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:salam2: maaf u must not loose hope,keep ur imaam strong in ur heart,ask allah 4 hidayat for him,keep makin dua 4 him allah does answer our duas, u wil see,sabr is da greatest reward,but u must not loose ur imaan keep trying inshaallah allah make it easy 4 u and ur family...:blackhijab
Oem Soufiane
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salaam aleikum wa rahmatulahi wa barakatuh sister,
Firts of all i would like to say i am in almost the same situation, the only thing that's different from my situation is that my husband does pray, but unregularly, I asked the imam what i should do and he told me to have sabr (patience) this is only the case when your husband prays. Your husband doesnt and that is forbidden, because a muslim women can't be married to a kafir and the difference between being a kafir and a muslim is prayer,
Married to a man who neglects the prayer: what should she do?
Question:
Asalama calaykum warahmatullah
I am marreid to a man who is TARIKU salaat I mean he neglects the salaat. when I marreid him i was like him, Alhamdulillah ALLAH has guided me, now I am a practising muslimah. but the problem is him, every salaat he is preying is like I am forcing him, I treid every thing but nothing is working, same people said you have to leave him but it isn't easy I have three childern with him, and he is good father and husband. The problem between us is the DEEN. Please what shoul I do.
Answer:
Praise be to Allaah.
We put the following question to Shaykh Muhammad ibn Saalih al-‘Uthaymeen:
I am married to a man who neglects his prayer. Allaah has guided me and I insisted that he should pray, so he started to pray as if he was forced to do so. He has clearly told me, “I am only praying because of you.” Is it permissible for me to stay with him or not?
The shaykh – may Allaah preserve him – answered as follows:
If the marriage contract was made at the time when he was not praying, then it is not valid, and if this is the case then she has to keep away from him. If he becomes Muslim, the contract is renewed, and if he does not become Muslim, then Allaah will send her a Muslim man who is better than him.
Question:
If she got married to him when she too was not praying, and he was not praying, does this make the marriage null and void?
Answer:
If they were following a certain religion, then the marriage remains valid, but if they were not following any religion and were murtadd (apostates), then many of the scholars say that the marriage of apostates is not valid, because they are not following any religion, neither Islam nor the religion from which they apostatized.
Question:
If the husband who is praying clearly tells his wife that he is praying only for her sake, is that sufficient to count him as a murtadd (apostate), or should she go by what she sees, which is that he is praying?
Answer:
It seems to me that he is praying to Allaah to please her. This does not means that his whole prayer, the standing, bowing, prostrating and du’aa’, is directed towards her. He is praying to Allaah to please her, and that does not make him a mushrik. And Allaah knows best.
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Sheikh Muhammed Salih Al-Munajjid
i hope you will find out what to do and i know its easier to be said than to be done, but choose the right path.
Firts of all i would like to say i am in almost the same situation, the only thing that's different from my situation is that my husband does pray, but unregularly, I asked the imam what i should do and he told me to have sabr (patience) this is only the case when your husband prays. Your husband doesnt and that is forbidden, because a muslim women can't be married to a kafir and the difference between being a kafir and a muslim is prayer,
Married to a man who neglects the prayer: what should she do?
Question:
Asalama calaykum warahmatullah
I am marreid to a man who is TARIKU salaat I mean he neglects the salaat. when I marreid him i was like him, Alhamdulillah ALLAH has guided me, now I am a practising muslimah. but the problem is him, every salaat he is preying is like I am forcing him, I treid every thing but nothing is working, same people said you have to leave him but it isn't easy I have three childern with him, and he is good father and husband. The problem between us is the DEEN. Please what shoul I do.
Answer:
Praise be to Allaah.
We put the following question to Shaykh Muhammad ibn Saalih al-‘Uthaymeen:
I am married to a man who neglects his prayer. Allaah has guided me and I insisted that he should pray, so he started to pray as if he was forced to do so. He has clearly told me, “I am only praying because of you.” Is it permissible for me to stay with him or not?
The shaykh – may Allaah preserve him – answered as follows:
If the marriage contract was made at the time when he was not praying, then it is not valid, and if this is the case then she has to keep away from him. If he becomes Muslim, the contract is renewed, and if he does not become Muslim, then Allaah will send her a Muslim man who is better than him.
Question:
If she got married to him when she too was not praying, and he was not praying, does this make the marriage null and void?
Answer:
If they were following a certain religion, then the marriage remains valid, but if they were not following any religion and were murtadd (apostates), then many of the scholars say that the marriage of apostates is not valid, because they are not following any religion, neither Islam nor the religion from which they apostatized.
Question:
If the husband who is praying clearly tells his wife that he is praying only for her sake, is that sufficient to count him as a murtadd (apostate), or should she go by what she sees, which is that he is praying?
Answer:
It seems to me that he is praying to Allaah to please her. This does not means that his whole prayer, the standing, bowing, prostrating and du’aa’, is directed towards her. He is praying to Allaah to please her, and that does not make him a mushrik. And Allaah knows best.
Islam Q&A
Sheikh Muhammed Salih Al-Munajjid
i hope you will find out what to do and i know its easier to be said than to be done, but choose the right path.
Ahmedkaafi
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Asalamu alaykum
After best greeting of islam Sister i am very sorry to hear what are u saying ,but the question is what about your Husband if he is not praying(Salat) and he doesn,t like that you wear Hijab?subhanalah According to the Quran and hadith your Husband is not a Muslim,any way sister keep in ur faith in islam and go forword, he has not right that you respect him any more untill he become a real Muslim,the muslim is not to have a name of muslim or that you r from a family Muslim,but a muslim is to follow the word of allah and hadith
Ahmedkaafi
Wabilahi tofiq
After best greeting of islam Sister i am very sorry to hear what are u saying ,but the question is what about your Husband if he is not praying(Salat) and he doesn,t like that you wear Hijab?subhanalah According to the Quran and hadith your Husband is not a Muslim,any way sister keep in ur faith in islam and go forword, he has not right that you respect him any more untill he become a real Muslim,the muslim is not to have a name of muslim or that you r from a family Muslim,but a muslim is to follow the word of allah and hadith
Ahmedkaafi
Wabilahi tofiq
Assalam.
I don't know much about this but here is my say. If you tell your husband the dangers of not praying, wearing hijab.... etc. and provide clear evidence from Quran and Sunnah and yet he doesn't want to hear or listen and ingnores you and tells you to do what is against Islam than you can't stay with him.
There is NO obedience when it comes to disobedience to ALLAH. And yes, the only thing that separates a beleiver from one in the state of kufr is prayer.
So I'd say tell your husband the dangers, show him the truth but if he doesn't listen you should leave him and Allah will provide a better man for you Inshallah... whether it is here or in the hereafter.
I don't know much about this but here is my say. If you tell your husband the dangers of not praying, wearing hijab.... etc. and provide clear evidence from Quran and Sunnah and yet he doesn't want to hear or listen and ingnores you and tells you to do what is against Islam than you can't stay with him.
There is NO obedience when it comes to disobedience to ALLAH. And yes, the only thing that separates a beleiver from one in the state of kufr is prayer.
So I'd say tell your husband the dangers, show him the truth but if he doesn't listen you should leave him and Allah will provide a better man for you Inshallah... whether it is here or in the hereafter.
Assalamu Alaykum, please refrain from making Takfir, its a very big sin to do that. It is not your job to say whether or not someone is a Muslim,
These Sorts of questions are ALWAYS posed to a true Scholar with deep understanding of Islam.
Please do not come back to defend your position, all matters of saying whether a person is Muslim or not, is to be done by scholars.
I advise the sister to ask a proper scholar and not use this site to ask such personal and serious questions.
Wasalam.
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