My brother needs help and I don't know what to do

[PeacefulHumanity]

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I'm really distraught over my brother (as in sibling). He doesn't practice at all and I really fear for him and his Judgement. He spends (or rather, wastes) all day on FB, Tumblr and other garbage online. He almost never prays on his own and someone (usually me) has to remind him (over and over again). Sometimes he thinks he's slick and goes to pray without making wudu, and went I confront him about this, he'll pretend like he forgot. I want to help him, but I don't know what to do.

 

[strive-may-i]

:salam2:

I'm really distraught over my brother (as in sibling). He doesn't practice at all and I really fear for him and his Judgement. He spends (or rather, wastes) all day on FB, Tumblr and other garbage online. He almost never prays on his own and someone (usually me) has to remind him (over and over again). Sometimes he thinks he's slick and goes to pray without making wudu, and went I confront him about this, he'll pretend like he forgot. I want to help him, but I don't know what to do.

:salam2:
Distraught, you should not be. Displeased, yes. But the displeasure should not result in am incorrect displeasing action from you.

How old is he? If he is not grown up adult, or does listens to you, then always do it together. Encourage him. Dont get tired of it, nudge gently (Thats not easy for a brother, agreed, but its woth the patience). Be the example that you should be. Dont cross the line and make him rebel you. And make dua to Almighty, to guide you, him , me and rest of us. May Almighty bless us... Ameen

 

[kashif_nazeer]

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I'm really distraught over my brother (as in sibling). He doesn't practice at all and I really fear for him and his Judgement. He spends (or rather, wastes) all day on FB, Tumblr and other garbage online. He almost never prays on his own and someone (usually me) has to remind him (over and over again). Sometimes he thinks he's slick and goes to pray without making wudu, and went I confront him about this, he'll pretend like he forgot. I want to help him, but I don't know what to do.

My dear brother.Never despair of Allah's mercy nor despair of relief from Him.
I can understand how you feel,brother.
There are many of us who have family members who are not as committed as we "think" they should be.
Believe me brother,our duty is only to tell them and remind them in the most beautiful way.Through actions and words.
As brother strive may I said,keep reminding him gently.
Sheikh Albani (rahimhullah) said,"Truth is already heavy on the hearts of people and when the weight of harshness is added to it,it becomes heavier and might repel them."
The commands are heavy on people,so when we are trying to remind people about them,we should do so with kindness and gentleness.
You can gather together with family and dsicuss sometimes religion in a manner that is best.Try playing a few lectures aimed towards youth by Brother Nouman Ali Khan,when he is there with you and is not doing anything.Then discuss things which might interest him,fdor example many youngster are fascinated by things like aliens from thereon you can carry the conversation in a beautiful manner about hereafter in sha' Allah.

Never be harsh on them or too strict with them,for it is not for us to guide but Allah is the one who guides,we can only remind people.
If Allah wishes they will take to the reminder and will be guided,if not then even if we kill ourselves out of despair they will not be guided.
So no need to be so distraught my brother,for the power does not lie in our hands but Allah alone has power and the ability.
So be patient with beautiful patience in sha' Allah and be merciful and gentle.All will be well in sha'Allah.

 

[MuslimShadow]

:salam2:

I'm really distraught over my brother (as in sibling). He doesn't practice at all and I really fear for him and his Judgement. He spends (or rather, wastes) all day on FB, Tumblr and other garbage online. He almost never prays on his own and someone (usually me) has to remind him (over and over again). Sometimes he thinks he's slick and goes to pray without making wudu, and went I confront him about this, he'll pretend like he forgot. I want to help him, but I don't know what to do.

walaikum assalam.

Your concern for your brother is appreciable.
First you should try to get his attention away from this FB, Tumblr etc.(This is difficult, i know.)
Give him some useful books related to Islam.Make duaa for him.

 

[Hassan]

wa Alaikum Assalaam

..and treat him kindly.

Jazakallah Khayran for your concern for him

 

[muhammad sabri]

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My Dear you have been given the opportunity by Allah(swt) to get your friend to know Allah(swt) better and get ALOT of good deeds and the love of Allah(swt), so..congratulasions!

First of All i suggest you to remind him of the beloved sacrifices of the beloved life of our blessed Prophet Muhammad(pbuh) and then remind him of jannah and jahannam....also read this thread and get some ideas to boost his imaan a little bit (http://www.turntoislam.com/forum/showthread.php?t=86496) and tell him that for you is very important that he takes the deen seriously and make him feel what ISLAM'S LOVE feels like and last but not least..make Du'a and ask Allah(swt) like this: '' Ya Muqallib al qulub..'' oh Allah(swt) you have power over everything and also over all earths so my Lord guide my friend(i don't know his name ) and get him to know your most perfect Love and Light just like you made me know your most perfect Love and Light for verily i love my friend for your sake and i want him to love you just like i love You my Lord..My Beloved..ya Wadud, Ya Nur( The All-Loving, The Light).
---Be sincere in your Du'a, talk with Allah(swt) as if you see Him(swt) and have faith in Him(swt) and be patient because like Allah(swt) said in the Holy Quran:....''Verily Allah is with the patient ones.''

wajazakallahu khayran