My mom is driving me crazy!!

[Sakeena]

Asalam alaiakum brothers and sisters,

Sighs... today when my mom was driving me to college she began questioning me about how I spend some of my free time at college. She kept telling me that she knew that I was going on TTI and for some reason it's really irritating me that she does this. I don't care that she knows!! I just wish she would leave me alone and let me practice Islam and let me be happy!! She said that she doesn't care about what I do in my "personal life" yet at the same time she does everything in her power to control it. I'm sorry, but I've never met anyone more domineering and difficult and bad-tempered to deal with than my mother!!
I can't stand her!!!

IT'S BEEN NEARLY SIX YEARS SINCE I CONVERTED TO ISLAM AND SHE HAS YET TO SAY ANYTHING KIND OR EVEN NICE TOWARD ME OR MY FAITH!!!!

What am I going to do? I'm so sick of her yelling at me during Ramadan; screaming at me when I cover my hair; fight her when I refuse to attend church or partake in Holy Communion; she takes my Qur'an away and then has the nerve to blackmail me back to Christianity, if I want the Qur'an back I would have to be a "good Christian girl"--according to her twisted faith. it's too stressful and I'm tired!! I don't like being around her anymore!!! It's sad because she's my mom and I love her, but I don't like her. I respect her, but really, I don't want to be around her.

I love Allah, no matter what she does I'm not turning my back on my Lord!!!

Astaghfirullah.

I'm sorry for anything that may seem ill-mannered, I'm just upset about my family, health, other problems in my life...

please pray for me inshallah,

salam alaikum wr wb!!

-Sakeena

 

[sister herb]

:salam2:

Sister I understand your stress very well. When I converted and started to use hijab daily when I went out then over 10 years my mom refused to walk with me on streets as she told she shamed my hijab so much as of hers mind everybody looked me. Of course everybody looked me as at that time hijab wasn´t anything normal here.

:shymuslima1: It felt bad but I kept using my hijab in cause of Allah. It felt bad how my mom was thinking about me during these years but you know; Allah test those he loves.

:tti_sister: I ask Allah to give you enough power to do what is important of your mind even it might hurt people you truly love.

 

[IHearIslam]

Assalaamu alaikum,

*HUG* may Allaah ease your every pain dear sister!

PATIENCE PAYS OFF! believe in that!

subhanaAllaah, I agree with sister Herb.....Allaah does test those He subhanahu wata'ala LOVES! that should make you smile....that atleast Allaah loves you...
may Allaah help you with everything.ameeen

love you sister, *hug*

 

[saifkhan]

Saalam alaikum wa rahamtu-llahi warabarakatuhu

may Allah help you my respected sister. may Allah preserve you like a pearl..ameen
Alhamdu li Allah and indded you are in the right path. sooner or later your mother will come inshaa'Allah, we hope so. but still she is your mother. you cant behave arrogantly nor you cant make any behavior that unplease her.
I think you know the verse of Quran and I dont want to repeat it: if your parents force you to do shirk, dont listen to them only then can you disobey them, but even then you cant leave them alone and not let them feel any ''UUFFF''...hope you unerstand...
I'm not telling you are doing wrong and nothing seems ill-mannered.....just be polite with them , be generous and be kind to them.Inshaa'Allah they will discover the beauty of Islam.

happy to know that you are maintaining things, alhamdu li Allah.
may Allah bless you and your family.
will pray for you, isnhaa'Allah

and Allah subhanahu wa ta'la knows the best
wassalamau alaikum

 

[Sakeena]

Saalam alaikum wa rahamtu-llahi warabarakatuhu

may Allah help you my respected sister. may Allah preserve you like a pearl..ameen
Alhamdu li Allah and indded you are in the right path. sooner or later your mother will come inshaa'Allah, we hope so. but still she is your mother. you cant behave arrogantly nor you cant make any behavior that unplease her.
I think you know the verse of Quran and I dont want to repeat it: if your parents force you to do shirk, dont listen to them only then can you disobey them, but even then you cant leave them alone and not let them feel any ''UUFFF''...hope you unerstand...
I'm not telling you are doing wrong and nothing seems ill-mannered.....just be polite with them , be generous and be kind to them.Inshaa'Allah they will discover the beauty of Islam.

happy to know that you are maintaining things, alhamdu li Allah.
may Allah bless you and your family.
will pray for you, isnhaa'Allah

and Allah subhanahu wa ta'la knows the best
wassalamau alaikum

Wasalam,
I knoow, and I'm sorry if I said or did anything disrespectful... I just get very frustrated and I want to vent sometimes... :shymuslima1: I love TTI and I love the TTI brothers and sisters and I feel comfortable witn you guys mashaALLAH. Just let me pour my heart out please inshallah...

 

[Sakeena]

Grr

Salam, I'm really tired of this!! :angryred: Why does she choose to talk about me to other family members? It's really upsetting and I wish she would stop it! Honestly. We sat down calmly and talked but she always starts yelling and screaming and never listens to me!!
She's smart, Fariha! She has a brain. She can think! She doesn't care, that's all!
She's mean and she's angry that I chose Islam over the twisted faith she was brought up in, by which she herself didn't like when she was young.

 

[yasak80]

Salamun aleykum Sakeena ,
I am going to pray for you and the others like in yr position.
Allah inshaAllah make it easy to you...

All the people born muslim . But by the growing up, people learn what is teached to them.
so maybe you understand what I meant. You are muslim , you didnt change indeed.
It is you.
INSHAALLAH PEOPLE AROUND YOU CAN UNDERSTAND YOU...
ALLAH KNOWS THE BEST

 

[Aapa]

Assalaam walaikum,

Give your mother a break. When she rants and raves simply ignore her. Let her get out her disappointment. Let her heal. She is scared for you. She probably is unaware of Islam. She does not want to see her daughter hurt. She wants her daughter to be normal.
You need to be strong. You need to tell her Islam is the faith that teaches others to respect and obey. Gently, tell her how Islam is making you realize how much she means to you. Show her the Love of Islam and its dealings with family members.
Give her my salaams.

 

[sister herb]

:salam2:

Keep calm sister. All your TTI family pray to you.

:tti_sister:

As I told I have seen same from my mom before. If you like you are free to send PM to me for this matter. I am here to advice you all the time.

your sister in Islam

 

[mohammed_allam]

be patient my sister and give her a good example of your morals as Islam says

Allah said in Al Quran

17:23-24

"And your Lord has decreed that you not worship except Him, and to parents, good treatment. Whether one or both of them reach old age [while] with you, say not to them [so much as], "uff," and do not repel them but speak to them a noble word.

And lower to them the wing of humility out of mercy and say, "My Lord, have mercy upon them as they brought me up [when I was] small."
"



31:14-15

"And We have enjoined upon man [care] for his parents. His mother carried him, [increasing her] in weakness upon weakness, and his weaning is in two years. Be grateful to Me and to your parents; to Me is the [final] destination.

But if they endeavor to make you associate with Me that of which you have no knowledge, do not obey them but accompany them in [this] world with appropriate kindness and follow the way of those who turn back to Me [in repentance]. Then to Me will be your return, and I will inform you about what you used to do."

 

[MohammedMaksudul]

Asalam alaiakum brothers and sisters,

Sighs... today when my mom was driving me to college she began questioning me about how I spend some of my free time at college. She kept telling me that she knew that I was going on TTI and for some reason it's really irritating me that she does this. I don't care that she knows!! I just wish she would leave me alone and let me practice Islam and let me be happy!! She said that she doesn't care about what I do in my "personal life" yet at the same time she does everything in her power to control it. I'm sorry, but I've never met anyone more domineering and difficult and bad-tempered to deal with than my mother!!
I can't stand her!!!

IT'S BEEN NEARLY SIX YEARS SINCE I CONVERTED TO ISLAM AND SHE HAS YET TO SAY ANYTHING KIND OR EVEN NICE TOWARD ME OR MY FAITH!!!!

What am I going to do? I'm so sick of her yelling at me during Ramadan; screaming at me when I cover my hair; fight her when I refuse to attend church or partake in Holy Communion; she takes my Qur'an away and then has the nerve to blackmail me back to Christianity, if I want the Qur'an back I would have to be a "good Christian girl"--according to her twisted faith. it's too stressful and I'm tired!! I don't like being around her anymore!!! It's sad because she's my mom and I love her, but I don't like her. I respect her, but really, I don't want to be around her.

I love Allah, no matter what she does I'm not turning my back on my Lord!!!

Astaghfirullah.

I'm sorry for anything that may seem ill-mannered, I'm just upset about my family, health, other problems in my life...

please pray for me inshallah,

salam alaikum wr wb!!

-Sakeena

:salam2: everyone,

Alhamdulillah and SubhanAllah sister you really make me jealous of you. Allah Subhana Wa Ta'Ala really loves you that is why he is testing you in such a hard manner. Alhamdulillah that Allah has given me birth to a muslim family, where I can practice my Basic Islam with out any resistance. But I still feel jealous, when I think how much Allah loves you and how strong your Imaan is. I pray for you and the Muslim Ummah, so that we all are forgiven by Allah and guided by Him and we all strive hard to establish Islam in this world and seek only the pleasure of Allah. May Allah save us from the hell fire and the cursed Devil's deceptions.

 

[Ahsen]

I have also gone through this situation.I was born muslim but my father knew nothing about his faith,neither he is willing to learn.i doubt if he even knows the shadah.When we(the children) say to our parents that ALLAH told us to do so and so,they start talking about their grandparents,how they were,they never did this stuff and now you are going against the religion.It's very depressing when our own parents are like this.