriousness of the mans parents. Mans parents are also older. Both sides are OK financially.

They have been in contact for over 2 years and its coming to a point where parents want them married.

Mans mum wants him to stay in NZ for her support during illness. Girls parents say its entirely up to her. Both cannot think of marrying anyone else.

So who should make the move? Should the girl move to NZ, or should the man move to Aus?

 

[Rashadi]

Salaam Aleykom, this is only my opinion and I am learning more about Islam everyday so do not take this for fact but rather my own opinion. I would say it be more appropriate for the bride to move to NZ with her husband since his mother is ill. It is important to care for parents and a good Muslim will understand that whether male or female. I would say it be better for her to move to NZ and in this case it isn't too far since they are near to one another. I have relatives in Australia and NZ too.

 

[zshahz]

Wassalaam. Thankyou very much. Doesn't matter if you don't know much about Islam. Everyones opinions are very important.

 

[meer suhail]

Asalam o Alykum
it thinks its your decision to make
so both of you need to think
so i wont be any help sorry bro

 

[zshahz]

From what you wrote, that arrangement does not seem to bother anybody.

Apart from missing her parents etc. What the woman is saying is that her parents do not have any sons, so she believes it is her responsiblity to act as a son, even though she has an older sister that is there with them. Something I don't agree with.

 

[zshahz]

By the way, the man here already stays with his parents. He met her while he was working there for a short period of time about 3 years ago. They been in love ever since.