Just need some advice for my daughter

[banda]

Aslaamu Alykum,
I am fairly new to the religion and I make my daughter wear the Hijab (as I do) but there are times that she asks why she has to and some of the other girls in school don't. Most of the time I tell her because I said, I do or thats what it says in the Quran. Well I got to thinking about it and would like to give a great explanation for it and would like to know what things I might be able to tell her. I greatly appreciate any feedback.

 

[islamirama]

try this

http://www.jannah.org/sisters/hijab.html

 

[a_stranger]

:salam2:

I think that it is very important to be very close to her and make her love you mostly.
Then try to have muselm friends wearing higab , try to mix with people with high so she don t feel lonely . Use very nice words when you tell her to wear high .....and Allah knows best.

 

[brightspark]

Salaam,

You might have already heard of this analogy in relation to hijab, I found it very useful and it served as a good reminder for why a lady should wear the hijab.

A lady can be likened to a pearl- a pearl is beautiful and precious, however the beauty of the pearl is not unveiled and on show for everyone to see, rather it's covered or encased in a shell. Likewise, the lady should cover and protect her beauty from the eyes of strangers through the hijab.

There is no harm in displaying her beauty to those who she trusts among her women folk and those who are her mahram.

 

[faaraa]

May Allah Azzawajal bless you & family with a nice Islamic life in this world and Jannah in the here after Aameen !!

A member has already provided you with a useful link.... Insha Allah it would help you alot

From my part... Let me convey this little message to her..

Every precious thing is hidden by nature.....
she is a worthy little girl who is precious than a diamond...
And this state is given to her and to all the women, ONLY IN ISLAM...
So let her realize her own value and cover her to protect her always Insha Allah

 

[sclavus]

Then try to have muslim friends wearing hijab , try to mix with people with hijab so she don t feel lonely . Use very nice words when you tell her to wear hijab .....and Allah knows best.

I agree with that. Tell her that Allah loves his obedient servants, protects them and rewards them.

BTW, have you thought of home schooling?

May Allah give you patience and wisdom, sister in faith.

 

[Al-Imraan]

Salaamu alaykum

She has to wear a hijab because she is a muslim if shes not a muslim dont wear it but if she is she has to wear it it is obligatory for her to wear it if she doesnt it is a SiN
The Kaafir they dont wear hijab because they are not muslim
but u have been told by allah to wear a hijab if u dont u disobey allah
May i ask what age this girl is
because at the age of Puberty it is Compulsory for her to wear it
This can be found in Quran and Hadith
Also how i think of this is
If u wear hijab u are beautiful
If u dont wear hijab u are Ugly
:lol:


I hope i gave u some ideas and help there

 

[sachin4islam]

Assalamu Alaikum:

I am also concerned for my daughter. She is touching eleven. She prefers to dress with tops and jeans. I live in a Non-Muslim locality and hence my daughter never knows about Islamic way of dressing. Yes,she knows about Hijabs for I have been in this business.

I sometimes try to convey her etiquette of dressing but she infers it as an oppression.

The school uniform too isn't acceptable. She has to dress up with mini-skirts. And my wife is silent on this issue for she herself dresses according to her parental religion.

Regards.

 

[strive-may-i]

Aslaamu Alykum,
I am fairly new to the religion and I make my daughter wear the Hijab (as I do) but there are times that she asks why she has to and some of the other girls in school don't. Most of the time I tell her because I said, I do or thats what it says in the Quran. Well I got to thinking about it and would like to give a great explanation for it and would like to know what things I might be able to tell her. I greatly appreciate any feedback.

Because I say so, ... might not always always work out. Some kids need reason. In this age of nuclear families, Parents/guardians/relative/community should establish a good communication channel wit their kids. If the kids avoid parents/community in discussing their deepest doubts, shy away from speaking their apprehensions / oppositions, then thats not good. Because then they would turn to their peers or to the world or worser to a voice that suits their thinking.

Be gentle with kids. Slowlly with time she might be able to understand the importance of Hijab. I have seen lot of sisters and little kids, who were not wearing hijab during early childhood, but as they grew up , they started voluntarily wearing Hijab too..

keep faith in ALmighty, The best of Guardian(Al-Muhaymin) and the Guide to right path (Ar-Rashid), seek his blessings. And include us too in your Dua... May yours turn to a Deeni household ...Ameen!

 

[Aapa]

Assalaam walaikum,

My suggestions were deleted.

Please do not delete what I am going to say. It makes sense.

When we live in an area that is not Muslim..and you wear hijab you stick out. For a child that is embarrassing.

So start the transition slowly. If you do not respect the child it is a lost cause. You show the child how beautiful women who cover look. Now, if your culture is not Arab/Pakistani/ Indonesian you can not find women who look like you in hijab. So you start with the women in your culture wearing scarfs. Oh...look how pretty they look. You dress the Barbie doll. It has to be positive.
Next you start the ok lets try this out. You do it a little at a time.

If you do not the child will go to school and yank that hijab off before you put the key in the ignition to start your car.

 

[hayat84]

:salam2:
by my way of view,I suppose that your daughter will understand alone the meaning of hijab.how old is she?
I say that because I've been starting to teach the meaning of hijab to my oldest daughtter and she's only 3 years old!!it's difficult to answer when it's too late.you should have taught to your daughter many years before(if you didn't it).when I went out with my daughter,she saw me wearing hijab and she asked me to dress her too...in the end,everone does his best,but nobody can force another to believe.me,I think to do each step following some directions,then if I'll be wrong,only Allah knows best.I see many muslim mothers with their non-hijabed daughters...it's so sad....

 

[queenislam]

~May Allah swt help her~Amin!

Aslaamu Alykum,
I am fairly new to the religion and I make my daughter wear the Hijab (as I do) but there are times that she asks why she has to and some of the other girls in school don't. Most of the time I tell her because I said, I do or thats what it says in the Quran. Well I got to thinking about it and would like to give a great explanation for it and would like to know what things I might be able to tell her. I greatly appreciate any feedback.

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:salam2:

:mashallah:
~May Allah swt reward you tremendously for your good intention
and concern~Amin!

~May i ask how old is your daughter?
From the point that you explain i notice that your daughter is a bright child
she will understand the needs to eventually~May Allah swt help her~Amin!

Pardon me;
I personally think that you need to send her to Islamic class/mosque (after school or week end)
for her to get a good guidance and better interaction since you mentioned that you are fairly new to Islam.

~May Allah swt help,protect and guide us~Amin!

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Thank you,
~Wassalam

 

[queenislam]

Islam Is Beautiful.

:salam2:

:ma:

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~May Allah swt help,protect and guide us~Amin!

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To
All My Family In Islam.

Take Care!
~Wassalam

 

[banda]

Thank you that website is very helpful

 

[banda]

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:salam2:

:mashallah:
~May Allah swt reward you tremendously for your good intention
and concern~Amin!

~May i ask how old is your daughter?
From the point that you explain i notice that your daughter is a bright child
she will understand the needs to eventually~May Allah swt help her~Amin!

Pardon me;
I personally think that you need to send her to Islamic class/mosque (after school or week end)
for her to get a good guidance and better interaction since you mentioned that you are fairly new to Islam.

~May Allah swt help,protect and guide us~Amin!

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To
you and your family
And to
All My Family In Islam.

Thank you,
~Wassalam

She is 6 and in the first grade. We wanted her to go to an islamic class but the cost at our local Mosque is not affordable at this time and hopefully we will be able to soon Inshallah.

 

[banda]

:salam2:

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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=X_W8mSlDb1E&feature=related


~May Allah swt help,protect and guide us~Amin!

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To
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Take Care!
~Wassalam

Mashallah. That video was really nice to view. Thank you for sharing. I just watched it and will be showing my daughter when she comes home from school. I think it will give her a lot of happiness to see another girl talking about some things about the religion