Marriage. Here Or Back-Home?

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TheAuthenticBase

Assalaamu 'alaykum!
Assalaamu 'alaykum,

So, what do u guys recommend me?

What r the pros and cons of a sis from here?

And; what are the pros and cons of a sis from back home?

PLEASE do not turn this thread into a bros vs sis' bashing contest, im being dead serious about this thread, sincerely need advice...

JazaakAllaahu khaira in advance...
 
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uddim004

Junior Member
hope this helps

i'm only 17 so think of this as the worst answer. problem is if you are from a culture where the parents usually try to force you one way(e.g family rank) its going to be tricky. we must remember that islam comes before culture and if you add anything to islam then it is not islam anymore. i would say that you check both ways. try to find as information about that person as possible. usually their parents and there families are highly unlikely to say anything about any habits making this difficult. if you do marry someone from "back home" then if her family is in another country it may be hard on the sister at first and you will have to deal with this. Muslim families e.g from Bangladeshi backround (i'm bangladeshi) are picky (we've all heard it, doctors, lawyers etc)
i know this isn't much but i hope this helps you brother and inshallah allah will guide you.

may peace and blessings of allah be upon you.
 
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Aapa

Mirajmom
Assalaam walaikum,

You ask a very important question.

OK...if you have lived here and feel at home here..you need a girl from here. You need someone who understands the nuances of the culture. Someone who can chill with you.

If you marry from back home..you are marrying into a culture that is not yours. That is the culture from back home. That culture is culture. It is not Islam.

As most of this is multicultural you can find many different races/ethnicities
here.
 
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Ahsen

Junior Member
I don't know which place do you mean by "here".I was born in bahrain but i prefer girls from back home.My beloved Pakistan.
 
Mairo

Mairo

Maryama
Wa aleikum salaam brother

Have you tried praying Istikhara regarding your question? Perhaps doing that would help you in determining what would be best for you with respect to marriage?

Personally, I think it is good to be open minded with respect to consideration of a potential spouse. Think more about the qualities that are important to you in a partner. Keep in mind piety and good character are qualities that can be possessed by all kinds of people.

I will make dua for you that you will find someone you are most compatable with who will provide you with comfort, love, and support.

Best wishes to you
 
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